Obviously it's rude if it's a stranger, but what if it's a friend or someone you know?
Is it wrong to ask a woman how much she weighs?
Obviously it's rude if it's a stranger, but what if it's a friend or someone you know?
The point about why asking a woman her weight is wrong is the same as asking a man about his monthly income.
If a girl asks a man about his bank balance, that shows that she is just interested in his money, and not the man. Similarly, if you ask a girl about her weight, it conveys that you're simply interested in her body, and not her personality.
That being said, it's more of a humiliation for the asker, than being rude to the one asked. However, if it's a casual topic, or one thing leads to another, and the people involved know each other and have no problems regarding it, there's no reason why asking a woman about her weight would be rude. It's mostly rude if you don't know them. And as with everything else, access increases as relationships progress.
A lot of women will find that asking such a question is rather rude. It's not necessarily wrong, but under most context, most women will not take a liking to that kind of question. Usually has to do with their upbringing/culture. We kind of live in a culture where some women are insecure about their number despite the fact that how much they weigh does not indicate their health.
I think this picture explains why asking how much someone weighs doesn't make much sense to me.
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I love this example. Body weight is a very fluid metric.
Muscle weighs more than fat. Weighing more isn't necessarily a bad thing if the majority is muscle weight.
Just a 5lb difference yet look at how much healthier and toned she is. That indicates other healthy lifestyle choices.
Weight isn't the only factor but it's an important part of BMI. This image is all too common in Westernized society: www.funnypica.com/.../...ple-Eating-Pictures-2.jpg
She's fat and overweight, getting mad when questioned about weight is ignoring the lifestyle choices she chooses to indulge in while not participating in healthier activities like fitness or hiking. She chose to surround herself in a culture that perpetuated ignorant lifestyle choices that affected her health.
Meanwhile women like Giada De Laurentiis (46) can have a culinary career and she still looks like she's in her 20's/30's. Weight can indicate what is input into her body: raredelights.com/.../Giada-De-Laurentiiss.jpg
Why don't I see fat women at the natural foods stores and coops I shop at? Processed foods aren't sold there. Yoga and healthy active lifestyle groups are encouraged. There is a focus on overall health instead of quick fixes and bad dieting technique. The culture of ignorance isn't as prevalent.
It can be rude when it's applied to her weight like you're stating and not because your curious. It's not wrong to ask. It depends on why you're asking her. Most women are highly insecure about their weight. I'm underweight for my height myself, but I don't get insecure about it because I know what I eat, and I know that I have a high metabolism. I know I need to pick it up. But it's hard for my body to pick it up. I'm sure if somebody asked you, you would feel a little violated even though you really shouldn't.
Is it also rude when a woman asks about his height/income?
Of course! If there is no logical reasons for it, it's always rude. Especially the income it's not her business unless she gives logical reasons why. When it comes to height as I always said, if it's going to kill the romance don't bother unless you personally want to give it a shot.
I don't give a shit really. But I'm also not overweight.
Lots of people will take it personally because of some kind of cognitively dissonant self consciousness.
If it's a friend then I don't see why she would take it harsh, it's just a question at that point. But you should probably phrase it with tact and in the right context. Such as if the idea of weight comes up and you ask "May I ask you how much you weigh?". At least with that you can give her the option to say she would prefer not to answer.
Best answer.
Why would you even want to ask don't you already kinda see it😂
The question has nothing to do with me, it's just curiosity lol You know I'm curious, though, so even if she's skinny, I'm curious to how much she weighs lol even if it's pointless to know xD
Yeah I know lol
She has the angles
It's not always apparent.
@Wwwyzzerdd the angles?
@Wwwyzzerdd that's not the question. This is the question "Obviously it's rude if it's a stranger, but what if it's a friend or someone you know?"
If we are going to assume then I'll assume I'm attracted to them and have a valid reason ie. will the bolts in the ceiling hold her weight when she's in the sex saddle?
@Wwwyzzerdd what are you even saying?
Thanks mho😊
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I think it depends on why you're asking, and why it's so important for you to know.
If you're really close with her and you share those kind of things with each other then maybe it would be okay (but again depending on why you want to know). She may even just tell you herself without you bringing it up. But otherwise it's probably better to just not ask.
