How should a woman avoid being used for sex? (Page 2)

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How should a woman avoid being used for sex? What are some best practices for filtering out guys that don't want a commitment?

kaylaS91 · Answer

Asking guys if they want commitment and maybe not sleeping with them till after the first few times you guys hang out to ensure they're being somewhat honest is a good way to minimize your chances of being used exclusively for sex.

MartinMarinov · Answer

Date nice guys and nerds they won't want to lose you for sure. Haha, no seriously be more reserved, well if you are good looking, if they want only sex they'll give up, but if you are not it would be hard.

omolola94 · Answer

Be independent. It chase away a lot of guys that don't want Commitment.  Ur dressing also matters. Serious men go for ladies who dress well.

Heythere2013 · Answer

Don't do anything sexual right away, no matter how charming/flattering the guy is. Also avoid shallow people.

CindyRuns · Answer

Real simple... I've never slept with a guy until I was going out with him for a couple of months, knew him well and had an emotional attachment to him.

bondobilly · Answer

Don't date fuck boys, don't put out until the 4th date (lots of guys have a 3 date rule), ask questions about his beliefs. Personally, I have a 3 date rule, I'll cuddle in a bed over night (even neked) but no sex until date 3.

loveout · Answer

Focus on the guys that are patient and who don't disappear despite you holding out. If they like you for you, they won't mind waiting to be intimate with you.

RationalMale · Answer

1. Dont date thugs or playas.
2. Be honest with pics on dating apps.
3. Don't do nasty things like pretend you want to break up to "test" him.
4. don't sleep with bad boys or have casual sex in your prime.

Anonymous · Answer

Pretend to be a lesbian and the guys that stay friends with you want to hang out enjoy hanging out with you hence don't just want sex.
They'd also probly be more open with you as they dont see you as someone they need to impress more like a per in a way.

DeeperMeaning · Answer

Don't have sex with them and discuss you're wanting a serious relationship early on.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

Be extra vigilant and make them or us wait. I've got a daughter and that's what I used to tell her. So guys, don't hate me for trying to protect the young ladies. Plus I don't mind a good chase.

TerrierSaurus_rex · Answer

Stop it stop it stop it. Stop trading commitment for sex. Stop. Let's say guys want sex. GIVE THEM SEX. Let's say girls want love. GIVE THEM LOVE.

anthony21 · Answer

So here's the thing if your a woman and don't want to be "used" you have to really know that person, as in you must know their sexual interest ex. If they're saving themselves for marriage or if they want a relationship that won't push either one of you over the edge

HOAAH · Answer

Straight up tell them that you only want a real relationship, if they want the same then warn them that if they don't treat you right your God will throw them in hell.

Anonymous · Answer

Choosing good men would be a start, and also reading situations and how the guys behaves would tell you a lot about him and his intentions

bluelantern · Answer

Getting to know the guys before jumping into bed with them.

melodicstacey · Answer

I pretty much stay home (other than work or tasks) and avoid all potential contact with men looking to date. I'm perfectly content being alone.

RachelleDraws · Answer

Wait about a month or before sex, that way if the guy/girl is only after sex, (s) he won't get what (s) he wants and will break up.

zeraq · Answer

Get to know him before having sex with him. And when all you talk about is sexs, then that is all he wants , aspecially if he is always the first one to start talking bout it

WalterRadio · Answer

Convince every other woman in the world not to have sex with a guy who doesn't want to have a commitment.

TheSpartan · Answer

The best way? Don't have sex with a man until he's given you a ring and walked down the wedding aisle with you, while the priest declares you husband and wife. That's the only way you can be sure.

KeepHerWalknFuny · Answer

The easiest way make them wait a month. " If women realize their power they have , you know how many businesses would close tomorrow"

jboyohsotrue · Answer

Stick right beside the guy to hold him most of the day after first session and ask him first are you looking for a relationship or is this a one night stand cause your cheating if no to relationship POQ or help him cheat intending on more

jake007 · Answer

Follow God's direction and you will meet the right person who will actually love you not for sex but for true love.

Ryno13 · Answer

If he wants a relationship he will wait to have sex on your terms.

fhziljio · Answer

Make certain, that you are a woman, who has to offer more than sex.

