Do girls look desperate if they text first? (Page 2)

Question

Personally, I am one to text a guy first instead of me waiting for him. I have no problem in being able to start a conversation, especially with a guy I like. Does this make me look desperate or too easy if I text first all the time or do guys like it when a girl has the ability to easily start a conversation? Especially if that guy tends to be more introverted than extroverted in their nature.

Priscilla93 · Answer

From what my guy friends had told me It does not look desperate it just shows them that you are friendly. Plus guys hate it when they feel that they have to play the guessing game.

banek996 · Answer

Im more introverted and i always hear about this. Boys tell dont text girl youl look desprete and girls tell to girls dont text boys he will know your desperate. I say don't care about its so stupit and angry me, do what you feel if it doesn't go it doesn't

dolemite68 · Answer

I don't get where this misconception comes from about girls initiating. If she starts being stalkerish or annoying it's desperate obviously but a girl that has the guts to flirt with me first, ask me out or text me first is very attractive she comes off as confident.

Bellydancer83 · Answer

Just make sure to play tennis. If he doesn't hit back equally save yourself the trouble and walk away. Something I should have done. But I got dicked around by flakey behaviour.

moghart · Answer

it is very good way to start every thing You gonna do in life, make first step :) but with guys You have to be carefull, the fact that You was at offense at start is always positive, but after a while, if You still be too offensive and guy will have to always go and hide by yours back could be problematic in long time distances. by the way there are some manly men's that just are scared when woman have bigger kohones ;)

Vedad194 · Answer

No, it does not, "desparate" are the ones that want to but don't have the courage to do so because of the fear of others judging them.
Still, same as guys, girls should avoid the generic "Hi!" starter.

Anonymous · Answer

I myself think it shows confidence in herself to text first and is a sure sign that she is interested. Much of the time a woman won't show interest and a guy will lose interest in her. For a woman to text first does not indicate being easy or desperate.

Anonymous · Answer

No it doesn't. It can form part of a body of texting behaviour, or even a body of broader behaviour, which signals desperation.

I think many of us struggle with this. Texting is a new form of language use, and there are many subtle ways we succeed or fail to communicate our feelings. Currently I can't figure out why a girl I know texts like my dad--shortest possible texts needed to be useful. Utilitarian texting I guess. Who the heck texts like that? Geez.

Anonymous · Answer

For me if I was talking to a guy I knew was interested in me and I felt comfortable enough I would but I wouldn’t if i wasn’t, there is a guy that when I see in person tells me to message him but I don’t because I feel like he isn’t that interested in talking to me and it would make me seem desperate

Firefist107 · Answer

Lmao hell no please do this more. Makes me feel like I'm going out of my way to talk to you and being a disturbance as well. I'm sure you feel this way to please babes text first every once and awhile

Fusion83 · Answer

People need to stop thinking that if a woman asks a guy out or if she contacts him first that she is desperate
Many guys are too shy to make the first move so it's great to see women making the first move instead

Urkandir · Answer

Texting first shows confidence and that you know what you want and what are your goals, so text first, It is completely annoying to always have to text first being a guy, you doesn't even know how rare it is to find a girl that starts a conversation, when that happens it's like finding a diamond in a sea of rocks :D

PVictor · Answer

I don't know why people still bother on this kind of stuff. It does not matter if someone take 1 min or 10 decades to respond, who starts the conversation etc... I personally text when I want to, if I am free and have nothing important I will text the person. I only think if someone is always online 24/7 then this person has nothing going in his life and he should stop using his phone and start chasing his goals.

asterking01 · Answer

U r doing the right thing... Don't overthink it. About guys thinking that you r desperate, those guys would think that about u even if u don't anything.

My advice u like something u make a move for it.

In your case he being introvert I think what u r doing if the best way to get to know his feelings. Other methods would calls, face to face talks etc

donnny2367764 · Answer

It is defined by chemistry... some guys act differently with different types of girls... i once had a girlfriend whom always took "the lead " in most our outings, which was quite the contrary to why I was normally accustomed... needless to say that one girlfriend was perhaps the best one I had during my high school years... but I think it's plausible for girls to show their interest just as much... it's something technology has favored girls too... I still send short letters by mail even today..