Many women are very self conscious, and if her weight is one of those things that she's self conscious about then it could just be more cause for her to worry about it. You can see what she looks like, and weight really just is a number. I don't think there's really a need to know, just as when I see a guy I don't feel the need to know how much he weighs
Weight doesn't matter, but it really bothers most women it makes us feel self conscious about our bodies and want to lose weight if the numbers are higher than we expected. For example: I'm around 5'8 & 1/2 and when I weighed myself on a scale I was around 120lbs and I was devastated i don't know why that's not a high number at all especially considering my height and the fact that I work out daily and play sports but it just made me feel more self conscious although I know muscle weighs more then fat it still made me feel bad about myself, so if you were to ask me how much I weighed I'd be pretty offended, but I guess it would depend on the girl and how well you know her. If you asked your mom or sister they wouldn't mind because you probably are used to telling each other everything but it depends for other girls.
Hope this helped you out 😁👍🏼
Nothing to do with the original asker's question but I just wanted to say that you are nowhere near being overweight or anything like that.
I'm 5'5" and am currently 135lbs, and I'm still at a healthy weight even though basically none of that is muscle.
You are taller, and your muscle WILL weigh a lot more than fat does. Your weight for your height (even without factoring in muscle) is of no concern, unless you are underweight.
I used to be 120lbs too, and back then I thought I was fat, now though I'm aiming to get back to that weight lol.
I know you can't just stop thinking it, but you really have no need to feel self conscious about your weight. When people talk about ideal weight, they forget to factor in height.
You're fine, try not to stress about the numbers on the scale ❤
Oh yeah for sure! Something that may help; when those thoughts come (like feeling like you actually might weigh too much), speak truth to yourself. Remind yourself that you will be heavier than someone who is 5' tall (unless they are overweight), but that doesn't mean that you are fat. You have more bone mass so you will be heavier than them, but in proportion to your own body you are just perfect. Even just looking online to see what the healthy weight range is for someone your height may be able to help as well
And no problem at all! We are often to harsh on ourselves, so I was hoping to be of at least a bit of encouragement to you. :)
it's still weired
but i guess
lack of testostrones makes women fragile and sensitivie to the cold reality that men face a bit sooner?
It depends on why you ask. I don't get offended when my really skinny friends ask me because I'm really skinny and I know we may have the same problems and can even support each other (bc my weight is below the minimum). It makes me feel bad when people point it out just because, like, I freaking know I'm too skinny, people don't need to dig deeper on that. If you're exercising together or stuff like that it may not be an issue as well but I cannot imagine other kind of situation in which it would be right (besides looking for support/reassurance/help or comparing when exercising in a friendly way).
really it comes down to person to person bases... if it's your partner and your open with each other on that level then it may be ok... but even then she will usually feel self cautious and not comfortable with it. Unfortionitly we live in a world where society shows us that in order to be pretty you have to be this certain weight. You have have to have this certain look and so forth but personally most guys don't get the memo or agree... it's media that makes these stipulations not the average man. Perhaps if we lived in a world where people weren't judged by their weight the women wouldn't care to tell.
ask away I say. it's always ok to ask a person how much they weigh. if they don't like the question, that's on them. not you. it shoiuldnt be offensive to have someone ask you your weight.
this stems from society's need to shame women into feeing like they need to fit a certain size/number criteria before they are valid as a human. Asking a woman for her weight (so long as it's. it used against her at all) is totally ok by me. noonish should be ashamed of how much they weigh
just don't ask. you could really hurt someones feelings with asking and i can't really think of a reason why it is important to know. it is also painful for very skinny people. I've struggled with an eating disorder and was very thin. people asked how much i weighed a lot and that was very painful especially when i was trying to recover
I think it's fine in the context of online dating, especially if she asks about your height first.
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You can tell that chick is fat just from the picture, she has the fat angle shot lol hence why she got offended
It's okay to ask a friend that, if you were already talking about bodyweight or fitness-related stuff. Then it seems like you're just curious. Otherwise, the question feels intrusive. I'd feel like the guy was trying to size me up, haha. Like "are you under the weight limit of women I date?"
I see absolutely nothing wrong with asking even face to face, if a person gets offended by it I think its because they are offended of themselves, obviously they aren't happy with it or feel insecure. Its no different to asking how tall you are. So how is it wrong, unless of course the person is wanting to decade them for their weight which is not the question but the person.
Are you her doctor? If the answer is no then you have no reason to ask.
Right, men shouldn't have standards.
Why not? I'm not your biography author but yet I still ask what music you like
@AleDeEurope That is an entirely different question that would be appropriate to ask and bring up in a normal conversation, because it is not as personal as, say, weight.
Looks should be enough to determine if a girl is healthy or not. Why do you need to ask for a specific number that will probably make her feel embarrassed.
Even if she doesn't weigh much she could still feel embarrassed. For some reason I always feel awkward telling people my weight, in person, even though I only weigh 110ibs.
