How do you respond when someone asks how much you weigh?

[desidoll]

Or a better question is, why do people want to know? My sister and I have encountered this so many times from our friends, relative, strangers online and someone we just know. I thought it is kinda inappropriate to ask, since someone’s weight can be rather personal or sensitive to SOME people just like the age question, unless you are close to them or getting to know each other.

[SamIam96]

Unless it's your doctor, inappropriate. What, it's an opening line for a conversation? No. Is it a perverse need to know? Probably.

There may be circumstances where it's ok. In a conversation where you're discussing your weight contributes something meaningful. I doubt that's why you're asking. And, you'd certainly recognize an acceptable context.

Follow stupid question with stupid question: Did it hurt when your mother dropped you on your head?

[ChiTown33]

I've never really been asked that. But I'd say, "more than you think". I'm 6'5" and gangly looking so even though I'm actually overweight (250 lbs.) people guess me as weighing less than I am.
I would assume they were just being polite. But last time I was at the amusement park the weight guesser (who was very good at guessing people's weight) guessed me at 190lbs. Man I haven't weighed under 200 since high school lol.

[TheMajesticKing777]

No offense but I'd like to know how you weigh as well cause your body type is like curvy but thickish and it's always been my favorite body type if you know the name of your body types, that works too, so perhaps he wasn't being rude tho and just likes the body type as well, but tbh perhaps I'm just weird, you should confront him on it

[desidoll]

I don’t find it to be necessarily rude, but I do think it is strange for a man to ask this lol. For the ladies, I thought maybe they want to reach to a similar built hence they want to know the weight range that they need to target.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Well I've been searching for your body type but no matter what words I type, it never pops up, I would assume that by weight maybe it will work, I don't know how much more specific it can get lol

[TheMajesticKing777]

It's not slim skinny but it's not fat either it's like a settling in between that just looks good on a woman, and with the proper exercise it can shape up the thighs very well too and it's just the body I like the most, personal opinion of course.

[Angelo75]

Well I'll put it like this.
Depending on how the guy acts, it might be also a compliment.

I'm not sure about your body measures. But if I believe that pic, it might be that you "might" have a slightly smaller body than the average western women.
Now comes the thing. If you ran into a guy who is attracted to smaller body times, he might be curious about how easily he can pick you up and do all kind of kinky stuff.

But hey, I'm not saying it is a good behaviour. I'm just saying it "could" also have an unintended compliment in there somewhere.

But it all depends if the guy asks while drooling all over you, or not.

[SweedyPie]

I would answer with how much do you weigh? And when they answer just say okay. Lol. If they ask again say, why do you want to know? And when they answer say ok again. Then change the topic really smooth. I don't know why anyone would ask that. Lol. Weirrrrd.

[NamerOfStars]

I'd just give a sidelong look and say "More than you could lift", but that's me. There are some attributes you can have that will make people ask inappropriate questions, sometimes pretty much constantly. If you don't believe me, ask any guy who's ever gone out wearing a kilt.

The way to deal with THAT situation is to have ready a series of witty rejoinders; questions about weight probably warrant the same.

[Mark987]

If it's towards a women. NO ONE HAS THAT RIGHT TO ASK. I hate that people think they can ask that. With family and relatives they always make stupid comments.. so you need thick skin. Ignore it... or if you have the balls lol.. ask them what happened to you lol

[Кураж]

With the truth.
If I was "sensitive" about my weight, I'd go on keto and lose 30 pounds again, as I did.
Instead of remaining "sensitive" about an issue I refuse to do anything about.

[cookiecrusher]

Nothing wrong with that question

The problem is most of you are lazy and out of shape. While you catfish with poses and certain clothing to lool more fit.

Problem is with you exposing yourself.

Either be comfortable in how you choose to look or do something about it.

[desidoll]

You are saying “most” women are out of shape while you don’t even have your own picture 😂

[cookiecrusher]

I like to preserve my anonymity.
Thus no face picture.

I did have a body pic up for few months, face covered with an emoji, before this broken cookie.

I guess you missed the party😗

No, i am fit as hell, 17 years of parkour and other active skill will do that.

