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Depends on the type of text in my case. In general, no. If to start a regular, friendly conversation, definitely not. If you are clear in your intent (i. e. asking him out or saying you find him attractive in a flirty way etc...) probably not. Being elusive or getting me to try and guess if you like me or not... definitely so.
Desparate is certainly not the word i would usse. Confident is more like it. Non conformist. It may freak some ghys out, though. Think about it, girls spend their whole lives learning how to back guys off and guys still get bent when theyre told no. A guy might face a similar issue. But on the bright side a girl you hardly notice comes up and asks you to hang out, you are gonna look at her differently from then on. Then of course, you say no cuz yer so cool and she ends up with some guy hate and then your all green with envy and wish ill upon their relationship.
It's always good when women text/call first, then at least we know nobody is wasting anyone's time. Just because you make first contact just means that you know what you want and aren't afraid to go get it, and even put forth some effort for it. The problem for both sexes in this case is nobody can actually talk to and converse with anyone else unless it's online, or texting, or snapping. So honestly if you are that woman that can start a conversation (bonus if actually in person), then do it. If you wait for one of these beta males these days to approach you... you may die alone.
I don't play games. I keep it simple. If i want to talk to you, I'll talk to you. Although sometimes you have to understand your partner too. My boyfriend is not a texter, he's never going to send little sweet nothings during the day. So I accept that and work around it. Thankfully I see him so often I don't really miss him.
Not at all! I myself and probably a lot of other guys actually like when the girl texts first or shows interest in starting a conversation. I mean, if you're interested in a guy, even if it's just for the conversation, you should go after it, I'm pretty sure we all like a girl that shows that kind of attitude.
Yeah not at all. It's really nice to show that initiative. Especially for people who are introverted, it's a huge thing when someone reaches out and shows their interested
If they think you're easy cuz you text first then that just shows you a big red flag and you can safely dip
So keep doing what you're doing, there's nothing wrong with it
see i call these games and in my opinion.
Leave the games to microsoft and EA sports and other gaming companies
We are humanoids.
Just be straight up and talk to him ! Texts eachother when y'all can ! If he opens the door for you then greaaat! Do it back. Slap is butt while your at it.
Just
Dont
Play
Games !
( sorry im super hyped on red bull)
It's not desperate to say "hi, how've you been?" lol. Try not to overthink it.
Some of these girls make me wonder if they hide in a corner at every social event until someone lures them out with reassurance and validation.
What would seem desperate, is if you texted a guy like 10 times in 1 day and he hasn't responded.
You're doing the right thing, and it in no way makes you look desperate. In fact, I respect a woman that does it, because it shows she is confident and knows what she wants rather than just sitting around passively waiting to be contacted.
Women who are good in conversation are a turn-on, especially for introverted guys. You relax them with your ability to communicate, which is often a challenge for them to do initially.
That's tough... really just depends on what you say, how you say it, and how quickly you respond to future texts. I've felt the desparate vibe before from women that seem too eager to please. However, I'm never turned off to a girl that messages me first. It says she is independent.
So sad these still a question, if the guy doesn't like you back or looks a you different for something so trivial as you testing first is not even worth your time after all dating is putting yourself out there so just do you and that's how you'll find someone that likes you for who you are and no for who you portrait to others
There is a 1 in 2 chance someone will text first. to say The someone is desperate for messaging first is to say that no one should text anyone if they dont want to look desperate. Anyone should just go for it when they want to talk to someone. if you feel you're being too pushy or needy, straight up ask what the person thinks. If thats not easy, start practicing. That skill can make or break a relationship when you start out lol.
Absolutely not. You can’t come up with conclusions like that, when girls text message me first, my first intuition is (1) she isn’t playing by anyone’s rules but her own (2) she knows what she wants or interested in (3) she is strong and has the courage to put her own wants over assuming/speculating and fear of being judged and (4) it makes me realized she is special for all of the above and not like most girls.
In fact, dare I say, it makes me feel a bit intimidated
For me I always felt trying to play hard to get is fake. So if I want to talk to a guy I'm not gonna wait 2 days. I would think guys eould be more attracted to a woman who doesn't play dating games with them.
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Don't applaud me yet. In my current relationship I just learned I have to stop being so sexually available to my man because I think he gets board if he doesn't chase me. But only sexually. Because I'm not a game player and I'm a very sexual woman I come onto him when I want too. But it seems he took my wanting him that way a lot for granted. He no longer felt he needed to initiate anything and would reject me unless he wanted too. He wouldn't even try to like kiss to see if he would get in the mood. So I recently backed off and have turned him down for the first time ever. Suddenly he's calling me sexy again and flirting with me. I guess some guys need the thrill of the chase.
We seem to live in a world where it shouldn’t matter Don’t be concerned if he feels your easy or desperate It’s only one Text If they Judge you in this way Remind them your up bringing is to not be on a plate You want. It then work for it boy I don’t put out to no man x
Great it’s rare to hear this from a girl that she wants to text first. Wish you were my girlfriend :)
Ok jokes apart I don’t think that bad idea. But make sure you know anything access will lead to desperation or show case as if you don’t have any other work in world or no real life ;)
No offense just my prospective from the experience I had from my show (long distance relation and dating )
Girls are so easily bothered by concepts like 'looking desperate' (which turns them off of men) that they don't realize that that isn't something men care about all that much.
You want to start a conversation, start a conversation. It shouldn't be a one sided thing anyways.
No, they don't. It saddens me deeply that this is even an issue because of gender stereotypes and our shitty culture. Personally, I prefer if the girl texts me first and chases after me a bit, so to speak, that way I know she is genuinely interested and wants a relationship and I'm not a side bro or stuck in the friend zone.
I think it depends on the guy. Sometimes guys act like a girl is being clingy from doing the simplest things. I think it's good for her to text first because someone needs to start it, especially if he's introverted. Usually introvert just need you to step up so they can open up.
It is not perceived as desperate but again back to basic social norms which taught not to do it so they do not.
Like one of the person said she waited.
Logically if both wait , deadlock and then why potential relationship and beautiful couples just end beforr started.
Logically and statistically it will not and never changed no matter as girl do tend to believe what they feel is right and safer for them. They do not like to do great effort job.