Do girls look desperate if they text first? (Page 3)

Question

Personally, I am one to text a guy first instead of me waiting for him. I have no problem in being able to start a conversation, especially with a guy I like. Does this make me look desperate or too easy if I text first all the time or do guys like it when a girl has the ability to easily start a conversation? Especially if that guy tends to be more introverted than extroverted in their nature.

DeterMind · Answer

No not at all. It is really nice when the girl approaches the guy or texts the guy first since it shows interest. Guys don't want to do it all the time

Duke1985 · Answer

No, they are open and interested. When they wait for us to text first, they are either uninterested or they play a game to see how serious we are. Which is why i don't play that game. There are better ways to find out than to pretend

Megatrizzle · Answer

Honestly, It feels good for a girl to text first. It lets me know she cares and it shows interest. My crush doesn't like to text first and it honestly annoys me

Pinay_ako · Answer

No. But if it's always you who has to initiate first then yes. Text him first some days then let him miss you next. If he likes you, he will text you too.

Anonymous · Answer

You will not look desperate when the guy also likes you. And at least once in few times, wait for him to message. If he also feel the same way, he will initiate conversation. And, though an introverted person does not have quantity of friends, he must have at least one quality friend to whom he is completely open. So, try to be that person, and you will not have to initiate conversation each time. He will.

Allie_Oops · Answer

Guys will tell you it doesn't, but it does. We come across as clingy when we don't wait. I don't know why. Male logic.

lynnj88 · Answer

I don't find it desperate unless the person start to show ghosting behaviors and it becomes a one way text.

ProfessorOswin · Answer

Its boring if they dont initiate a convo. I end up forgetting about someone if they dont put any effort into the convos. Double texts dont matter, neither does texting first or any of that shit

Imafreespirit · Answer

No, that mentality has to disappear. I texted my crush first, we’re in a relationship now. Take your chances

SebShaw82 · Answer

Not at all. Frankly, one of my bug bears with dating is women who dick about with these stupid, childish mind games then say men lack maturity. I'd appreciate her being open and direct.

Robin5218 · Answer

I'm kind of an introvert in public, but if for some reason a girl would text me first, I would be super happy to text back 😊

The_Cookie_Monster · Answer

I say it doesn't look desperate on both cases of male and female but I say it's how you speak to them or start the conversation is if you sound desperate or not.

ManwithaConran · Answer

There is no such thing as "desperate". If anyone believes it's desperate to be the first to text then by definition they are saying most men and a heck of a lot of women are desperate. Bit harsh...

studentforlife · Answer

No they don't look desperate at all, it just shows that they actually are Interested which some guys will be concerned that they aren't, and then won't text

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

If the girl send a text first! She is desperate. If the guy sends a text first! He is desperate. So no one should send a text. Problem solved.

DoingSomeThingFun · Answer

I am fine! With a women text ro me first, i hope she like to text a lot once we start, texting can make the time of the day go by easy and fast, when having fun! Also if a women is smiling and laughing, people around her will wounder why she's having so much fun!

havetraktor · Answer

No. Girls should of course make advances more often. Waiting for the guy making the advance - which seems almost universal still - is tiresome and in honesty fairly idiotic, considering the changing norms of our times.

DennisDJ · Answer

I mean does the same thing make men seem desperate? I mean if we take the requests of equality to their proper enactment then a woman should be a able to make the first call right?

otherguys1133 · Answer

personally i want a girl to text me first... like... comeon guys.. there are some shy guys like me out there that are not able to open up and talk directly... i hate the fact of "guys texting" first. i will be more happy and attracted to a girl who like me or text me first... or in case if its just saying hi for the first time

Jedwards · Answer

Personally I tend to like a girl who can text me first, I'm fine texting and all but having someone text back and text whenever is really nice and more attractive to me

Tsusaki · Answer

Yea my girlfriend doesn't do that and it arises questions in my head like if she is even interested or does she think about me or am i the one who has to always start coversation because i always do... yet with her guy bestfriend she would text first... So honestly the female texting first will most definitely earn you some brownie points! :D

Khzir · Answer

Hit or miss...
For me personally, i love when she takes that initiative. It shows me she is interested.

But most importantly... we live in a time where woman are bombarded by guys. So drowned in men, that woman have to filter out and be picky. And because of this, i typically dont initiate. I find it crucial for the woman to initiate because it lays the bridge for conversation far more securely then if a guy starts the conversation.

Ellaki · Answer

I have texted a guy, first, and I regretted it. However it's not wrong to text first, sometimes it works, others doesn't. It also shows you're confident, not desperate

Jdani · Answer

I think that it couldn’t hurt to start a conversation. You may learn a few things about him like how interested he is when you start a conversation with him. Don’t make it obvious what your trying to do. but there isn’t a rule saying you can’t do it. If you like him, give it your best shot. I be confident and adorable. Show him that that there isn’t anyone else worth your time. Good luck with what you decide to do.

JamesS1980 · Answer

Of course not - it's the 21st century, we're supposed to be equal, and one person or the other has to initiate each exchange, why shouldn't it be the woman half the time?

srikr5n · Answer

IMHO, I would say if a girl texts first to guy who is introvert (in the context of the question), then it would be a nice icebreaker to initiate a conversion. The guy would definitely take it as a good sign. It will definitely NOT sound like being desperate. All the best :)

ZephyrPhoenix · Answer

I still love to express my opinion that, no, you don't look desperate unless you are desperate. Little things like asking how your day is going or how they feel isn't a desperate thing! Starting conversation will never be desperate unless you are being desperate, yknow?