Nobody who is in shape will have a problem with talking about their weight, height, bodyfat and dress size.
(And with no mental illnesses)

[cookiecrusher]

There, i changed it back, for a day, just for you 😗

[desidoll]

Nobody is going to believe that’s you with your face covered and you have been using similar image previously. Anyone can take a bulky guy’s photo somewhere online just for the purpose of bullying others but too bad many of them get caught. I know a lot of builders and none of them go and boast around telling others how they started to train their legs since they were 9 year old 😂 That alone is enough to know if the person is a bad troll. I didn’t get offended at all. You were the one who respond this question with passive aggresive kind of attitude for some reasons. I was just saying someone’s weight is none of anybody’s business.

[cookiecrusher]

That's pretty dumb, not much different than using a face picture and claiming to be yours.

Sorry to dissapoint you lady, i don't want my face out there.

Most of the builders you know aren't natural. Or best case built only in the gym. That is a blown up but not dense muscle, less actual muscle fibres.

Strenght takes time.

At 9 i was thrown into the swimming glass, because i almost drowned in a waterpark.

As a punishment for any talking/hanging etc, they ordered 300 squats on the spot if caught. I got punished a lot 😅. Went there for 5 years. 4 times a week.

Thus, most of my legs were built there.

Of course you are butthurt.
Not anybodies business is a pretty defensive statement. And in that sense could be used against any question.

Why are we acting blind to the elephant in the room?

Damn, we all know that women are very sensitive about their weight, that's no secret. 😅

[desidoll]

There is a difference. With face visible someone can actually do a quick reverse search and find out who you are which is something that you are afraid of. You are not Prince William that people want to rob or aim you. You are just projecting your own reflection when you accused someone for being a catfish. It is because you want to get rid of your guilt. Also, your negging doesn’t work because you made it obvious. It was supposed to be more subtle. Now I have to teach you to be a better “alpha”
I knew the steroid shaming would come along which is why I mentioned builders. You fell for it. Not smart at all 😂 This is a typical men behavior when it comes to their jealousy towards other gym rats. Nobody cares if they are not natural, they still can brag around like you did which they don’t, because all of them that I know are the positive and supportive type, where you are the opposite. You think you can fool everyone here when we have a bunch of men using builders’ image to attract women or to feel superior. I was about to read your reply and take it seriously, but I stopped when you mentioned “women” in general on your last sentence. You screamed misogynist.

[cookiecrusher]

I know about reverse search. And i also know it would take me about 2 minutes to either merge hot face on the original guy or myself. With faceapp or something similar

Making a reverse search to come up with nothing. So as i said, it's really a pointless argument these days.
I could even turn into different gender, race, age etc with pretty great realism.

You know, not posting your face on everywhere online is actually the normal thing to do. This is some new generation nonsense that if it isn't online it didn't happen.
Plus i am retired at 32. Meaning i do have some things to rob.

The point with the steroid guy is that you can't cheat into strenght. It takes time, especially as a natty.
And they most likely are using steroids as you refer to them as bulky.

And everybody with a common sense looks down on steroid users, they really fuck up their health, and for what.

Yes, as you noticed i was using a broken cookie pic to attract women. While i never DM or harass anybody.

I did also mention asking about height along with weight, bodyfat and dress size, few comments back.

And as we know it is a common kryptonite for men.

So nothing misogynistic about it.

I do detect some misandry coming from you however 😗

[Apple1996]

Usually just tell them a number cause I'm not sensitive about my weight. I'm a little chubby and everyone else can see that so sharing the number isn't a big deal.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I usually either give a pretty vague answer or I just simply state I don't know how much I weight or I literally don't answer the question because not unless you isn't my doctor it definitely not your concern.

[OneNineZero]

I would give them the number I dont care if they would make fun of it or would be happy to know how fit I am that part won't bother me at all
I am 70 by the way I am fit not fat

[Still-alive]

i wonder if its a malaysia thing cause its definitely rude to ask that of women here.

[desidoll]

If women ask, I can understand because maybe they want to lose weight or to guess how much they need to weigh to have the similar built. Men asking? That’s strange.

[Still-alive]

like this happens irl? or online only?

[desidoll]

Both. Yesterday I had a coffee and chit chat with this guy friend of mine from facebook, and he started to ask me about my weight lol.

[Still-alive]

weirdo lol. what did you say? did you just get up and leave?

