Should I tell my boyfriend how many guys flirt with me every day?

[Anonymous]

I have never actually cheated on anybody, but in past relationships I felt so detached that i could have cheated because I just didn't care. And to some degree I was being unfaithful. I was texting and calling other guys, going on dates with other guys, all while I was in numerous past relationships. I just never felt the same way about guys as they did about me and so I didn't understand. It wasn't until I met my current boyfriend that I felt this deep connection. He thinks Im the sweetest angel because all he has ever gotten from me is love. Even when I first saw him I felt deeply connected to him and he felt the same way. We both thought it was some kind of miracle that we met, and we both would assure one another that falling in love fast wasn't common for either one of us. He told me about his past relationships and how he was affected by cheating, and I suddenly realized how hurtful cheating could be. I dont think I could cheat on him even if somebody paid me a million dollars because he changed me completely Im not even the same person I used to be and neither is he. But I get flirted with a lot, and I dont know if I should tell him about it or ignore it. Im used to. keeping that kind of thing to myself, and I dont know if its just hurtful anf pointless to tell him. He sometimes will ask me if anybody at my job or gym or at the mall tried to flirt with me, and even though they have I always say no. I do to avoid making a big deal out of it since I never even would entertain the thought of cheating on him. Is it wrong to do that? Should I be honest and tell him how many guys flirt with me every day or just keep in to myself? Should I only tell him if he asks?

[Miristheiss]

I wouldn't just bring it up for no reason but I'd be hesitant to start lying, if he directly asks you and you start lying that could lead to problems down the road if you start believing it's ok to lie based on your opinion of them needing to know or whether you think they'll dislike the truth, but no, I see no reason to just bring it up. If he says did guys flirt with you today and they did but you say no... I'm uneasy saying that is a respectful, healthy way to live this relationship you say is so great.

[MadeInAmerica]

My wife used to tell me. I don't really care if she does or not. I'm not the jealous type and I trust her and believe in the strength of our relationship. I just take it as they have good tastes and can't be mad at them for trying.

[Angel90]

Definitely not 😂 😂 😆

[Brindale]

He might get jealous but it depends on the type of person they are.

I'd say if he asks tell him

[VooDooBooDoo]

I've thought about doing this with the girls that get friendly w me. I just don't see the good that will come from that lol

[awkwardman]

Ok i only read part of it. But you said you never actually cheated then shortly after that said you went on dates. That is cheating. May not be having sex but it is still cheating

[Hornyguy7763]

No need to tell him stuff like that, it will just cause issues, as long as your not flirting back and texting these guys or anything like that, it’s no big deal.

[TXKen]

There is no reason to tell him. No upside, only downside of possibly hurting him

[jjames10882]

Don't offer it but if he asks don't lie.