Determining if the girl sees you as potential father figure and does she really care about me?

[Anonymous]

If a gal tells you that she misses you and only after 2 days, does this signify anything? Also her telling you and asking what your thoughts are on kids and indirectly asking what you would do in her situations. If she coming more and more to me for advice and is not afraid and comes to you when she is vulnerable and has been or is crying what does this mean? Also if she asks what I want in life and my living arrangements and if I'd ever consider moving approximately towards her but doesn't quite ask me directly? What does this all mean? In the end what should I do cause she might be moving away for a while to figure out her situation. Not sure what to do or how to handle this. Please help!!!

[maestrodematimaticas]

This is the person you want. Someone totally into YOU. Even if its annoying at times, the ass kissing factor makes it worth it. I hated pursuing women.

[Asker]

So she said she didn't want a relationship awhile ago but has gotten pregnant when we broke up for awhile, not mine. Why does she ask if I'm seeing anyone and make these questions if she says that were just friends and is not interested. Is she just testing me? She had to move out from this guy and unfortunately will be living 2 hrs apart!!

[Asker]

So what do you think?

[maestrodematimaticas]

I would give it a try.

[Asker]

Well what should I do since she's moving away a bit and can't drive there all the time and is currently pregnant from a guy she don't see or like

[HermitNYC]

Care about you? Don't know, but she certainly is interested in you as a next-of-kin and father of her children.

[HermitNYC]

I meant a POTENTIAL next-of-kin and father of her children.

[Asker]

You think so and why big I may ask?

[HermitNYC]

Well, I would not expect questions about living arrangements, children, and how to deal with difficult situations on a first date. Unless she wants to be very efficient in her search for a husband or life-long lover.

Either she is fascinated by you, or she is trying to decide whether or not you have potential before she spends time & effort in cultivating a relationship with you.

I guess I mean that she doesn't want to fall in love with you if the two of you are mis-matched. I think. But I have never met her.

[Asker]

Very true, we have known another for a year. I thought the same!!!

[Asker]

So what should I'd do. She's supposed to be moving but it's gonna be a couple hrs away but only temporary

[Asker]

So what do you think?

[HermitNYC]

If she is the one you want, go for it. But if she is not someone you would make a "forsaking all others" commitment to, then don't lead her on. (I went off-line, just came back)

[RicoSwan]

Sounds like a woman who doesn't know what she wants and expects immediate answers. I'd say ask her directly what she wants from you. You can be her friend but be prepared for the friend zone if you don't ask her directly what she wants with you.

[Asker]

True, she said we're just friends but then why ask me all these questions and involve me and ask me about my plans and asking new if it was my situation?

[RicoSwan]

Cause she trusts you like a friend. Just be her friend and find another female to satisfy your relationship desires.

[Asker]

Yeah that's harder to do then said

[Asker]

So what should I do and what you think

[RicoSwan]

I know it seems hard but it can be easy. Get her in a conversation, both express feelings, and move on from there. Too much time is spent guessing, when if you just say it, then you either get started or get going man

[Asker]

Very true!! She's starting to open up, she's going through a rough time right now and I'm being supportive. She also has said she's forgiven me for all the bad times and trusts me. She's been in contact today since she moved

[Asker]

So she miscarried and said that I just need not to overreact and realize too we can't talk everyday and also we both have priorities. This is what she told me today and tried to clarify it and tell her my intentions. She said that she's not into me cause I overreact things too often. But she says I can care for her. She still wants to hangout but doesn't think things will change her mind and says she's over it. She mistook what I said about her pregnancy how she thought I couldn't be with her. told her that's not the case. She thought I found her undesirable and unwanted. I told her I feel bad like I'm unwanted because I'm the nice guy. She said she promised to hangout with another guy. But I can't help my feelings and are trying to hold back!!! What should I do now, I need advice. Why do I still want and love her?