It's not wrong, but you will probably offend a lot of girls lol. But I'm sure you would have the correct judgement to know if its ok with her or not.
I remember I told the DMV guy my weight when I renewed my license last year and he started to laugh at me and was like "riiiiight" and put me down 20lbs lighter cuz he didn't believe me hahahah
Yes, its wrong if you don't know them. If you know them well and talk about things like this, then so be it.
However, it would be like me asking how big is your penis? I mean what's the point of asking someone something so trivial? Out of curiosity?
I think questions like this open up a Pandora's Box of further questions, for e. g., "So you think I look fat?"
It would be a swerve in terms of questions I would ask someone.
Science helps in that department. Saying "you're too fat" and "you're overweight" are very different things. The first one is obviously an opinion and may not be completely true, but the second one is based on a tangible medical test known as a BMI. Personally I find that it is a way of presenting truth as it is, not how you or I think it is.
@kilmor I understand what you are saying, but to a lot of women, having a normal or even below normal BMI means very little in terms of her attitude toward her own appearance. For instance, I have a BMI of 20.4, which is considered normal. However, I often feel a lot of pressure to become thinner to try and achieve an "ideal" body type that is represented in the media.
Women don't like it.
In my case that doesn't bother me because I'm skinny, but most of girls find it offensive. And anyway, even for me, when someone ask me that, I assume it's because they find me "too" thin and maybe it bothers us, and sometimes it really annoys me. So no, don't ask a woman how much she weights. Anyway, you don't need to know exactly, looking at her is enough to know if you like her body type.
it bothers them*
And it is offensive to men to ask us how tall we are.
If the guy is tall, I don't think he would find it offensive
But yes, that makes sense
I don't think it's wrong to ask, but she also doesn't have to answer. Some people are not comfortable sharing information like that. If people ask me how much I weigh, I usually just say "enough", lol. Not because I'm not comfortable, but because I think it's kind of a funny answer. I'm about 165 lbs in case anyone's wondering 😃
" If people ask me how much I weigh, I usually just say "enough"" LOL and kinda reminds me of my answer for the "so what do you eat" guys at the gym, I be like "ANYTHING THAT TASTES GOOD >_<" HAHAHAHAH.
It isn't wrong to ask a woman her weight as long as you aren't planning on shaming her for being too skinny or too fat. Some woman will be very closed off to that topic and sensitive but personally me I'm just open about it but some people aren't a fan of that topic so just be careful who you ask.
I weigh a hundred pounds and hate being asked what my weight is. After I tell people it usually leads to them skinny shaming me by saying I could use a burger or whatever. I think if I can move and rotate a 400 pound person by myself, I'm doing alright.
Oh yeah there's also the occasional fitness shaming I get. I was walking to class with a classmate and later she complained to another classmate, right in front of me that she had difficulty going up the stairs while I had no trouble at all. Her exact words were, "she didn't even break a sweat." I mean well duh, I have gone running or hiking recently and it paid off.
you an EMT or something?
@BertMacklinFBI nurse assistant. I work at a Nursing facility focused on rehabilitation. Every two hours, I go do my rounds and rotate patients. Throughout the day, I ambulate and move them as well.
my first guess was nurse. damn lol
@BertMacklinFBI one day I will be a nurse and possibly an operating room nurse, if I decide to specialize in surgical. I was taught proper body mechanics when moving someone heavy and that makes it easier.
i hope you make it and wish you luck
@BertMacklinFBI thanks!
I really don't care about the local strength of gravity. Weight is just a number if she's not sitting on my face or in cowgirl, but if she looks fat to me I probably wouldn't be asking her anything anyway and would probably avoid her, regardless if she's got a scale under her and what it would read.
if she is the kind of girl that she wears good and watch out for how she looks like holy shit dont ask lol its like asking a woman how old is she even if she is 10 pounds she would be mad lol. if she is average kinda of girl she wears fine and not really into grabbing attention and to have the spot light on her it should be ok.
Of course it's wrong ! You don't know her personality and what she feels like about her self and you don't know what she is insecure about , besides what's It doesn't matter and it's not important , so if you really care about her , you wouldn't ask her something as a stupid as this.
there's a couple of things my dad used to tell me never ask a woman one you never ask a woman her age and you never asked woman how much she weighs so I think it's wrong to be asking a woman her weight in other words it's none of your damn business and she never ask women things like that for one that makes you look like a damn fool for two makes them feel just like they're fat or something even when they're not it's just my opinion shared by my father
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