I don't know how to answer this one. From my experience, when I've asked thin friends how much do they weigh, they answer without a problem, but when it's a chunky one, they get offended/nervous to answer. Friend or not, I'd rather just refrain from asking. They're gonna take it as an indirect way of calling them fat, that is, if they're chunky to begin with.
i'm personally naturally skinny and underweight. i used to get made fun of a lot and still get the occasional stares and name calles and be told to "eat a burger" and whatnot. it depends on the person though. if it's a friend and it comes up then it's ok, but i would steer away from it it possible. i get really self conscious about my weight and it takes so much courage to actually say it truthfully.
I think if you put your words in the right context, you can ask her without offending her. But do note if its way much more than what you expected, be sure to say sth that makes her feel okay about her weight or be weird and talk about ur weight instead to move the attention of the conversation.
I think it's totally wrong and rude but in the modern age of online dating sites that ask such questions some people think it's normal to ask.
Also women at the exact same height and different weights can all look good depending on body shape proportions, muscle percentage, etc. there is no set rule to what the numbers mean (lot of leeway). Your eyes tell you everything you need to know.
Honestly the only one's who have a problem with this question have some serious insecurities and issues. Don't be surprised if you lose someone because of it - you haven't lost anything valuable. In reverse actually!
I consider asking for how much money someone makes to be inappropriate. That's even much more personal than weight.
Well I can only speak for myself.. I don't care if people ask me for my weight. It's just a number, you can weigh 50kg and be healthy and weigh 75kg and be healthy.
Of course if the lady (or man) is overweight I'd consider it slightly rude to ask.. but then again it's up to them to tell you that. You can't fill in for someone else.
Personally I wouldn't straight up ask because it's all about delivery. What I do is I lead into the topic of exercise or something related that will maybe get her to tell you which gives you the opportunity to ask. If she's comfortable telling you then she'll tell you. Don't be a judgmental prick; give respect get respect because if you lay foundations of a double standard, you're saying she can ridicule what ever negative triat that you feel insecure about.
I feel it all really depends on how well you know the person and if they personally have any insecurities towards their size/weight. The context in where and how you ask is also important. I for one use to be fairly underweight and at a pretty unhealthy state where it was discouraging and bothersome when people would ask about my weight and how tiny I once was.
If you have a legitimate reason for needing to know, like you are firing her for some type of equipment, then it's fine to ask. Otherwise, it's more polite not to ask at all. Whether or not she's insecure about her weight, you don't really need to know unless you have a reason why you need to know.
I don't think there's anything wrong at all. Like you said, "friend or someone you know". I ask weight, height, sizes, etc. As long as it's relevant, I don't think there's a problem.
Also, my Awareness in that regard isn't the best so it's usually useful.
Depends how you're asking it. If you ask it in a way where you are expecting her to be below certain weight limit then it makes you seem shallow. Just like if a girl asked for a guys height expecting him to be over some height limit.
But if you just ask it out of curiosity then I don't see what's wrong with it.
OK, let's say she's your friend. Its still the same, WTF you asking her, what she weighs? If she's skinny its just as bad, maybe worse. If its absolutely necessary to find out this woman's weight in this photo, I'll get her to sit on my face and weigh her that way, lmfao! Dont ask a woman's weight, age, are those real, your etc...
It only became rude because there is an attachment with a girl's weight and her attractiveness. Well for good reason too
girls that have no reason to hide it and make a thing about it are just following a nuance that has been set before them. For all practical purposes, whateves
If she has something to hide. Sure then, lets try not to put her in a uncomfortable spot
Nahh. Everyone has dating criteria. Yours is weight, hers is probably height. Its all shallow.
Weight is a better indicator of someones day to day decisions. Their dietary intake. It can be changed. Height is genetic lottery. As soon as your out the verdict is out like... brah, you're gonna be short for life.
Only if you're her doctor/nurse/dietician, or as a response in OLD if she asks you how tall you are.
I don't get the logic of having to ask her her weight if you've seen her in person: you've already decided if you find her body attractive and healthy, or not, what point would knowing her exact weight serve?
i think its kinda rude in most situations, unless maybe your into the gym and training with them, or they ask you first/your on the subject and youve known them for a while and are cumfortable, and you say it nicely, like, 'well youve got a great body shape, how much are you anyways?' but dont just flat out ask them especially if they are very big or very skinny
The joke in the world is never ask about a woman's weight or age.
And if you do bring it up, always do something like guess below what they actually are like how you look good how old are you 20, 25 etc? It usually makes em feel better and makes them more open to answering.
so you can't tell a woman that she's not the most beautiful in the world you can't ask her how tall she can't ask her much she weigh what can you actually ask a woman?
i wil l tell you, you can ask anything you want, her feelings aren't your problem
If a woman is that delicate about then its best we end the conversation right there. This isn't the 1950's people have shit to do, and don't have time for these dumb games anymore... like a man is going to suddenly overlook your physical appearance. Even though you lied by omission or outright lied. If you're fat at fuck let people know, some people like that shit. Whats the big deal?
It's along the lines of answering the question of "Do these jeans make my butt look big?" and you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. Some women don't care and some women do. It is easiest to avoid asking that question all together.
