How should a woman avoid being used for sex?

Question

How should a woman avoid being used for sex? What are some best practices for filtering out guys that don't want a commitment?

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

My advice many will hate me for saying it, by I don't care:

1. STATE YOUR INTENTIONS CLEAR! From the very beginning before you say YES to a date. Let them know what you are looking for. And if they don't like it, they can leave.

2. NEVER, give out your number to complete strangers. If they are interested, let them know you want to be friends first to get to truly know them before you decide if that route is right for you.

3. Like with #3, if you are waiting till marriage to have sex, make that statement clear, seriously and firmly what will and won't be allowed done while and if in a relationship with you.

4. Ask them what is the reason why they are asking you out, etc. Never assume. But prepared of what is being said, watch for body language.

5. Always remember the #1 reason why men pursue women is because of sex, unless he is also waiting.

6. Stick to your morals, principles, and views. Don't let anybody intimate you or pressure you to do anything you don't feel comfortable with.

7. Stay away from guys checking you out lustfully.

As long as you remember all of these things, you are less likely to fall into sexual temptation. Even if you are interested in dating among friends, you still have to truly get to know who they are in their private lives. Because their private lives are what you are going to really see once you date them. If their private life conflicts with your own, that is a clear sign that they aren't for you. You don't have to have the same interest, but you don't want conflicting interest and views that you disagree with. Remember that you cannot change them.

Nyx_85 · Accepted Answer

For one, don't hang out with a guy you're dating in private unless you are ok with the idea of having sex with them. Second, listen to him. Some guys will echo "Yeah I want a relationship too!" if you tell him that's what you're looking for, even though they don't mean it. Don't give him your 5 year plan on the first date. Keep it fun and casual for the first little while. Arrange dates that involve going out and doing stuff. Not hanging out at each other's places. As things progress and the conversation gets more serious he will tell you (or at least hint to) what he wants. LISTEN. Don't ignore him if he says "I'm not looking for anything serious right now" because you've made up some fantasy in your head. You can't change him or his decisions. Move on. Trying to have a relationship with someone that doesn't want one is simply about your ego. Proving to yourself that you are desirable. Somebody wants you. It's just not him. Get over it and stop wasting your time.

And sometimes people CAN be interested in the idea of a relationship with you but once they get to know you better they realize you aren't that compatible. If you've slept with a guy and things don't work out it isn't always because he 'used' you. And even if he did accept that you made your own choices. You're an adult. Put in your big girl pants and brush yourself off.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Be someone's potential wife. Cause as if your that person to them, no matter how long months or year will pass. They will wait. The more they get to know you, the more they see your worth.

A wife is someone whos respected, better girl version of boys self.
And of course, in everything even in bed, if you can't make them wait for sex, let them see that u respect yourself even in bed

Wife figure manage desires to make sex interesting gives spices, not someone who makes herself like sex object

And of course a wife, is always respected in everything,

Cause she give and make his guy feel respected and the best

If u made a guy fall in love with you, your worth as a girl is much more higher than as sex object

Your someone in position to be in control, and be her queen, cause even a king, only stays for his one and only queen.

Corny yep but its a metaphor, learn about this,

I've got all 6 exes, they all waited. Cause they respect me, will you believe im still virgin, I've got all the flowers and chocolate with all of them

I've got a relationship with a guy for a year without sex or even oral.

Pure kiss, nothing more

Thats what respects for.
They will stay no matter how long, cause u are worth waiting. Worth than everything to them.

cclulu · Accepted Answer

It is okay to tell them "no" if you do not feel comfortable nor trust him. It is okay to tell him, "it is tempting, but -- " what you're looking for is "another date" because it is not that he is not desirable (if you are dating him), but it is not something you are ready for yet.

If he is just a random dude, just run girl. walk away. LOL! Creepier alert.

Preferably get to know him and not engage with much sexual topics. It might come up, but it keep it low key. Firstly, try to see if he's a potential partner and even if he does seem like it... still get to know the person longer and see if your compatibility is strong.

