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Do girls look desperate if they text first? (Page 4)
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Nah not at all
I love when girls do that
it boost the confidence that you like us too and you are confident
just make sure you dont text 100 times a day
then you would look desperate and a total turn off...
Once a guy is comfortable he will be the first to text dont worry
I don't get where this misconception comes from about girls initiating. If she starts being stalkerish or annoying it's desperate obviously but a girl that has the guts to flirt with me first, ask me out or text me first is very attractive she comes off as confident.
I don't understand why young ladies say 16 to 24 have these gender role question still.
Be yourself, do things, when you think they should be done, as needed and to get things done.
Each intelligent person has not only the ability but the right to get things done and to do what needs to be done. You can do what you want to do. I would just add what my grandfather's told me everything in moderation.
Just make sure to play tennis. If he doesn't hit back equally save yourself the trouble and walk away. Something I should have done. But I got dicked around by flakey behaviour.
🙋♀️same girl, same🤦♀️
:) yup
it is very good way to start every thing You gonna do in life, make first step :) but with guys You have to be carefull, the fact that You was at offense at start is always positive, but after a while, if You still be too offensive and guy will have to always go and hide by yours back could be problematic in long time distances. by the way there are some manly men's that just are scared when woman have bigger kohones ;)
No, it does not, "desparate" are the ones that want to but don't have the courage to do so because of the fear of others judging them.
Still, same as guys, girls should avoid the generic "Hi!" starter.
I myself think it shows confidence in herself to text first and is a sure sign that she is interested. Much of the time a woman won't show interest and a guy will lose interest in her. For a woman to text first does not indicate being easy or desperate.
That's cause you are mature. Some guys are really odd
Maybe so but I like a woman that knows what she wants. So many dont.
That's great. Refreshing for sure
No it doesn't. It can form part of a body of texting behaviour, or even a body of broader behaviour, which signals desperation.
I think many of us struggle with this. Texting is a new form of language use, and there are many subtle ways we succeed or fail to communicate our feelings. Currently I can't figure out why a girl I know texts like my dad--shortest possible texts needed to be useful. Utilitarian texting I guess. Who the heck texts like that? Geez.
For me if I was talking to a guy I knew was interested in me and I felt comfortable enough I would but I wouldn’t if i wasn’t, there is a guy that when I see in person tells me to message him but I don’t because I feel like he isn’t that interested in talking to me and it would make me seem desperate
Well you made wise choices
Yeah because if he was interested wouldn’t he message me if I didn’t message him yet?
Who knows
Lmao hell no please do this more. Makes me feel like I'm going out of my way to talk to you and being a disturbance as well. I'm sure you feel this way to please babes text first every once and awhile
People need to stop thinking that if a woman asks a guy out or if she contacts him first that she is desperate
Many guys are too shy to make the first move so it's great to see women making the first move instead
Texting first shows confidence and that you know what you want and what are your goals, so text first, It is completely annoying to always have to text first being a guy, you doesn't even know how rare it is to find a girl that starts a conversation, when that happens it's like finding a diamond in a sea of rocks :D
I don't know why people still bother on this kind of stuff. It does not matter if someone take 1 min or 10 decades to respond, who starts the conversation etc... I personally text when I want to, if I am free and have nothing important I will text the person. I only think if someone is always online 24/7 then this person has nothing going in his life and he should stop using his phone and start chasing his goals.
U r doing the right thing... Don't overthink it. About guys thinking that you r desperate, those guys would think that about u even if u don't anything.
My advice u like something u make a move for it.
In your case he being introvert I think what u r doing if the best way to get to know his feelings. Other methods would calls, face to face talks etc
It is defined by chemistry... some guys act differently with different types of girls... i once had a girlfriend whom always took "the lead " in most our outings, which was quite the contrary to why I was normally accustomed... needless to say that one girlfriend was perhaps the best one I had during my high school years... but I think it's plausible for girls to show their interest just as much... it's something technology has favored girls too... I still send short letters by mail even today..
God no, more girls need to initiate conversation, if the dude ends up being weird or anything, just stop talking to him and start a conversation with someone else
No, you don't look desperate. If you like a guy, talk to him. We aren't psychics. And honestly, if you do, he's going to remember it, and remember it as a good sign. Talk away!
Oh god I hope not lol in my opinion it just shows that you like him and have had guys think I don't like them because i didn't text them so I guess not
You're overanalyzing. There is no "guys" or "girls". Everyone perceives things differently. If a guy likes you back, he'll actually like you making the move of course. Besides, there's nothing wrong with initiating a conversation via text or in person. Desperation is something else. And other desperate peoples actually like desperate people.
This thing they call the game, its so silly. Nobody talks, everyone is scared to be first and all that. Wait 3 days and shit like that. But why? If I like someone , I won't say it right away, but I won't hide it. I send a text the day after or I might even later the same day. Just a hi it was nice to meet you, looking forward to see you again. Just a easy simple and to the point, no details.