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I don't know how to answer this one. From my experience, when I've asked thin friends how much do they weigh, they answer without a problem, but when it's a chunky one, they get offended/nervous to answer. Friend or not, I'd rather just refrain from asking. They're gonna take it as an indirect way of calling them fat, that is, if they're chunky to begin with.
i'm personally naturally skinny and underweight. i used to get made fun of a lot and still get the occasional stares and name calles and be told to "eat a burger" and whatnot. it depends on the person though. if it's a friend and it comes up then it's ok, but i would steer away from it it possible. i get really self conscious about my weight and it takes so much courage to actually say it truthfully.
I think if you put your words in the right context, you can ask her without offending her. But do note if its way much more than what you expected, be sure to say sth that makes her feel okay about her weight or be weird and talk about ur weight instead to move the attention of the conversation.
I think it's totally wrong and rude but in the modern age of online dating sites that ask such questions some people think it's normal to ask.
Also women at the exact same height and different weights can all look good depending on body shape proportions, muscle percentage, etc. there is no set rule to what the numbers mean (lot of leeway). Your eyes tell you everything you need to know.
Honestly the only one's who have a problem with this question have some serious insecurities and issues. Don't be surprised if you lose someone because of it - you haven't lost anything valuable. In reverse actually!
I consider asking for how much money someone makes to be inappropriate. That's even much more personal than weight.
Well I can only speak for myself.. I don't care if people ask me for my weight. It's just a number, you can weigh 50kg and be healthy and weigh 75kg and be healthy.
Of course if the lady (or man) is overweight I'd consider it slightly rude to ask.. but then again it's up to them to tell you that. You can't fill in for someone else.
Personally I wouldn't straight up ask because it's all about delivery. What I do is I lead into the topic of exercise or something related that will maybe get her to tell you which gives you the opportunity to ask. If she's comfortable telling you then she'll tell you. Don't be a judgmental prick; give respect get respect because if you lay foundations of a double standard, you're saying she can ridicule what ever negative triat that you feel insecure about.
I feel it all really depends on how well you know the person and if they personally have any insecurities towards their size/weight. The context in where and how you ask is also important. I for one use to be fairly underweight and at a pretty unhealthy state where it was discouraging and bothersome when people would ask about my weight and how tiny I once was.
If you have a legitimate reason for needing to know, like you are firing her for some type of equipment, then it's fine to ask. Otherwise, it's more polite not to ask at all. Whether or not she's insecure about her weight, you don't really need to know unless you have a reason why you need to know.
Fitting her for equipment*
I don't think there's anything wrong at all.
Like you said, "friend or someone you know".
I ask weight, height, sizes, etc. As long as it's relevant, I don't think there's a problem.
Also, my Awareness in that regard isn't the best so it's usually useful.
Depends how you're asking it. If you ask it in a way where you are expecting her to be below certain weight limit then it makes you seem shallow. Just like if a girl asked for a guys height expecting him to be over some height limit.
But if you just ask it out of curiosity then I don't see what's wrong with it.
OK, let's say she's your friend. Its still the same, WTF you asking her, what she weighs? If she's skinny its just as bad, maybe worse. If its absolutely necessary to find out this woman's weight in this photo, I'll get her to sit on my face and weigh her that way, lmfao! Dont ask a woman's weight, age, are those real, your etc...
It only became rude because there is an attachment with a girl's weight and her attractiveness. Well for good reason too
girls that have no reason to hide it and make a thing about it are just following a nuance that has been set before them. For all practical purposes, whateves
If she has something to hide. Sure then, lets try not to put her in a uncomfortable spot
Nahh. Everyone has dating criteria. Yours is weight, hers is probably height. Its all shallow.
Weight is a better indicator of someones day to day decisions. Their dietary intake. It can be changed. Height is genetic lottery. As soon as your out the verdict is out like... brah, you're gonna be short for life.
Only if you're her doctor/nurse/dietician, or as a response in OLD if she asks you how tall you are.
I don't get the logic of having to ask her her weight if you've seen her in person: you've already decided if you find her body attractive and healthy, or not, what point would knowing her exact weight serve?
i think its kinda rude in most situations, unless maybe your into the gym and training with them, or they ask you first/your on the subject and youve known them for a while and are cumfortable, and you say it nicely, like, 'well youve got a great body shape, how much are you anyways?' but dont just flat out ask them especially if they are very big or very skinny
Don't sugarcoat it, she'll eat that too.
The joke in the world is never ask about a woman's weight or age.
And if you do bring it up, always do something like guess below what they actually are like how you look good how old are you 20, 25 etc? It usually makes em feel better and makes them more open to answering.
so you can't tell a woman that she's not the most beautiful in the world
you can't ask her how tall she
can't ask her much she weigh
what can you actually ask a woman?
i wil l tell you, you can ask anything you want, her feelings aren't your problem
If a woman is that delicate about then its best we end the conversation right there. This isn't the 1950's people have shit to do, and don't have time for these dumb games anymore... like a man is going to suddenly overlook your physical appearance. Even though you lied by omission or outright lied. If you're fat at fuck let people know, some people like that shit. Whats the big deal?
It's along the lines of answering the question of "Do these jeans make my butt look big?" and you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. Some women don't care and some women do. It is easiest to avoid asking that question all together.