Sspaulding728 · Answer

Honestly? No. It makes it easier because 1. I never know what to talk about. and 2. i know from personal experience i never know when a woman is interested unless she just outs and says it.

Rargueta · Answer

No I don't understand these bullshit rules that society put for us guys and girls. Like if you text me first, I ain't going to overanalyze it and think, "Oh this girl is desperate and shit." The same thing the way many girls think of guys if they say hi or continue to talk to them.

jasminefrvr22 · Answer

Ahhgghh it doesn't matter. Just one of you start a convo, doesn't matter who

Alyksandr · Answer

It's a rectangle/square situation desperation is interest, interest is not inherently desperation it depends more on the guy, if you gave a person with asthma steroids it's different than a successful athlete, unfortunately it's a balancing act, but as a guideline more benefit than harm to reach out, it's really a question of risk of having a bad relationship vs losing a good one

TheRedLemon · Answer

Don`t look too much into it, also you should talk to the person instead. This isn`t related but for example saying i love you in reality is 1000 times harder than in text or even voice call.

TekkenTagBattle4 · Answer

No they don't look desperate they look like they're interested there's nothing wrong with that. It would be more disheartening if a woman felt like she was desperate by texting first

ANONdudeSEA · Answer

Not in the slightest. If I am always texting first I usually stop talking to girl cause I assume she's not interested. But you should have that same philosophy if they never text you first maybe time to move on. Also, I know this is almost like a dinosaur now, but don't be afraid to actually talk on the phone...

p1235 · Answer

Absolutely not I see it just as a good thing. Being a bit shy myself I wouldn't necessarily start a conversation even if I kinda wanted to if I don't have exact plan what to say/think

DrSteiner · Answer

You get it, especially introverts will like it. You could simply answer the question yourself: Does a guy seem desperate to you? Guess not so why should you seem desperate to him?

Sauron2099 · Answer

At the beginning, no. Why? Because you can assume that the woman is talking to multiple guys and thus showing interest in you could mean something potentially might happen with where this is going.

Personontheinternet · Answer

Nah, it just shows that they're interested in whoever they're talking to.

KingJoe88 · Answer

Nah... Not desparate... Just interested. Nothing wrong with it. I feel like people spend too much time over analyzing instead of just enjoying ones company.

LordPK20797 · Answer

Guys fucking love it. I really wish a girl would text me first more often. So listen, text him first and if he doesn't respond, don't text again until a few days later.

skel47 · Answer

God no godgodogod nonono please give me a dominant girl. A girl that wants me is a girl i need. Give me dat booty

A5KM3 · Answer

Differs from person to another, I see no problem in that and I think that she is interested rather than easy/desperate. Being introverted

CaaTalam · Answer

Do you know what would be funny is if the guy and girl both thought the same thing and then days weeks months years pass and they never text or call each other

taurus10j · Answer

Love it if a girl text first! Shows initiative. When a girls interest levels are high it makes it more passionate i think.

Afrocentricman · Answer

My last relationship was a lot of problems because she wouldn't talk to me unless I initiated it first. So it was a huge issue for me, so no not at all.

wave_rider · Answer

I like when girls take the initiative, it shows they are genuinely interested and also shows a bit if a personality type I like. If you like the guy, no harm is starting the conversation

Silverblade · Answer

It really shouldn't matter who texts first. Basing one person on a stereotype is wrong in the first place.

SkelatorSarg · Answer

No, unless your first message is begging for something. Content is more important than in which order you message someone in

Mexicoman101 · Answer

No, not to me. They look like they're interested in talking to me. I mean, it depends sometimes on how they approach it, but I never really think that way about women who text me first.

imramdom · Answer

I think it just shows that you are self-aware and that your able to say what you want and when you want it to say.  PS. Some Guys are to shy to start a conversation.

InTimoreDei · Answer

Desperation isn't texting a guy first. Desperation is throwing yourself at a guy and wanting him immediately. Guys would appreciate when a girl texts him first or asks him out first.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

If you're constantly texting first and making an effort in the conversation, then you should be thinking if he's into you. Same goes to guys of course.

M11Rebel · Answer

I don't think it makes you look desperate at all. I personally like it because it shows you are interested in talking to me. If I start the conversation there's times where the conversation dies and I feel like I'm just being annoying.

Secretstemptation · Answer

Um no... every man loves a confident woman you send first text that makes the ball in ur court

mkems · Answer

These games are destroying us to have deep loves and relations anymore. It doesn't matter who texts who, it doesn't matter to act in certain way and pretend to be someone who we are not. If you feel the signal go after it.

weaponsdude · Answer

Not at all, actually. Confidence is one of the most attractive attributes one could have.

Prakbio · Answer

earlier my thought was this but now i don't think like she is desperate it looks like she is interested so am I. so never hesitate to text the one you like, if he/she doesn't reply than no need to text them back its my rule.

Jihhan · Answer

This would be a perfect opportunity to create a poll and see the straight answer. For me it's a no, you don't look desperate when you text first, you look like a normal person who interacts with others just fine...

imredheaded · Answer

You only look desperate if you beg. If you text first you look like you know what you want and want to go for it. Somebody has to message first and it may not be the guy if he is shy or lacks confidence.

babaganoosh · Answer

Communication is normal and in no way an act of desperation.
If they don't want to communicate with you, they simply don't. You won't know if you don't try.
It's not a gender role issue and shouldn't be.

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