Is it wrong to ask a woman how much she weighs?

Question

Usually you hear that it's rude to ask a woman how much she weighs, but are there some cases when it's ok, like if she's skinny?

Obviously it's rude if it's a stranger, but what if it's a friend or someone you know?

Grimfangs · Accepted Answer

The point about why asking a woman her weight is wrong is the same as asking a man about his monthly income.
If a girl asks a man about his bank balance, that shows that she is just interested in his money, and not the man. Similarly, if you ask a girl about her weight, it conveys that you're simply interested in her body, and not her personality.
That being said, it's more of a humiliation for the asker, than being rude to the one asked. However, if it's a casual topic, or one thing leads to another, and the people involved know each other and have no problems regarding it, there's no reason why asking a woman about her weight would be rude. It's mostly rude if you don't know them. And as with everything else, access increases as relationships progress.

johnny_hustle · Accepted Answer

A lot of women will find that asking such a question is rather rude. It's not necessarily wrong, but under most context, most women will not take a liking to that kind of question. Usually has to do with their upbringing/culture. We kind of live in a culture where some women are insecure about their number despite the fact that how much they weigh does not indicate their health.

I think this picture explains why asking how much someone weighs doesn't make much sense to me.

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btbc92 · Accepted Answer

It can be rude when it's applied to her weight like you're stating and not because your curious. It's not wrong to ask. It depends on why you're asking her. Most women are highly insecure about their weight. I'm underweight for my height myself, but I don't get insecure about it because I know what I eat, and I know that I have a high metabolism. I know I need to pick it up. But it's hard for my body to pick it up. I'm sure if somebody asked you, you would feel a little violated even though you really shouldn't.

Nodachi · Accepted Answer

I don't give a shit really. But I'm also not overweight.

Lots of people will take it personally because of some kind of cognitively dissonant self consciousness.

If it's a friend then I don't see why she would take it harsh, it's just a question at that point. But you should probably phrase it with tact and in the right context. Such as if the idea of weight comes up and you ask "May I ask you how much you weigh?". At least with that you can give her the option to say she would prefer not to answer.

catelyntje · Accepted Answer

Why would you even want to ask don't you already kinda see it😂

Norah19 · Answer

I think it depends on why you're asking, and why it's so important for you to know.
If you're really close with her and you share those kind of things with each other then maybe it would be okay (but again depending on why you want to know). She may even just tell you herself without you bringing it up. But otherwise it's probably better to just not ask.
Many women are very self conscious, and if her weight is one of those things that she's self conscious about then it could just be more cause for her to worry about it. You can see what she looks like, and weight really just is a number. I don't think there's really a need to know, just as when I see a guy I don't feel the need to know how much he weighs

BLxox · Answer

Weight doesn't matter, but it really bothers most women it makes us feel self conscious about our bodies and want to lose weight if the numbers are higher than we expected. For example: I'm around 5'8 & 1/2 and when I weighed myself on a scale I was around 120lbs and I was devastated i don't know why that's not a high number at all especially considering my height and the fact that I work out daily and play sports but it just made me feel more self conscious although I know muscle weighs more then fat it still made me feel bad about myself, so if you were to ask me how much I weighed I'd be pretty offended, but I guess it would depend on the girl and how well you know her. If you asked your mom or sister they wouldn't mind because you probably are used to telling each other everything but it depends for other girls.
Hope this helped you out 😁👍🏼

passingby123 · Answer

It depends on why you ask. I don't get offended when my really skinny friends ask me because I'm really skinny and I know we may have the same problems and can even support each other (bc my weight is below the minimum). It makes me feel bad when people point it out just because, like, I freaking know I'm too skinny, people don't need to dig deeper on that. If you're exercising together or stuff like that it may not be an issue as well but I cannot imagine other kind of situation in which it would be right (besides looking for support/reassurance/help or comparing when exercising in a friendly way).

ravenheart1987 · Answer

really it comes down to person to person bases... if it's your partner and your open with each other on that level then it may be ok... but even then she will usually feel self cautious and not comfortable with it. Unfortionitly we live in a world where society shows us that in order to be pretty you have to be this certain weight. You have have to have this certain look and so forth but personally most guys don't get the memo or agree... it's media that makes these stipulations not the average man. Perhaps if we lived in a world where people weren't judged by their weight the women wouldn't care to tell.