HGG3805 · Accepted Answer

Well you could talk to your prospective mates. Make it clear what you are looking for. Get to know you guy. What does he want from life?

Everyone wants to have sex. It's a natural urge and good for what ails you. Giving it away in hopes that your guy will be your white night obviously is not working for you. You sound like you are not doing it for pleasure.

I suggest at your current age, you really should examine what you want out of life. Sounds like you want a guy to make a commitment to you one way or the other. What is it you really want? A husband and a family? A companion? A house and car in the country? Sex? By the way when you say Sex to a woman she thinks Love. When you say Love to a guy he thinks Sex.

I'd say you have been using sex in hopes of trapping a mate. We guys have a joke that we tell new husbands. Get a bag of beans and put one in a jar every time you have sex that first year of marriage. Beginning year two take a bean out of that same jar every time you have sex. And notice how many years it takes to empty that jar. Sex should not be used as a tool unless you want to charge for your time.

fashionguy17 · Accepted Answer

What I am about to post isn't a jab at you, it's something that I see in general-

-Stop posting Instagram photos half naked
-Stop posting sex related memes
-Stop dressing with your boobs and titties half out
-Stop posting club snapchats of you dancing with your girls, slapping their asses and touching their titties

If you don't do any of that kinda stuff... great! I see too many women doing that these days, and I don't see them as girlfriends... I see them as quick hook ups. So, to avoid being in the hook up category, stop with the social media foolishness and respect yourself

ThisDudeHere · Answer

By getting to know the guys before getting into bed with them?

GingerGuy · Answer

All of us (guys to) are taking some sort of risk with every relationship but I think there's two things women do/don't do a lot.

1) Communication!!! This is lacking so badly most of the time. Ask him what he wants out of the relationship and tell him what you want/expect. Yes, it's possible he might lie about it, but I think for the most part guys won't if you directly ask them and don't beat around the bush or make assumptions (assumptions - another common mistake I believe).

2) All guys will want sex, but I think a lot of women make the assumption because we go right after it right off the bat, that it's ALL we want. Not necessarily true. Again, don't make assumptions and communicate.

Granted, there are some "bad apples" out there that will lie and use you, but there are women that do this to. Generally, I think most guys will be honest. Also, 3) forget all these "rules" (waiting to 4th date or whatever). There are no "rules". Everyone and every relationship is different. Just use your common sense. If something doesn't seem right, it probably isn't. Don't just brush it off or assume it will go away or get better. My views anyway. :)

cancer_legion · Answer

Just off the top of my head - tell him you are celibate.
This kind of goes into a deeper issue of how sex is viewed by different people.
Actually. Maybe the question should be 'how do you avoid being used *only* for sex?'
Are we not "using" each other for the happiness we bring each other?
Sex is - in my view - a pretty important part of the relationship. I think its also ranked as one of the top reasons for divorce - the sex not being good. Check that though, id hate to be giving you wrong info.
Its kind of like "how important should the sex be?"
And, just because its worth saying even if no one listens - if sex weren't such an exclusive thing, such a "work hard and maybe not got it anyway" kind of thing, guys might be less likely to "use" women for sex.
Guys will always want sex. It is generally really enjoyable. For me anyway.
I think i went on a tangent there...
Anyway, my answer is just say you are celibate. Thats the simple answer.
Downside is you'll probably miss out on some great guys who won't be using you for sex but just happen to want it along with the relationship.

michael2124 · Answer

1) The most advice id give a girl is to not advertise herself for that... I get that you are free to do what you want but some of you girl be wearing some stuff that advertise that.
2) when something is too good to be true it is... Just because he buy you gifts and listen to what you say or all other things doesn't mean he is the "one"
3) the 90 day rule don't work but its a start
4) know what you want, when getting into the relationship with a guy tell him exactly what you are looking for
5) No No No he is not going to leave his wife, girlfriend or friends with benefits for you like its not going to happen I don't care if he talk to "her" in front of you he just won't
6) don't sleep with a guy because you want him to love you... Guys don't fall in love through sex... We can have sex with 10 other woman and feel good we fall in love through trust
7) be independent... I mean come on you depend on him he will feel entitle for you to sleep with him
8) don't gold dig he will know and won't mind "paying" you for sex he will give you money and sleep with you
9) know your value... there's nothing i hate the most is when a woman doesn't know her worth