LuharLaghes · Answer

God no, more girls need to initiate conversation, if the dude ends up being weird or anything, just stop talking to him and start a conversation with someone else

TandemTheory · Answer

No, you don't look desperate. If you like a guy, talk to him. We aren't psychics. And honestly, if you do, he's going to remember it, and remember it as a good sign. Talk away!

Sorathevilone · Answer

Oh god I hope not lol in my opinion it just shows that you like him and have had guys think I don't like them because i didn't text them so I guess not

Asad1ONE1 · Answer

You're overanalyzing. There is no "guys" or "girls". Everyone perceives things differently. If a guy likes you back, he'll actually like you making the move of course. Besides, there's nothing wrong with initiating a conversation via text or in person. Desperation is something else. And other desperate peoples actually like desperate people.

natgal · Answer

This thing they call the game, its so silly. Nobody talks, everyone is scared to be first and all that. Wait 3 days and shit like that. But why? If I like someone , I won't say it right away, but I won't hide it. I send a text the day after or I might even later the same day. Just a hi it was nice to meet you, looking forward to see you again. Just a easy simple and to the point, no details.

booyoulee · Answer

Guys have to worry about same thing just text him if ya wanna talk and if he didn't wanna be with ya cuz you text to much he obviously isn't the right one but don't get mad if he doesn't respond right away that's how they like to play the game lol

sinner55 · Answer

When you contact him doesn't matter as much as you think. It's all about making him feel like you aren't in to him or got something else going on... And slowly surprising him everytime he starts thinking you must not like him at all.

lexxtasy · Answer

This doesn't mean you're desperate. You're a grown woman, and the person you are entertaining should to be a grown man. Grown people need to on a mutual communication level. Not one sided all the time.

PLAGoAway · Answer

Not desperate at all! I think it's refreshing and makes you stand out above most girls! I don't mind texting first, but it gets old, ya know? It makes me feel like I'm worth a damn if a girl texts first and that makes all the difference.

Dreku · Answer

Not bad at all, its not like you are shooting nudes at them, girls who know what they want and go for it are awesome, my lady is very forward and it simply makes me feel wanted and makes me more enamoured by her

Arias · Answer

Nope, plain and simple. It's all in your head. Feel what's in your heart and mind and go with it. If you really think you are interested in that person pull the trigger either it be for you or for them.

acharmingman · Answer

Text this girl first then totally regretted now she wanted me to chase her but got over it. I took it as she don't like me so I started ignoring her and her friends where twerking on me at this bar i go to. I went today and some random cute girl started flirting with me in front of her she left mad I didn't care she was not replying.

sapphire31 · Answer

I think it’s good to initiate text conversations sometimes as long as he’s also initiating convos. Just make sure he’s the one who usually texts first otherwise you’ll probably come across as clingy

LittleMissMiracle · Answer

I feel this same way sometimes. I always want them to initiate talking me me first so I don't look too desperate but it goes both ways. I'd say do text him but if ur constantly always the 1st one to text, somethings up

xChant · Answer

If you want to text him then go ahead! I wouldn't say it looked desperate at all. Just shows you're interested and keen on getting to know eachother. Someones gotta do it :)

McKellar · Answer

No, it doesn't make you look desperate. You're merely expressing to him that you are strongly interested in him. Clearly in your perspective,.. he's your type of guy to be with. I can understand if everyone has a different perspective on that. As far as I know of,... you are interested in him, & you're expressing that... unless you get bothered if guys come across as desperate... then I don't know.

StefanC · Answer

I prefer it that way, if I have the option. This shows me that the respective girl/woman is interested in me. And also it is a different approach to the norm which tells me she is something different as well from the norm. To be discovered if good or bad :)

Snuffy · Answer

As a guy, I applaude you. It feels like a lot of girls are always waiting for the guy to make the first move. Me being pretty awkward around girls I like think it would be incredibly awesome if she randomly texted first.

Daltron · Answer

Not to me, by texting first you've displayed potential interest which makes my job so much easier. Effectively you've become a pleasant surprise, at least to me.

Captain_goalpost · Answer

No please actually text first. Most girls don't do that. It doesn't make you look desperate. If anything, it's a plus because it shows that you are thinking about us and that you want to talk to us.

SmoothDude · Answer

desperate? if you text me all the time daily then yea
f you do it once every few days iam more than happy, i had girls who never texted first and i lost interest and moved on, other girls actually texted me first few times and that was to me a sign of their interest ,

just_daddy · Answer

In today world women text a lot more than men do and if they show first in texting let them. men or women who text first makes no difference in who does it first and your not desperate if you text first.

liTeWave · Answer

No.

