Did he indirectly ask me out? Why would a guy indirectly ask someone out?

i've been talking to this guy for a while and he flirts on and off and we talk pretty much every day. today i mentioned i went to this vietnamese bistro after my yoga class. he responded with something along the lines of "i could be convinced to try vietnamese eventually. i've never tried it before." was that indirectly asking me out? i didn't realize it when i responded so i just said something stupid and then he just stopped responding.
if it was then how do i rebring up the subject?

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Most Helpful Guy

  • It sounds like he was asking you out.
    If you are interested you could always just tell him straight "you still wanna try out that bistro btw"?
    Any guy fears rejection. It tends to break down their confidence in themselves or if they genuinely like the girl and a straight out rejection would hurt.
    Indirectly asking someone out is a reflex so as to prevent him from being too hurt if the answer is a no.

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    • it honestly didn't even occur to me when we were talking that that was it... now i feel mean and that i screwed up!

    • If you are interested in going out with him, try the bistro. If not be careful with the interaction cause it might raise his hopes regarding a relationship

    • Then again i dont know the guy so i can't say i am always right. Some are emotional while others are not

Most Helpful Girl

  • I don't know why men do this, it's happened to me as well.

    Just talk to him in private and ask him, did you ask me out because I was going to say yes. And if he says no, then just say oh sorry my bad.

    And after few days things will be back to normal.

    Don't live your life not knowing what could have happened. It's too short. He might be perfect guy.

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What Guys Said 8

  • i don't think he was indirectly asking you out. but perhaps he was... just doesn't seem like it to me. sounds more like one of those inner monologues spoken allowed

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  • Steer the conversation towards food then 'remember' he said he'd like to try Vietnamese food.
    Is he up for it? Would he like to try on as you were thinking about going to?
    If he doesn't take it seriously, move on and drop it.

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  • This is how you ask him out while letting him think he asked you out.
    "The bistro was nice, but maybe we could try somewhere new"
    On cue he'll ask you to go to _______ cafe

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  • That doesn't sound like an indirect invitation, more like him playing it cool of haven't done it before but not closing himself to the opportunity if it ever arises

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  • He was thinking out loud. It’s a common male thing.

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  • If you want to go out ask him. What have you got to lose?

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  • Ask him if he wants to go?

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  • His best way to try to avoid direct rejection

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    • so do you think this was him asking me out sort of or was it just conversation-making?

    • I think he's just trying to test the waters, see what you MIGHT say

What Girls Said 1

  • He is testing the water

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