Anonymous · Answer

... uhhh don't have sex with a new guy till you've been dating 3 months. No self respecting player is gonna chase it longer than a month. i mean I waited 30 days ONCE because the girl was hot, hottest girl I ever been with but even after I ghosted her on principal. I despised her for the holdout.
No one looking to hit and quit or not commit is waiting 90 days. Careful though I potentially would wait 30 days if I'm sleeping around and happen to be busy at the time. If I somehow mistakenly wait say... 40 days, I'll then hold out six months just cause I'm vested, I'm no quitter. But again IMMEDIATE ghost.
The caveat here is you'll also probably lose a guy who is willing to commit trying to weed out dudes who aren't.
I think be up front about what you're looking for in the beginning, the mention of a relationship early on will send me "to the bathroom" where I pay the check and leave them at the restaurant.
The final thing is date inside your own circle people don't wanna do that shit anymore but it's a good chance that if I'm dating my buddy's cousin I'm not going to be a dick. I don't ever date women who know people I know EVER. Firstly people I know, know what I do and wouldn't sign off on me dating a relative or friend. If I did it anyway... well they just have to mention it to the girl to bring it to a grinding halt.
To find a prince you gotta kiss a couple toads.
I suppose the more important thing is to live, enjoy yourself and be happy knowing that you haven't destroyed a mans life yet. When a man puts a ring on a woman's finger his life is over.

godfatherfan · Answer

I get so tired of seeing these kinds of comments. Like "poor woman, you must hate sex...". Sorry, an adult relationship includes a healthy sex life. Too many women have such a messed up view on sex. It is like your paranoid or something. Men actually get used for sex by some women. The difference is, we love that. I have a situation where I finally realized that is what she was doing, I had a smile a mile wide on my face.
Guys want sex. That doesn't mean that is the only reason they are dating you. but that guy that seriously wants a relationship will also want sex a ton, esp when he is younger.
Sounds like you have serious trust issues. Your best bet is to see a therapist and get your issues fixed before getting into any relationship.

MackFreeze · Answer

For a woman, she should wait and wait as long as she can. That is why I advocate sex only in marriage.

However, women on a collective scale should
• Increase their self respect
• Raise their standards
In doing so waiting longer and not give themselves away so easy. That is the problem! Women give themselevs away to easily be a varitey of reasons. Since women give themselves away, and also dont demand respect!

If women as a whole, raised their self respect/standards men would have to follow! But if you look around, there is so much instant gratification! If women changed so would men!

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

For those who say wait till marriage, he can still treat you look a sex doll, cheat or leave you. Marriage does not mean his personality or love for you will change.

For those who say wait till a month, well players can wait all year as they have a lot of women giving them free sex.

Right there is no way to tell. You will always be taking a risk.

How can you reduce the chance?

Find out what kind of guy he is
How he treats people
What's his goals are
What's his opinion on long term relationship
Does he love you
Does he want to spend rest of his life with you

>>> if he is a well rounded man with a decent personality... he will not use you for sex.

:-)

Kaazsz · Answer

So I heard recently from a few women that I know, that guys apparently will waste massive amounts of time to get to fuck you. I've been told stories of guys waiting YEARS in a fake friendship (not friendzone type stuff tho) to finally bed you and literally disappear forever.

So I have no idea! I feel like it's impossible. You have to learn to really judge a person's character or something. Or just fuck every guy on the first day and let them vanish and eventually you'll fuck a guy that actually likes you. Most efficient way anyways, rather than waiting years and years till you're old and ugly... I don't know. I'm not like that, never was, I can't understand any of this stuff.