[desidoll]

No, I just told him how much I weigh lol.

[Still-alive]

did he end up being kinda weird though or was he ok regardless of that question?

[desidoll]

No, he is actually an insurance agent and my sister is doing the same thing as a part-time job so we mostly talked about it and some other general stuffs but yea that weight question was an unpredictable one lol.

[Still-alive]

is he an ethnic Malaysian guy?

[desidoll]

Yea, he is.

[Still-alive]

yeah so i wonder if its just how dudes are there. they don't think its rude to ask that

[desidoll]

Oh yes, they will even comment on your weight lost, or if you have gained weight and all. I guess it is a culture thing.

[neoagent1]

No man who knows ANYTHING about women knows you NEVER ask a woman how much she weighs unless you're married and have to fill out some kind of medical form.

[NathanDavis]

I respond with a round number... 200 pounds (or 90 kilos)

[Anonymous]

Tell them. If that makes them like you as a person less then they are shallow. If it is a date then that is different. That person wants to know what they are signing up for.

[Xtendable]

Good question. It’s like they’re trying to compare sometimes

[desidoll]

This question mostly comes from men lol so I thought it is strange.

[Xtendable]

I would never. Somethings are just out of bounds

[Andres77]

If it's a guy it's because he's hinting to you that he wants you to sit on his face.
Girls are just jealous bitches.

[Creampiekarl420]

Like 200 something now I’m trying to maintain this weight while adding muscle it’s super hard I had to start taking nitric oxide supplements and melatonin so I’ll get enough rest

[Account]

52 kg. I don't care answering it, I didn't care even when I was 42 kg, I didn't care when I was 65 kg.

[ilovecurvychick]

Says a woman who uses half photo of herself lmao.

[Account]

Umm why would I use a full photo on an advice forum?

[libsaretards]

Who the fuck asks that? My weight is one of the very very few things I hate talking about.

[lrina]

people often ask out of curiosity i think, i don't think there is much else to it. but i usually just respond with my actual weight, idrc if they ask.

[douride2]

Depending on who it is I either tell them or I don't.

[Babygirl_S]

I tell them my weight. It doesn't bother me as I'm healthy.

[ilovecurvychick]

Another lady who uses only the pic of her head but claim herself as healthy.

[Babygirl_S]

I don't have to prove you anything loser.

[Babygirl_S]

Many people have seen my body pic before.

[Babygirl_S]

And your English sucks.

[Jude_Wills]

@ilovecurvychick Your user name said all things, why you want to see body...

[Likes2drive]

14 stones, if they figure that out then they will know but no one ever asks

[princeofromance]

This is how you respond. Why? How much do you weigh?

[Waldoe]

I would say "That is an incredibly Rude thing to ask, who taught you how to behave?"

[Guanfei]

The truth. I'm fat and I know it, it's obvious, no need to pretend

[Chthou95]

There's nothing wrong with that question. Women ask men how tall they are, why can't this question be asked? You get offended over something you can change

[desidoll]

I have never asked any men their height so I expect the same in return. Don’t paint me with the same brush when you don’t even know me personally. I am not offended at all because I am not overweight but how heavy am I is none of anyone’s business.

[Chthou95]

Congrats sweetie you're an exception or using yourself as an exception. a lot of wonen do ask men about their height though which is fine. But men should be able to ask about a women's weight. If she gets offended, tough shit. Wonen can change and do something about their weight. Freedom of speech is a thing & peoole can ask you anything you want

[Chthou95]

They*

[Anonymous]

i literally just say "don't worry about it". And people ask me that a lot. It's annoying and nobody's business.

[exitseven]

Somewhere between 200- 205.

[RealMarek]

”100 and none of your business.”

[gabby100]

I just say too much..

[ms_and_ms]

I gave the guy who asked the finger

[motownplayer2000]

Tell them. Don’t give a fuck what they think

[SignedAutographs]

None of your business

[Starwitch23]

I tell them

[ilovecurvychick]

Where’s your full photo? Show your fit body if you are really confident about it.

[Iron_Man]

Tell them how much do you weigh then walk away

[Anonymous]

I tell the truth.

[Tegass]

I tell my weight.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

ask me

[fireforeffect]

I tell them.