Sexist guys won't like it, but who needs them?

Egalitarian guys like me will actually mentally give you 10 brownie points for doing that.

So I guess it depends on whether you want a sexist guy or not.

constantin_wt · Answer

Kinda. It should be a back and forth and never one-sided.
I have lost interest in some girls because they showed much more interest to me than I had to them.. so you have to calculate, but if you just get to know each other, don't be too easy aswell!

Venusss · Answer

Well beginning to text is easy, but how do we retain each other's attention and engage each other?

Who starts the text first doesn't matter, who ends it first and would it continue, matters more!

Now, that, needs skillsz.

AG900 · Answer

Definitely no. You're good. I've lost the best chances because they don't do that, and the shy attitude, often seems like uninterested. By the time they have told me, it's too late, or when I tell them.

handsomeguydan · Answer

I like when a girl initiates the conversation with me first. That way I know she likes me and wants to find out more about who I am.

mystery_user · Answer

Nah girls don't, I've had like two girls text me first and like I wanted to text them put I didn't know what to say and then they texted and I was like to myself like wow girls really do know how to start a conversation.

Red-Blaze · Answer

No i don't think it dose, but will depend on the girl and the guy and how they meet and so on :P

Over all i think its fine, a relation comes from both sides, can't have one depended on the outer to start always

duces · Answer

its fine i honestly prefer it if the girl txts first I don't know if there interested in talking to me so i dont text at all id ratger not bother people

Justcallmeashley · Answer

No it's not desperate. It's only desperate when you keep texting him without getting any replies back lol

frostrot · Answer

No, infact girls should too take up thing to initiate a convo. And contribute in making it live. Well equality should too be in here..! Why should guys always text first

itsbrielle98 · Answer

Nah I started doing that with someone and he’s always busy but he will text back and it makes them notice you

mattLB1993 · Answer

No it dosent make your desperate, I appreciate it when a girl texts first, it really goes a long way to show how interested you are in someone

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

In that case, anybody or talks to anybody first would be desperate. *leans into microphone* The answer is no.

maximan · Answer

I usually stop talking to people, if they don't reach out for me at least sometimes. Attraction should be mutual, when I am the only one starting conversations it seems too one-sided for me.

AskAVic · Answer

Why do women think that initiating ANYTHING in the dating scene is a sign of desperation?  Why is it not "desperate" when a man makes a move? You want the guy, go get him!

Zumba_dancing_27 · Answer

I like to text people because I don't know if they are busy or doing something important. If you call them and they are in the restroom or something that would not be good.

Krish_is_me · Answer

I don't think girls look desperate in reaching out first. The only message that conveys through the action is either you are interested in him or you enjoy his company than most other in some aspect.
That would be a welcome sign for any guy who is equally contemplating growing up the acquaintance.
So, cheer up and get going. : )

up2long · Answer

If you text first it dose not make you look desprete at all. In fact im sure that most men would like if more women were confident enough to go after and do what they want. If your intrested in someone why not try and get a hold of them because if you sit back and wait who knows what may or may not happen. Besides someone else might beat you to the punch and grab what you want, how would that make you feel?

JFilmore · Answer

Not necessarily. If a woman texts me first, I would respond in kind and not think too much about it. If a guy makes a big deal about it, that's either his ego or insecurities talking. Just do what feels natural.

MrMist · Answer

I always start conversation, and It honestly makes me happy if people start it with me first because it makes me feel as though I’m not the only one who thinks of the other.

AadityaNeve · Answer

Why to think about texting? Who is texting first? If u wanna talk with him then talk. u like him tell him. If u feel for him let him know. And so he will do the same , if he feels the same for u!!! Don't waste time in in seeing who looks desperate and etc etc. Fuck it!! Fuck all what everyone says. What u feel is the most important thing. Listen to ur mind. If ur mind is correct , u will have fun. If it is wrong u will learn!!!

Graydon · Answer

Not necessarily desperate to me as long as they don't want to be texting the guy 24/7. I like it when girls text first. It shows me that I still mean something to then.

MallikarjunKomma · Answer

Texting is just a tool to interact... You shouldn't be deciding what others are thinking over a text, it's completely unfair and childish. So if you are thinking what the other person is thinking its just over thinking

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