Anonymous · Answer

Chances are very unlikely for avoiding this cuz like 99.8% of guys these days (maybe just my age) only wanna fuck a girl then never see her again...

But! If you do happen to find a guy that falls into that 0.02%, then good

Usually I'm told if you look like you wanna bang, you're gonna attract guys who only wanna bang. This means having your ass and chest hanging out cuz the more of that that shows, the more guys see and the more they think about sex. So, if you don't let those areas basically hang free, or outline with super fitted clothes, I'm sure you'll be on a successful way with it

You can also just ignore the fuckboys. If they say something disrespectful, degrading, rude, sexist, etc, don't even reply. I know for me it's ridiculously difficult to not reply with a really stupid and sarcastic answer, but when I don't reply, they honestly just leave me alone. When I do reply though, they never stop and keep on going

NatashaJ · Answer

If your not even dating and he brings up sex out of nowhere and you don't feel comfortable is a big one. I met a douche on okcupid months ago he had the nerve to get mad because I assumed he wanted sex since he brought up about hook ups for no reason. It turn into an argument and he turns ruder and ruder and he had the nerve to shit on my dating profile when the conversation ended. When the loser wanted me to constant flirt with him and he barely flirted with me and his profile was boring as hell. Yet he talk mad shit for some one who so boring lol.

Goodwifie · Answer

By not having sex with them after a few dates.
Trust me a guy who only wants you for sex will dump you within a month because the only thing he is interested in finding out about you is what your vagina looks like.
I got dumped by heaps of boys but I was fine with that because I wanted a man.

Audiofox · Answer

It's about how much or how little he respects you which will show in your regular interactions. If he has no interest in even being friends or hearing about your rough day, that's a red flag because he doesn't see you as human. Casual sex is fine and you're not being used if the agreement is mutual and as long as he sees you as more than a vagina whether romance is involved or not.

MimosasAfterChurch · Answer

Success is based on work, failure and discipline, promise yourself that no mater how awesome, hot or "perfect" he is (nobody is) you won't sleep for the first 21 dates. If the guy is still around, you still like him and you know him well enough to almost be sure he's not a quitter, cheater or player, then take it to the next level. Next level might not be sex, sex usually changes things. STD's and pregnancy come in the picture stealing your peace.
Don't buy that BS that you need to know him in bed to really know him.
Lousy lovers are usually lousy in everything else in the relationship (read selfish and untrustworthy).

kitty71 · Answer

I dont want to be used for sex either, and that means I dotn want to have sex soon into getting to know a guy. Everything in due time why a man can't wait for that? What is the rush in having sex so soon, can't he be a little patient, remember the woman likes you too but she does not want to rush things like men do, she wants to get to know you and see or check if there is a connection first between you too to see if you are worth to h ave sex later while you are in the dating process. What is so wrong about that tell me men?

realistic1 · Answer

There are many stratagems that girls should apply on their daily deals with those specific group of guys. Like, avoid speaking to them when not necessary, make your talking to them very short and stick to the point, if the guy insists to contact you for no reason like flirting or enjoy chatting with you keep giving wired excuses, like I am so sorry I am so busy I have to much work /study/chores to do we can talk later later on if he call keep excusing your professional at this ladies, and escape going out with those guys for any reason unless you have perfect plan to implement your stratagems.
In other words, those men after few of tries while you're escaping all times , no doubt they will run away automatically and look for another girl, because you are dull or not interested in him according to his perspective.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Don't jump into bed on the first, second, or third date. Don't follow a schedule or a rule (like the three date rule.) Wait until you feel confident that your partner respects you and you know that they are not just looking for sex. If a guy respects a woman, he will wait a few months until you have established a relationship that is built on something more than sharing naked moments.

Frosteh · Answer

Looking for commitment is not really the best idea, lots of bad people are committed very strongly to people or ideas. What you need to do is look for a partner who is virtuous. So look for signs of common virtues.

Know your virtues inside out, know what is and what is not. Most of us are attracted superficially to things which have nothing to do with virtue, like good features, beauty, symmetry, large bank account, nice home/car/stuff, is cool, friendly, good fashion, good sense of humour, popular, etc...