tnkgrl · Answer

ask away I say. it's always ok to ask a person how much they weigh. if they don't like the question, that's on them. not you. it shoiuldnt be offensive to have someone ask you your weight.
this stems from society's need to shame women into feeing like they need to fit a certain size/number criteria before they are valid as a human. Asking a woman for her weight (so long as it's. it used against her at all) is totally ok by me. noonish should be ashamed of how much they weigh

sylvie_lois · Answer

just don't ask. you could really hurt someones feelings with asking and i can't really think of a reason why it is important to know. it is also painful for very skinny people. I've struggled with an eating disorder and was very thin. people asked how much i weighed a lot and that was very painful especially when i was trying to recover

Bandit74 · Answer

I think it's fine in the context of online dating, especially if she asks about your height first.

bubblesugarsocks · Answer

It's okay to ask a friend that, if you were already talking about bodyweight or fitness-related stuff. Then it seems like you're just curious. Otherwise, the question feels intrusive. I'd feel like the guy was trying to size me up, haha. Like "are you under the weight limit of women I date?"

RedMatch · Answer

I see absolutely nothing wrong with asking even face to face, if a person gets offended by it I think its because they are offended of themselves, obviously they aren't happy with it or feel insecure. Its no different to asking how tall you are. So how is it wrong, unless of course the person is wanting to decade them for their weight which is not the question but the person.

rgb008 · Answer

It's not wrong, but you will probably offend a lot of girls lol. But I'm sure you would have the correct judgement to know if its ok with her or not.

I remember I told the DMV guy my weight when I renewed my license last year and he started to laugh at me and was like "riiiiight" and put me down 20lbs lighter cuz he didn't believe me hahahah

Sadly_It_Fell_Off · Answer

Yes, its wrong if you don't know them. If you know them well and talk about things like this, then so be it.

However, it would be like me asking how big is your penis? I mean what's the point of asking someone something so trivial? Out of curiosity?

I think questions like this open up a Pandora's Box of further questions, for e. g., "So you think I look fat?"

It would be a swerve in terms of questions I would ask someone.

Afrenchgirl · Answer

Women don't like it.
In my case that doesn't bother me because I'm skinny, but most of girls find it offensive. And anyway, even for me, when someone ask me that, I assume it's because they find me "too" thin and maybe it bothers us, and sometimes it really annoys me. So no, don't ask a woman how much she weights. Anyway, you don't need to know exactly, looking at her is enough to know if you like her body type.

musicbrain5 · Answer

I don't think it's wrong to ask, but she also doesn't have to answer. Some people are not comfortable sharing information like that. If people ask me how much I weigh, I usually just say "enough", lol. Not because I'm not comfortable, but because I think it's kind of a funny answer. I'm about 165 lbs in case anyone's wondering 😃

LovelyFlower · Answer

It isn't wrong to ask a woman her weight as long as you aren't planning on shaming her for being too skinny or too fat. Some woman will be very closed off to that topic and sensitive but personally me I'm just open about it but some people aren't a fan of that topic so just be careful who you ask.

1truekhaleesi · Answer

I weigh a hundred pounds and hate being asked what my weight is. After I tell people it usually leads to them skinny shaming me by saying I could use a burger or whatever. I think if I can move and rotate a 400 pound person by myself, I'm doing alright.

Nate1941 · Answer

Are you her doctor? If the answer is no then you have no reason to ask.

likitb4istickit · Answer

I really don't care about the local strength of gravity. Weight is just a number if she's not sitting on my face or in cowgirl, but if she looks fat to me I probably wouldn't be asking her anything anyway and would probably avoid her, regardless if she's got a scale under her and what it would read.

xxxuknownxxx · Answer

if she is the kind of girl that she wears good and watch out for how she looks like holy shit dont ask lol its like asking a woman how old is she even if she is 10 pounds she would be mad lol. if she is average kinda of girl she wears fine and not really into grabbing attention and to have the spot light on her it should be ok.

EatSleep · Answer

Of course it's wrong ! You don't know her personality and what she feels like about her self and you don't know what she is insecure about , besides what's It doesn't matter and it's not important , so if you really care about her , you wouldn't ask her something as a stupid as this.

iwannalicku · Answer

there's a couple of things my dad used to tell me never ask a woman one you never ask a woman her age and you never asked woman how much she weighs so I think it's wrong to be asking a woman her weight in other words it's none of your damn business and she never ask women things like that for one that makes you look like a damn fool for two makes them feel just like they're fat or something even when they're not it's just my opinion shared by my father

Cruciatusdeatheater · Answer

I don't know how to answer this one. From my experience, when I've asked thin friends how much do they weigh, they answer without a problem, but when it's a chunky one, they get offended/nervous to answer. Friend or not, I'd rather just refrain from asking. They're gonna take it as an indirect way of calling them fat, that is, if they're chunky to begin with.

vpfafouta · Answer

i'm personally naturally skinny and underweight. i used to get made fun of a lot and still get the occasional stares and name calles and be told to "eat a burger" and whatnot. it depends on the person though. if it's a friend and it comes up then it's ok, but i would steer away from it it possible. i get really self conscious about my weight and it takes so much courage to actually say it truthfully.

