its probably because you're a tough girl, so he probably thinks you'll laugh or something if he gets all mushy...im the same way, And in 2 years of going out I cried once and my boyfriend actually thought I was kidding...So I think its because you're not a typical girly baby and he doesn't know what to say..
lol, your boyfriend seems like a d***, make him cry, then call him a baby. But srsly he obviously sees you in a different light (call it good or bad I can't say).
Real emotion is something that a lot of guys don't experience in the course of their everyday lives. So for you to bear your soul like that is perfectly disarming.
I'd much rather be with a man who melts when you cry than one that doesn't even seem to notice or one that reacts with a lack of empathy, that's a far bigger red flag.
what the f*uck. that's a little bit out of order. have you asked him about it? maybe he feels bad for upsetting you, or maybe he know's you for being a ''F*** IT!'' type of girl and loves it that you're like that? ask him about it (:
hmm I read other peoples answers but I personally think if I saw a woman who never really cries cry, id think something was really bothering her but maybe he just thinks what you're crying about is something silly? who knows...id bring it up tho.
Lol here's some advice, never let anyone see you cry. I dated a guy once and he cried in front of me. I dumped him. I need someone who has more pride not not cry in front of others.
You are not going to get the *true* answer with us: ask him that exact question and see what he says! Approach him saying, "Why do you comfort other girls when they cry but not me?"
omq I kno exactly how yhu feel my boyfriend is the same exact way I think when we cry they don't like it because they kno its there fault.but when a friend cry they know they had nothing to do whith it so they are glad to help them and when we cry we mae them feel bad and guilty
He is a jerk! My man doesn't seem to mind when I cry either. Maybe he just figures that I'm a total psycho when I cry. I don't cry often either. It shows how weak you r.
my boyfriends the exact same, when I cry he's like 'oh now I'm the bad guy blah blah blah shut the f*** up' its so mean seems like they just don't care huh?
I don't melt, I just feel awkward. I don't really know what to do or how to react when people start tearing up, so I'd just rather make the situation awkward so that I know my input was heard :)
I think Forgetable has the best answer.. but for some reason he's blocked me.. so I've blocked him :D
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Maybe he thinks you don't want him to sympathize? If it was my sister I would flat out say suck it up. But my girl? Well, I'd have to sympathize and tell her its going to be okay. Largely because I don't want an ear full later.
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its probably because you're a tough girl, so he probably thinks you'll laugh or something if he gets all mushy...im the same way, And in 2 years of going out I cried once and my boyfriend actually thought I was kidding...So I think its because you're not a typical girly baby and he doesn't know what to say..
lol, your boyfriend seems like a d***, make him cry, then call him a baby. But srsly he obviously sees you in a different light (call it good or bad I can't say).
Real emotion is something that a lot of guys don't experience in the course of their everyday lives. So for you to bear your soul like that is perfectly disarming.
I'd much rather be with a man who melts when you cry than one that doesn't even seem to notice or one that reacts with a lack of empathy, that's a far bigger red flag.
what the f*uck. that's a little bit out of order. have you asked him about it? maybe he feels bad for upsetting you, or maybe he know's you for being a ''F*** IT!'' type of girl and loves it that you're like that? ask him about it (:
hmm I read other peoples answers but I personally think if I saw a woman who never really cries cry, id think something was really bothering her but maybe he just thinks what you're crying about is something silly? who knows...id bring it up tho.
A lot of us wish we could let go like that, so when a girl does it we're sympathetic. It's weird your guy doesn't react to you in the same way!
Lol here's some advice, never let anyone see you cry. I dated a guy once and he cried in front of me. I dumped him. I need someone who has more pride not not cry in front of others.
What a bitch
You are not going to get the *true* answer with us: ask him that exact question and see what he says! Approach him saying, "Why do you comfort other girls when they cry but not me?"
omq I kno exactly how yhu feel my boyfriend is the same exact way I think when we cry they don't like it because they kno its there fault.but when a friend cry they know they had nothing to do whith it so they are glad to help them and when we cry we mae them feel bad and guilty
He is a jerk! My man doesn't seem to mind when I cry either. Maybe he just figures that I'm a total psycho when I cry. I don't cry often either. It shows how weak you r.
my boyfriends the exact same, when I cry he's like 'oh now I'm the bad guy blah blah blah shut the f*** up' its so mean seems like they just don't care huh?
I don't melt, I just feel awkward. I don't really know what to do or how to react when people start tearing up, so I'd just rather make the situation awkward so that I know my input was heard :)
I think there could be many reasons - the easiest answer is to ask himself.
However it could be something that oftens happends, people don't know what to
when someone close to them breaks down and cries. Specially when that person
might be a strong person. And he might panic for example.
And some of the other reasons did the people below me write.
Try to ask him directly I say ^_^
Wished of luck
you seem like a tough girl so he probably treats you tough. kinda like a bro. be more feminine and scream when you see a lizard, lol
"scream when you see a lizard" LOL
I love to pik up frog, lizards and snakes, but I'm still feminine.
I think Forgetable has the best answer.. but for some reason he's blocked me.. so I've blocked him :D
Maybe he thinks you don't want him to sympathize? If it was my sister I would flat out say suck it up. But my girl? Well, I'd have to sympathize and tell her its going to be okay. Largely because I don't want an ear full later.
I think he doesn't act that way with you, because he's with you. & because he knows what you can get over, and what you aren't gonna let go. you know?
He sees you as an equal. I think he expects more from you (which is kinda a jerk-ish thing to do if you ask me).
I completely agree with Anonymousdude2
You rarely cry or come across as emotional,so when you do,he tells you to toughen up