Dio1982 · Answer

As others have said... the simple minded guys with a rather terrible personality who only want sex can be mitigated by holding out.

fairies6060 · Answer

Tell him right off the bat that you don't work like that and if he wants to have sex with you he's going to have to prove that's he's worth it

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Wait a while before having sex.  You tell him that you're waiting and if he's 100% okay with it and doesn't rush you, he actually has feelings for you.

TheBootyChest · Answer

By being up front with them after you finished making out with them that you don't plan to have sex for awhile or get to know them enough.

blondfrog · Answer

Be a better judge of character. There are little subtle hints you can pick up on bad boys in order to avoid them. It's just that most women can't pick up on these signals no wonder 25% of women end up getting abused some point in their life.

FakeName123 · Answer

By keeping your legs shut until you get into a serious relationship.

TripleAce · Answer

Don't have sex lol Omg who would of though it was that easy

howzit2015 · Answer

By not giving them sex in order to get their attention. By getting to know them, and assessing their and your interests.

MimiHashima · Answer

Set strong standards for yourself early before going in a relationship that can't be compromised no matter the person..

jumpingbeans · Answer

Dating nowadays is a players game. SAYING NO to DATING is the best answer.

Snuga2Allie · Answer

What about girls who use guys for sex? Lmao. Jk. Or am I?

HikerDude · Answer

Don't have sex with guys like me. As the saying goes, no guy ever got a six pack to have sex with one girl.

tyber1 · Answer

Just know what kind of person he is. Not just how he interacts with you, how he interacts with other people as well.

maestrodematimaticas · Answer

By making them wait AT LEAST 3 months before sleeping with them. People can be fake for days or weeks. Not months. Also gives you time to figure out if they are even relationship worthy.

Nice_Guy_Last · Answer

It really boils down to your preference in men. Certain characteristics and traits are associated with others. Understand those connections, and you'll understand dating.

Rawr80 · Answer

Simple. Tell the person you are with that you have a 3 date rule. Then stretch out your dates over the course of a month. If he bails then you know. With the dates, dinner and a movie don't count. Try someplace in public where you both can interact.

xJe33x · Answer

Don't have sex with him... but really though ultimately men are going to always be men and women are going to feel rejected. The only thing you have control over in regards to anyone else is your own self.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

It’s simple, don’t go on any dates or don’t leave the house or socialize with guys.

Ellie2432 · Answer

Be clear on what you want, be firm but at the same time be nice and open about things

ummidk347 · Answer

Ask them and be straight up? Not all guys want to use you for sex by the way.

romeo_and_cats · Answer

Interesting question: this is why so many women don't know what/who they want? hahahah

Gray42 · Answer

Don't give in right away, and see where his eyes follow, I guess?

ItsMrMg · Answer

Say no, or give attitude he will just get that vibe and get the hint if not than I'm not sure

Anonymous · Answer

best practice is not having sex until he makes things official for filtering out guys that don't want a commitment.
Tell him no sex before commitment and if he sticks around really stick to your words don't cave in

Irmacoming · Answer

Really simple don't fuck someone until at least one month of talking.

None18am · Answer

No matter how hard you try to avoid being used you might end up being so. Some people you give your heart to treat you awfully, and some treat you better than you could have ever imagined.

Natividad · Answer

Dont open your legs? How hard is that? I don't pull my dick out when i do not want fuck. It is easy, no offence but you kinda sound easy if you do not know how to say no.

Anonymous · Answer

Dont have sex outside of a committed relationship. Get tested with your partner before hand. Communicate what you want before hand. Be straight up

ScottyBoy02 · Answer

Just say no to him and stop sleeping with him if u feel like ur being used. Duh. 😂

Cosytoasty · Answer

Don't date men who are good with women and have multiple other options.

pascal_greece · Answer

If you don't behave like a sex doll, but you are being interesting, then you will be more than sex object.

kw6554fgu · Answer

By finding a guy that respect women and want to love her like us real guys

Djaaay · Answer

Avoid the dating process altogether like I have since 1978. LTR only and commitment straight up or never. I've never been outside of a LTR or Marriage. Simply weeds out the weeds in the garden.

TJDanger · Answer

Mention that you actually want to get married and have kids.

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