Are women as visual as men?

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About a week ago in college, a woman told me that her friend who is also a woman has a crush on me. I don't personally know this woman and she doesn't personally know me either, yet she likes me. So that makes me wonder if women are actually just as visual as men. Do women feel lust for men? If women are visual then what looks do you find attractive in a man? Is it his facial structure, body shape, clothing style or all three? I am a straight (heterosexual) man so I am actually happy that there are women that find me attractive. I notice other women in the college stare at me a lot, specifically the women stare at my face. I would only date a woman that I find physically attractive and that has a good personality. I wouldn't consider dating woman that only likes me for my personality, or that she only likes me for my looks. The woman has to like for both my looks and my personality for me to date her. By the way I am actually good at spotting women who stare at me.

itstime47 · Accepted Answer

Its possible that this women who likes you may only like you for your looks but if I were you I would address your friend to confirm this. Unless your friend talks about how great you are than you might be liked for your looks.

And to give you my opinion on your question: I believe women look for a man who is attractive yet has a great personality. I have met so many guys and thought they were attractive but then they open their mouths and I don't know who Im looking at anymore. All women are different and look for different things in a man whether it be their ethnicity, race and religion due to marital reasons. Or their clothes, build, haircut and or scent which gives us a idea of how men carry their selves. There are so many components to choose the "perfect" partner but it all comes down to personality for a successful relationship to work. You wouldn't want to marry a supermodel and later find out she enjoys Nickleback and supports donald trump or something. Women choose good looking men who they would much rather spend 1 night with that have terrible personalities for sex only. Men with desired looks and personality are the "boyfriend material." We are not dumb nor easy, but more or less looking for needs to be fulfilled that could mean intercourse or someone to come home to at the end of the day whether we know it or not (we know most of the time though). So, yes we are very visual but some men can be too. women just want the perfect mate.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it depends on the individual. I am someone who needs to know the person before I'm interested in them. I think that goes down to my social anxiety though. Perhaps if I didn't have it, I'd be attracted by looks alone. All the guys I've ever been interested in were not a certain type. One guy my friends even thought was a total mystery because he was chubby and hairy. However, him and I got along really well, and he made me laugh.

A lot of girls I know though do claim to be in love with guys even though they've never talked to him. One girl I know in particular came to me in tears about a year ago because this guy in her building had a new girlfriend. I asked her if the two of them ever actually had a conversation, and she said no. She said she loved him and he was her soul mate. She pointed him out to me once, and he was a very attractive man. Considering that she never talked to him, I knew it was because of his looks.

A guy I work with is in love with this girl we work with. He has never talked to her. She is a very pretty girl. He talks about how much he loves her, and he doesn't think he can ever find another girl that he'll love as much as her. Most people find it funny considering that they actually haven't had a conversation.

It just seems bizarre to me. My sister used to get like this too. So that's why I think it just depends on the person. I don't think it applies to a certain gender at all.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes women are definitely visual. We find eyes, smile, hair, and body attractive (usually biceps, shoulders, buts - basically what defines a masculine body).
The biggest difference I have noticed is that men will stereotypically want to have sex with anything that looks good. Women stereotypically do not want to have sex until they feel comfortable/safe with the guy which usually is assessed by his behaviour/personality. Women make a stronger connection between love and sex and therefore the whole package matters to her before she will have sex with a guy. Guys however dont require a girl to be the whole package before he will sleep with her as long as he is physically attracted, it is easier for a guy to separate love and sex.
Therefore, women are more picky about who they sleep with and this gives the false impression that women are not visual. They are, but visual appeal is just one thing they look for when deciding whether to have sex.

There of course are exceptions, I am sure...

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

Yes, absolutely. Probably one of the biggest misconceptions about women is that we aren't visual. Of course, everyone is different but very few women would date someone they aren't physically attracted to. I know personally, I have to feel physical attraction in a relationship. Otherwise, I would have no interest in being with that person. That doesn't mean looks are the only thing that matters to me. I wouldn't stay with a guy just because he's attractive if he has a bad personality. However, I value physical attraction just as much as mental and emotional attraction in a relationship.

Bandit74 · Accepted Answer

Women are visual but I don't think they are as visual as men are. I think men are more visual in that they can be turned on more easily by lower quality visuals while women are only turned on by higher quality visuals.

For example think of how men can be turned on just by pictures of boobs, pussy, and in some cases even feet. Women usually aren't turned on by dick pics and in fact are actually repulsed by them unless it is the dick of someone they have an emotional connection to.

Also think of how guys can see an objectively average looking girl in a revealing outfit and think "shes hot, I would totally fuck her" just based on the way she looks.

Girls usually aren't aroused by the sight of average men unless they have an emotional connection with the guy. That being said girls can be aroused by high quality visuals, so if its a male model, athlete, or equivalent then they can be aroused by visuals even if they don't have an emotional connection with the guy.

aficionado · Accepted Answer

Women are as visual, if not more than men. 'Women aren't as visual as men' is a HUGE myth.