None of those things are virtues. And you can be sure that people who are really virtuous are not going to lie to you, or cheat or treat you badly, it's not in their nature.

So... yeah... if you care for the quality of your relationship at all then look for virtue in a match.

sineater8 · Answer

Make them wait. Most men primarily interested in sex will be in a hurry and pressure you to rush to sex. if you make them wait and they obviously get frustrated by it then you know what their real interest is.

However, if a genuine guy does wait for you its always possible that when you do have sex its so terrible he will want to leave you, and you may see it as him only wanting sex. but in most cases guys who wait are more interested in you for a long term relationship and will stick around even if the sex is crap.

Freya_Martin · Answer

A gal needs to be mature enough to understand what the guys wants before getting laid, and not just get carried away by charms & good looks. Relationships are uncertain, sometime merely due to non-compatibility (while both may be nice). So, it is important not to involve with a guy at an early age. Guys get bored easily. Most importantly, one should not to repeat mistakes and get hurt over & over again. This gets frustrating in life. Cheers & good luck. 😇 💕

Blueeyes81 · Answer

By not putting out a sex vibe. By this I mean no sexual innuendos, no sexy pics on social media, basically just don't portray yourself as a sexual object. The reason being that thats all men will see you as if thats the vibe they pick up. Men will think of sex regardless but if you stay classy they'll see you as wife material versus a hit & quit

Dropfop · Answer

Anyone opening up with existential conversation on the first night is probably more interested in new experiences rather than commitment. Guys looking for a serious relationship will have a stable job and a car to start. Don't cut corners and entertain a charming bum they talk sweet but don't take life seriously. If they are trying to impress you rather than trying to understand you then chances are you're just a prize to them. Focus on the ones who treat you like any other person first before trying to win you over.

mjz00 · Answer

hi, two options
OPTION A, CELIBATE FOR LIFE
OPTION B, BECOME A LESBIAN
to me any guy who is out there declaring he wants commitment and to straight off declare this kind of desire, run for your life, lol
FILTER RULE: MEN ARE LIKE PANTHOSE, EITHER THEY RUN, THEY CLING OR THEY DONT FIT RIGHT IN THE CROTCH...

slatyb · Answer

By not trying to trade sex for love. Have sex because YOU want to have sex. Have sex when you feel that if you never saw him again you would still have no regrets. Don't have sex because you think that having sex will make him be more loving or stay with you or want to marry you.

stillagoodgirl · Answer

It's not that hard, if you don't trust a guy and there's no talk about the relationship boundaries in terms of commitment then don't sleep with him. Like don't give sex in hopes the guy will be in a relationship. If you two both decide to be in a relationship then maybe strongly consider it... because some guys will just give you the title then break up after sex

Dargil · Answer

Put the "10-Date Rule" into effect. 10 "real" public dates: Theater, Sports, Exhibits, Concerts etc. that HE pays for before the knickers MAY come off. Doesn't preclude a slow walk of the bases, just not the last one. This will strain out all but the most dedicated players and losers and preclude a hit and run. And even if it doesn't work out, you got to 10 good venues.

CoffeeGirl456 · Answer

A guy can figure out girl habit from how easy she can say "yes" when he want. A girls no need to follow guy , what easy not last long , what last long never come easy , they will like challenge from a hard girls. But when girls say yes and feel confident guy will respect each of feeling and try to get more activities in daylong not just sex. Maybe sms, vdo call, and any topic everyday.

prettyweird · Answer

Be carefull how you represent yourself and where you meet the guy. So don't go to extra with clothes if it's not necessary. And if you meet guys on Hot or Not or any other dating app expect them to be there just for a hook up. And especially for the young girls out here: most young guys just want sex really.

Lovebird90 · Answer

By waiting a while to have sex if they stick around they interested in you. If they don't than you have you answer. Since I've been doing this I've been feeling impowered. I never waste too much time on loser or crying because I feel used. I'm talking many months when a guy have shown he's worthy of my loving. However it also keeps me single but I refuse to settle.

