If a girl sits on a guy's lap, is that always considered flirtatious or mean that she's sexually interested in him?

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We were having this debate in the staff room at work last night. A male nurse said that at a party on the weekend a girl he'd been casually talking to sat on his lap at one point (she said because no chairs were left), and so he assumed this meant she was sexually/romantically interested in him and trying to make a move. This turned out not to be the case, however! I don't personally think that just sitting on a guy's lap who you're not romantically involved with necessarily means you're flirting with them or interested, can't it just sometimes be playful and innocent? The general consensus at work seemed to be that it's ALWAYS considered "making a move" if a girl sits on a guy's lap. What are your thoughts?

Messiah89 · Accepted Answer

The problem with this entire scenario is the words used ( playing) okay see really what this question hangs on truly is who's lap she sitting in... since we know women ( play) lol it not fair to assume she is doing so either way it's the guys reaction who lap is he already interested or just always sexually active or does he have a happy relationship an knows this gal is always playful towards him cause he ignores it an may be jealous of his bond etc XD XD XD of course it's flirting girls are naturally flirty.

capturemyheartnow · Accepted Answer

It does not mean any sexual move. On the top it builds trust because it is an uncommon move and hence only trusted people are allowed to do so. So if the situation demands it , there is no harm in doing it. Because having a place to sit is more important than giving space for sexual thoughts.

DevikaButts95 · Accepted Answer

I would sit on friends' laps, guy or girl, without any interest in them.
But like, if I were at a party and sat on a guy's lap, I can't imagine I'd actually be making a move like that, but I'd expect him to think that I was making a move. Honestly I'd think she must have lost interest in him talking with him or something.

MiAmora · Accepted Answer

What? No! I like to sit on my cousins lap. Does it counts? What's up with thi sthing. It's not showing any sexual signs

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I always thought it meant something sexual but that's just me, i always think something's more than it really is 😅

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nope. I sit on my guy friends before and there was zero sexual attraction

WalterBlack · Answer

In the context of two adults, I'd say it is very flirtatious but not overtly sexual. One of the most easily recognizable signs of flirtation is putting yourself in someone's personal space (you know, the invisible bubble that extends out to arms length on all sides of you). People who are flirting will often touch the other person's arm while they are talking or make physical contact in other subtle ways. Sitting on someone's lap clearly puts you in physical contact with that person. I think it sends the message, "I'd like to get to know you better", but not necessarily "I want to fuck you tonight".

DrMouse · Answer

It depends on how old the lap sitter is I guess. Like my nine year old cousin can sit on my lap and nobody will think twice about it. But if some girl my age did that I'd think she was interested in me. I wouldn't let her sit there if we weren't already dating, but still.

Spelling95 · Answer

If you sit on my lap I'm taking it as a sexual advance. If you dont mean to make it a sexual advance, state so and then ask for permission to sit on my lap. But I'll be popping a boner either way, so you'll have to deal with that.

404filenotfound · Answer

I'd say that if someone's going to invade someone's personal space or breach their boundaries that it most likely constitutes some sort of desire for intimacy.

backtoblackkkk · Answer

It means she wants the D? Lmao I know I don't sit on a dude's lap if I'm not attracted to him.

youngatyeart · Answer

I would say that most times the girl is sexually interested in the guy.. The times it has happened to me I've always felt the girl wanted more. A couple stayed on until they game me an erection.

Have you done that to some men, recently?

steveguitar · Answer

I would definitely say usually. Unless it is your dad's lap and you are 3 yeas old

Anonymous · Answer

Yes you are directly sitting on his privates it's sexual

moonman446 · Answer

I would say no, but the relationship has to already be established and clear between them... otherwise it can be considered as flirting

yashjoy · Answer

if there's no where else to sit then she doesn't have n choice n obviously trusts him

AlphaStyles · Answer

it depends on the position for me sitting on my lap and facing me is the main deal

sexcrazy123 · Answer

a girl, especially like in the above, sat on my lap, we would speak of the first thing that came up LOL

Anonymous · Answer

If the question is some version or variation of "Girl on my lap", the answer is always YES.

Kelly6 · Answer

its sign of sexual interest,

Arya_Christ · Answer

Yes, it's always a sign of sexual interest.

CT_CD · Answer

Means she's claimed him

Justin85283 · Answer

So did you sit on a guys lap? Did he get hard?

Razal · Answer

Yes, it's always a sign of sexual interest

If a girl sits on a guy's lap, is that always considered flirtatious or mean that she's sexually interested in him?

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