NormalUser · Answer

I think if you put your words in the right context, you can ask her without offending her. But do note if its way much more than what you expected, be sure to say sth that makes her feel okay about her weight or be weird and talk about ur weight instead to move the attention of the conversation.

hahahmm · Answer

I think it's totally wrong and rude but in the modern age of online dating sites that ask such questions some people think it's normal to ask.

Also women at the exact same height and different weights can all look good depending on body shape proportions, muscle percentage, etc. there is no set rule to what the numbers mean (lot of leeway). Your eyes tell you everything you need to know.

Lady_Frost · Answer

Honestly the only one's who have a problem with this question have some serious insecurities and issues. Don't be surprised if you lose someone because of it - you haven't lost anything valuable. In reverse actually!

I consider asking for how much money someone makes to be inappropriate. That's even much more personal than weight.

Miyumi · Answer

Well I can only speak for myself.. I don't care if people ask me for my weight. It's just a number, you can weigh 50kg and be healthy and weigh 75kg and be healthy.

Of course if the lady (or man) is overweight I'd consider it slightly rude to ask.. but then again it's up to them to tell you that. You can't fill in for someone else.

NeumannCluster · Answer

Personally I wouldn't straight up ask because it's all about delivery. What I do is I lead into the topic of exercise or something related that will maybe get her to tell you which gives you the opportunity to ask. If she's comfortable telling you then she'll tell you. Don't be a judgmental prick; give respect get respect because if you lay foundations of a double standard, you're saying she can ridicule what ever negative triat that you feel insecure about.

aicarg · Answer

I feel it all really depends on how well you know the person and if they personally have any insecurities towards their size/weight. The context in where and how you ask is also important. I for one use to be fairly underweight and at a pretty unhealthy state where it was discouraging and bothersome when people would ask about my weight and how tiny I once was.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

If you have a legitimate reason for needing to know, like you are firing her for some type of equipment, then it's fine to ask. Otherwise, it's more polite not to ask at all. Whether or not she's insecure about her weight, you don't really need to know unless you have a reason why you need to know.

IwanderIwonder · Answer

I don't think there's anything wrong at all.
Like you said, "friend or someone you know".
I ask weight, height, sizes, etc. As long as it's relevant, I don't think there's a problem.

Also, my Awareness in that regard isn't the best so it's usually useful.

Maik567 · Answer

Depends how you're asking it. If you ask it in a way where you are expecting her to be below certain weight limit then it makes you seem shallow. Just like if a girl asked for a guys height expecting him to be over some height limit.

But if you just ask it out of curiosity then I don't see what's wrong with it.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

OK, let's say she's your friend. Its still the same, WTF you asking her, what she weighs? If she's skinny its just as bad, maybe worse. If its absolutely necessary to find out this woman's weight in this photo, I'll get her to sit on my face and weigh her that way, lmfao! Dont ask a woman's weight, age, are those real, your etc...

TripleAce · Answer

It only became rude because there is an attachment with a girl's weight and her attractiveness. Well for good reason too

girls that have no reason to hide it and make a thing about it are just following a nuance that has been set before them. For all practical purposes, whateves

If she has something to hide. Sure then, lets try not to put her in a uncomfortable spot

savalisk · Answer

Nahh. Everyone has dating criteria. Yours is weight, hers is probably height. Its all shallow.

Weight is a better indicator of someones day to day decisions. Their dietary intake. It can be changed. Height is genetic lottery. As soon as your out the verdict is out like... brah, you're gonna be short for life.

JohnDoe3000 · Answer

Only if you're her doctor/nurse/dietician, or as a response in OLD if she asks you how tall you are.

I don't get the logic of having to ask her her weight if you've seen her in person: you've already decided if you find her body attractive and healthy, or not, what point would knowing her exact weight serve?

bubblybex · Answer

i think its kinda rude in most situations, unless maybe your into the gym and training with them, or they ask you first/your on the subject and youve known them for a while and are cumfortable, and you say it nicely, like, 'well youve got a great body shape, how much are you anyways?' but dont just flat out ask them especially if they are very big or very skinny

Phoenix98 · Answer

The joke in the world is never ask about a woman's weight or age.