Lipsticksmearer · Answer

God some of these answers are just so unhelpful lol

I still haven't worked out how to do this honestly Hun. Guys who are straightforward are hard to find, they'll either pretend they're ready for commitment just for you to let your guard down or be completely gross about their intentions.

I would say don't let them talk you into 'hanging out at his' or 'just this one time' if you don't think it's the right time.

If I find a foolproof way I'll let you know

Aalila · Answer

Hmm hold off on sex make him wait a few months let him get to know you better then see what happens maybe he might go animalistic won't that be fun lol 😂 good things come to people who wait so if he waits long enough and is in it for the long term then go for it ❤👌

Eswarby · Answer

The best thing you can do to avoid such use is to determine your own desires and needs, and if, in the course of your interactions with guys, they pay no attention to your wants and desires and needs, then that's a pretty clear indication of your status to him.

Dtegesd123 · Answer

If you are dating a guy who is very touchy feely during your date, it is for sex only. If the guy invites you to dates that always only starts after. When you guys do hang out does he talk to you, care about your day, your feelings or is he just flirting the whole time?

didigo182 · Answer

How about you start picking up nice-guys who want something serious instead of Bad Boys that provide instant emotions?

Ariel1990 · Answer

unfortunately, u never find out until he tells u or u asks him. there is 60 day rule, no sex rule.. if he asks u out even after 60 days with no sex u have won his heart over.
men who want sex are all nice and gentlemen too,, because they want sex...
but, u know if he calls only at night or sexts with u in the evening, or if he never introduces u to his friends, never just asks u how u doing...

bestLover · Answer

When you put the question that way.. who would want to just be used for sex? I'm sure there may be a couple interested in being used for sex for any number of reasons but unless it's mutual or or rules then there is no point. Sex is an expression of two or more people sharing a moment with each other.

AriesMan · Answer

No matter how debonair a guy is, no matter how good he turns you on, making you weak in the knees and stimulating his mind, you make him wait for sex, you tease him with slow gradual advancement from one base to the next base. If he wants you and respects you, make him work for you, and he will follow you to the end of the earth to have you, to win your love.

Denyo · Answer

Many people might not agree with what I say.

1. Try to avoid dressing provocatively
2. Be friendly with guys, but try not to engage in too much sexual conversation
3. Go out on a date multiple times on a date and do not physically interact (I guess you can hold hands here) instead try to connect mentally.
4. Lower a small portion of your pride and text them, and if they do not respond or seem cold. Then they expected action and nothing else.
5. Finally and most importantly, just be yourself, and you alone could find someone who you would directly clique with.

Hope this helps

Margillard · Answer

Not many of those guys left, 70% of males 20-34 are single, we are matching Japan's herbavours now. Weeding them out should be pretty easy, most men saved you the trouble.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

By watching his actions and then ask him what his intentions are. If he's coming across as only wanting sex then just ask him up front. Ask him if he's looking for something serious or just looking for something casual right. Tell you're not trying to jump to conclusions or accuse him of that either, you just want to make sure you're both on the same page. If beats around the Bush by not giving a yes or no answer then his his intentions weren't honest.

foolishsunset · Answer

Date someone who is patient with you and who can keep a proper conversation going. Often fuckboys/guys who only want sex will try to keep it as easy as possible.
Also wait for a while before having sex with him and build up his respect for you first.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Just tell a guy your not looking for any commitment
and that your looking just for friendship and nothing more
when he starts getting sexual with you or makes rude sexual
remarks put your hand up and say speak to the hand cause
this girl here is only looking for friendship. If he continues
walk away from him and leave the area where he is don't
put up with his harassment or pushing you into anything.

ATuairiscean · Answer

I think that anyone who has doubts about another person commitment and may be in the relationship/dating for other reasons withhold the reason or budget in this case it is the physical, say that you want to take things slow and get to know the other person while that is happening sex is off the table - A pussy hound won't hang around.

