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That depends on the guy - I think it might show the guy you appreciate him. I once had a guy become angry at me because I didn't call him for 2 days after the date and he thought I was just using him for money and didn't like him at all. That was not true. I didn't call him cause he didn't call me.
No... seriously text first. Guys don't like seeming "too forward." I don't want to feel like a cocky asshole who just assumes a girl will want to talk to him again. I feel like a girl will assume that if I text first. Asking for her number, or giving her mine is saying "if you're interested in hanging out or being friends let me know via text or phone call." So please text first. It relieves a whole load of anxiety for me.
No not at all. I recently talked to my girl about this because I felt like I was the one always reaching out. I told her it would be nice if she incited conversations. It gets tiring always being the one to reach out and talk. When a lady reaches out it shows us guys that we are missed and they're thinking abut us.
Women are full of shit, seriously. Women have too much time to think about the meaningless things.
So basically here's what happens: women think they can be seen as hoes because:
1. They text first
2. If they initiate an approach
3. If they ask for a date
4. If they look at a man first
5. If they like sex
6. If they sleep with many men
Geez, you women are so full of shit nowadays. When did all this start rolling? In the late 80's? 90's?
No wonder you're all single when you hit your late 30's.
I agree in part and disagree in part on this comment but it has a lot of facts in it
@TekkenTagBattle4 thanks for agreeing in part.
Being an introvert myself I can honestly say that I prefer women that will message me whenever they want to instead of worrying about what to say or when. Everyone has different preferences but I don't see it as desperate. I see it more as being confident in yourself.
Every person is different and as you mentioned and introvert might see this as something really good as this makes things easy but an extrovert might see this as an opportunity to take advantage.
Personally I think that it doesn't matter especially if the guy likes you back. But some people might think they have the higher ground because of this, so just be careful as how the talk talk to you and have fun.
I think the notion that a guy always has to text first is ridiculous. Sometimes a guy may feel a certain level of apprehension to text first due to the prospect of rejection. If a girl texts first, we at least know that she's not uninterested which makes things a whole lot less complicated.
No your showing interest something that a lot of guys have a hard time sensing or noticing right away when they conversate with a girl they like. Since it is very common for women to start conversations with guys its much easier for a man to pick up and know that the woman is interested in them and as long as your not blowing up their phone your good. 😂
100% No. It just sends a signal of potential of interest from her! Just don't keep texting multiple times, 2 is your limit for engaging in a convo. When a girl texts more than 3 times it starts to look desperate especially if the guy isn't that interested. If a guy is interested this can be a god send or a turn off depending on where they are at. So don't spam just keep it minimal and you should get a reply if they are interested.
No not in my opinion for it would be cool if someone messaged me first sometimes like i have an anxiety disorder (ik its fairly common) and its hard to build up the courage also it shows you are willing to take at least some of the power in the relationship whuch for me is very attractive I personally want an even relationship you know? I don't know im just tired of feeling like im a caretaker rather than a partner
To be honest, I appreciate women who text me first. It lets me know that they appreciate our conversations and I tend to prioritise replying them first. A woman who can start or hold a conversation is a plus for me.
Oh ya. Big time. Makes you look uber desperate. Even if you text back second... you should let him text first, wait a week for him to text back again... and keep waiting some more after that before you finally text him. The less you text him, the more It creates anticipation and it shows you're actually interested in him
No it means she is interested in talking to the guy. I don’t see how it makes the girl look desperate. Unless like she keeps texting the guy when the guy Doesn’t reply. Same goes for the guy. If the guy keeps texting without the girl replying then he will probably be seen as desperate.
In my eyes, no. Someone has to text first, male or female. I've never really seen the act of texting someone first as desperate. If you're worried abou this personally, consider what you're typing instead. Wording and punctuation plays a big part in how you come off to people.
Ditto, best answer.
Texting first. My gosh, what has this world come to. It's bad enough my grandma's scared of the vacuum cleaner, now we're worried about texting first
I only text, I don't call unless it's someone important like an attorney
Nah, I don't think so. I have no problem with girls initiating conversations online through texting, though I would want to do it myself. So girls who text first don't bother me, I don't have a problem with that as I feel it as girls who aren't afraid or aren't hesitant to go after what they want.
9 times out of ten I wait for her to text first. It comforts me to know she's interested, and I can get a general feel for how confident she is and what she wants based on the content of the text. It also never goes unnoticed because I know it breaks social norms to a degree, so if we vibe well I'll make an extra effort for her in return in some other area.
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No prob :)
I sometimes start the conversation if i know i have something to say. I think text who you want, i dont like making it complicated with the waiting game.
We like it better if you pick up the phone and call us. Texting is too informal and you can't get a feel about what we are feeling in our reaction. Calling is more person and u can get more of what we you looking for instead of beating around the bush with texting. You can learn more about person through a more personal interaction then behind a computer screen.
From what my guy friends had told me It does not look desperate it just shows them that you are friendly. Plus guys hate it when they feel that they have to play the guessing game.
Im more introverted and i always hear about this. Boys tell dont text girl youl look desprete and girls tell to girls dont text boys he will know your desperate. I say don't care about its so stupit and angry me, do what you feel if it doesn't go it doesn't