XRabbitHeartX · Answer

Depends on what you mean with visual. I thought when they said guys are more visual it just implied they get more turned on by looks alone and don't require a emotional connection to feel turned on while girls often require more of a emotional connection. I definitely do. But I can also see a cute guy and feel "excited" or lust. But not necessarily sexual lust. I only get that after getting to know a guy and when I've formed a connection. But we can most certainly find you attractive, handsome etc.

somebodysaycheese · Answer

Yes of course women are , probably more really. We talk about looks more than i think men do. But we are visually stimulated differently. I would think most of the girls a guy is physically attracted to he is also sexually attracted to. But for most women she can be physically attracted to you and not sexually. for me some guy I think is physically attractive I'm not usually sexually attracted to until I get to know him, but very few times can j be both sexually and physically attracted to a stranger.

Avasimmons · Answer

All humans are visual! That's what our eyes are for!

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, in the respect that we can look at a guy and take interest in him purely for his looks. I think it's a combo of all three things you mentioned, but the face is always the most important (for a lot of women anyway.) also, we look at the way he holds himself. Confidence is very noticeable and therefore very attractive. If girls stare at your face a lot, it could be that you're attractive, and it could be that you just look quirky/interesting or you look like someone they know. You can't differentiate unless you talk to them, really.

Tsgirl94 · Answer

"Do women feel lust for men?" - I would only lust after men whom I already like. I don't lust after strangers. At least, that's how it works for me.

"If women are visual then what looks do you find attractive in a man? Is it his facial structure, body shape, clothing style or all three?" - Yep obviously women will be attracted to good-looking men. For me I look at the whole package, with more emphasis on the facial appearance, followed by body shape. The guy doesn't have to be super buff (i. e. have abs and stuff), he just needs to be tall and fit.

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cmale123 · Answer

Yes women are visual. He is cute, he is hot. Where do you think these expression come from? Gay men? Every person have their own preference on look. I pretty sure you and your friend have different liking on girls. Girl are no different. Some girl want muscular guy, some want nerd. Some want current height, weight, race, even your penis might take consideration

Anonymous · Answer

Of course women are visual. Many people seem to have the opinion that women do not get attracted by visual appearance, but that's not true. Women are just as visual as men. However, even though everyone is different, I believe that women are more forgiving when it comes to physical appearance. That's why you tend to notice more objectively speaking good-looking girls dating some objectively speaking not-so-good-looking guys.

Abe90 · Answer

Women might take your clothes off like the way guys do but they CAN like you based off of looks. But this is a typical attraction trait. When you walk around in public, you don't know any of the women and nothing about them and yet you probably find some of them cute or attractive.

GreatnessRevamped · Answer

Here's the thing, men and women can be both parts.
There are some men who like personality and women who like looks.
Do women feel lust for men?
Yes.

If women are visual then what looks do you find attractive in a man?
Is it his facial structure, body shape, clothing style or all three?

Women all got their preferences.

Anonymous · Answer

PFFTTT FUCK NO.
Looooool. Have you seen some of the genetic shit spillages my soggy gender rides? The amount of stunning women reducing themselves to overweight garbage of the male gender, just because of a few "sweet words". "Oooh, he's such a NICE guy."
Little do this pretentious trashcans realize, is that if she were the ugly one, and he was beautiful, he'd piss in her face the minute she steps within a 30 foot radius of him..

Yes, women are visual.. But not as visual as men. Male beauty doesn't make us as horny as it would do vice versa.

However, I am an exception. I am EXTREMELY visual.. That part of my brain is 99.9% male

Victorianne · Answer

I don't know about other women, but I am definitely a visual person 😈

LonelyLion · Answer

Here's the cold hard truth... no matter what people say woman are just like men... thin about it? who are the guys who get the woman? the popular handsome douchbag jocks or the nerdy boy sitting by himself? I know some guys that are total dicks yet they pull girls while the kids that have good hearts get rejected... Woman care as much about looks as men, don't belief any other bullshit you hear

NexAngelus · Answer

hey lets keep the lie alive :), its more fun when we think chicks aren't shallow like us. and they are JUST like us. some like arms, some like ass. of course face everyone sees so if its nice no one is going to complain. and i agree, looks and personality reqed.

Druid64 · Answer

Of course they are. Check out chick-lit book covers. Bare chested hunky men sell more mommy porn than boobs sell magazines. In both cases sure as hell ain't the prose!

bente2 · Answer

I'd say they are. Every human is a visual creature, no matter how you put it. (Unless you can't see, with all due respect.) I will eye guys down publically.

puncakegirl · Answer

They are visual of course to some extent. I mean I wouldn't date someone whome i consider a bit too unattractive. But I believe men value physical appearance more than women do in general.

MyUsernameRules · Answer

They're actually more visual in my opinion. It's just that when it comes to money, they are willing to sacrifice so we get the wrong impression that girls are less visual.

GOLDpipes3 · Answer

I'd say, yes but not as spontaneous about it? I don't know.

TheAngryBanana · Answer

not as much as men men are more visual in the sense of a healthy looking female for such factors due to if we precive her as healthy she has a higher chance of a sucessful birthing and good genes.

Females are visual to a degree but not as intense as men they genreally speaking look at other factors more such as intelegince, social standings, emotional stance and other more internally based qualities.

anonymus4 · Answer

do you mean aesthetic attraction? It depends on the personality of the person.

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