And if you do bring it up, always do something like guess below what they actually are like how you look good how old are you 20, 25 etc? It usually makes em feel better and makes them more open to answering.

CoolSky01 · Answer

so you can't tell a woman that she's not the most beautiful in the world
you can't ask her how tall she
can't ask her much she weigh
what can you actually ask a woman?

i wil l tell you, you can ask anything you want, her feelings aren't your problem

demonics · Answer

If a woman is that delicate about then its best we end the conversation right there. This isn't the 1950's people have shit to do, and don't have time for these dumb games anymore... like a man is going to suddenly overlook your physical appearance. Even though you lied by omission or outright lied. If you're fat at fuck let people know, some people like that shit. Whats the big deal?

septemberangel118 · Answer

It's along the lines of answering the question of "Do these jeans make my butt look big?" and you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. Some women don't care and some women do. It is easiest to avoid asking that question all together.

melodysong · Answer

It's wrong unless you're a medical professional or a nutritionist and you need that information to assess her health or formulate her diet regimen.
That information is of no relevance to you if you're neither of those things.

jaydtre · Answer

I've never found a reason to ask unless we were on the subject about it in which most cases the girl voluntarily says it anyway. But when I did ask it was usually after kinda feeling her out to see if she'd probably take offense, luckily I've never gotten backlash for it yet. It's kinda like asking a women's age too.

Vicky7402 · Answer

depends on the situation. if it's needed or we're discussing diets or some kind of clothing option, I have no problem with it. Out of no where though... it's kinda offensive

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It's okay to ask a girl how much she weighs if you are retarded, or if you are the pilot and she is a passenger in your small plane. Otherwise, you are asking for trouble.

matheus_mb · Answer

It's not wrong, it's just not advised since many of them don't like it. I just ask when I see that she's not fat. If they mention that they don't like it because they're too skinny I just say that I like it and problem solved xD

JimRSmith · Answer

Interesting question - I'm not sure if I've ever asked a girl that. I don't know how well that would go down, come to think of it. Maybe not all that well.  I've had them volunteer the info, though.

TooskilledforU · Answer

Society says that it is rude to ask women either their age or their weight (but not men... equality much?) I am sure that there are individual women who wouldn't mind you asking, but it would be difficult to determine that without asking them.

gregnator · Answer

I don't think it's wrong. women ask men what they weigh. today's society men and women are equal, so the women should stop clinging on old world things like "expect a man to do this or that for her" or to not ask her age or weight.

Hans222 · Answer

I think you'll have to develop a nose to feel if the question will be sensitive or not... if she has a kilo (pound) too much than don't ask except maybe if she's lost a lot of weight and that's what the conversation is about :D

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

unless your her doctor bro, you don't want to open those cans of worms lol But I don't care if someone ask me how much i weigh, I'm pretty sure a guy has asked me ( i think?) and I told him... its whatever.

Superchick1234 · Answer

You shouldn't ask anyone how much they weigh. Mind your own business. It's not in your place to ask those types of personal questions.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yea its wrong. Just either say "girl you lookin good" or "girl i suggest you lose some weight" and be done. No need for details

mooky06 · Answer

I wouldn't be bothered, but some girls out there can be iffy about that particular question. It's possibly a personal and private question to some

Nyx_85 · Answer

I think it's an odd question personally. I can understand it if you are talking online but in person you can gauge if they are an 'appropriate' weight or not.

HonestGirlAlways · Answer

I don't think it's wrong or offensive, it's just a sensitive topic to a lot of women. A lot of us are self conscious about our weight which is why a lot of girls act like it's offensive to ask, but inherently it's not wrong or impolite.

desireee512 · Answer

Unless you're like her doctor than it shouldn't matter. I personally don't mind telling people how much I weigh but a lot of girls are self conscious about their body and weight so you shouldn't go around asking.

BarbieLola · Answer

It's not wrong to simply ask a women how much she weights. it would only be rude if you asked it in a rude way

ThatDudeWitt · Answer

Bruh, I laughed so hard at this title. You NEVER EVER EVER ask a girl what her weight is. EVER! Unless she volunteers that, you never ask.

goddess87 · Answer

I can say that it is definitely better to ask someone than assume their weight. that usually does not work in your favor

tan_n · Answer

I get super embarrassed about my weight. The guy I like was trying to guess my weight and he was waaaayyyy off. Just don't ask. I don't look my weight and even if a girl is skinny she can still weigh a lot, it is all about your body shape

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