Alexgagnon · Answer

You only get used if you let yourself get used.. if you go out looking for love in every single guy you meet and f*** them before you even know what that guy wants.. that's on you not them.

Anonymous · Answer

it has to do with your mindset.
if you go out and have the mindset that you will be used or you go out with the mindset that its an experience, then you will see things very differently.

i know girl who went out with guy for 2-3 years. no sex till marriage. however, the guy didn't have sex with her and didn't want to marry her, when breaking up. she was emoitnally a mess.
so sex is not a calprit of feeling for being used or not being used.

Briandao · Answer

I have this female friend who's been on quite a few dates the last year, they hit it off, date again, everything's good... then after a few dates, it happens (sex). Then they never return her texts or anything.

So I don't know, some men (and women, but this question was about men) are just doucebags. You don't have to commit, but don't just use a person for sex and then ghost them hoping things will just disappear. Stand up for what you want and what you think, don't be a coward.

shadow1332 · Answer

The answer here is quite simple. Being patient before having sex, get to know the person well. If sex is all that that person wants you'll pick it up quite quickly. Else you can even say you're waiting till marriage before having sex, that will filter them out quite quickly

Browneye57 · Answer

Talk to him for gods sakes. Find out if he wants a girl to be his girlfriend, or if he just wants to get off. Is he patient, and kind? Notice I didn't day 'nice'. Is he genuine? Is he going someplace and being someone? Is he looking for a life partner? Or a fuck-buddy?
You can do this. Really.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't sleep with him right away. Ask him questions and get to know him on an emotional level first. If he ever pressures you to do something or makes sexual hints too fast while dating and tries to brush off getting to know you, then you know what he's after. It's not that hard to detect the bad guy from the good guy. Bad guys say what they want to get what they want. Set your standards high and don't settle for less.

Regular1 · Answer

Why would women want to avoid it? Women under age 30 should ride that cock carousel all they can. Because eventually, the cocks will disappear, having moved on to younger, prettier gash. For women OVER age 30, sex is all you have to offer. So put out for any guy who can get it up for you.

JustCallMeLeon · Answer

Aside from the obvious characteristics a player guy shows, like acting like a jerk, hitting on multiple girls, secretive phone etc, i strongly believe that the greatest filter is... TIME! A player will eventually show his true intentions after a while or vanish.

Walrus_au · Answer

it's a trade off.
Only guarantee of that is to never have sex. but that will likely end up not finding a partner at all, so it's about finding that balance point where you and them are both getting ahead.

Of course, the best way of finding out what is going on in his head is to ask him...

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

Only fucking after a relationship is established and some time has passed always worked for me.

BrianMerritt · Answer

This will sound crazy... wait until marriage. That is how you find a guy who wants to be beside you. If you put out too much you find guys who want to be on top of you.

Anonymous · Answer

avoid men who want to bed you before marriage. that simple.

Anonymous · Answer

Your in your 30s sweety. You should be smart to overcome your emotional impulses to chase bad boys/fuck boys. If 30 something women are turning down nice guys then there really is no hope for women.

If you get used for sex at this point you have no one to blame but yourself.

sam2hang · Answer

Now a days woman are smart and mature, they understand what a man is up to. But yes it's two side efforts that man should not consider her a sex toy and women should not consider herself just a sex toy. She has many talent, skills and ability residing inside her which man should know and respect.

Z-Spark · Answer

desirable men can get sex from women, and women are drawn to such men so literally there is no way to find out his true intentions of he does not tell you, he can say " i like you" and then move on after sex, no way to tell, the ones who want pump and dump you are usually the undesirable males who women dont really care about, if you're trying to get a quality guy you will get used at some point.

badatnamingthings · Answer

I think we should stop being told to avoid being used and boys should start being taught at a young age to not use women when they get older. It's not the woman's fault if they're being used, it's the person using her who is to blame

The-Motivator · Answer

By telling right away at the start that you are not going to bed with guys until marriage. This will push away all the perverts.

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