Why didn't he mention he has a girlfriend? Was I played?

[Anonymous]

In my biology lab I met this guy who I talked to frequently. The conversations were long and interesting, and I felt like he was attracted to me because I would sometimes catch him staring at me.

After the semester ended and school started back up again, When I saw him again unexpectedly, he gave me a hug, and complimented me. I told him where I worked on campus, and the following week he came to my job because he wanted to "talk". I talked to him about casual stuff and without hesitating he said he was very "busy" this weekend. He always asks me what I'm doing after my shift ends to I guess chill before classes. I added him on facebook to find out he has a girlfriend.

Why didn't he tell me he had a girlfriend when I saw him the first time. I had to find out through facebook which annoys me because he doesn't act like he has a girlfriend around me. I know you aren't obligated to mention personal stuff but in the past when I was dating a guy I told him. I figured the "friendship" was more casual. If you wanna be friends you usually disclose stuff like that!

Help Guys!

[Anonymous]

Yeah well it seems l;ike he was gonna start something with you but right now he hasn't really asked you out or made any promises or date you to make you feel like he was playin you. yeah, I know you felt like he liked you by starin and the compliments but he really didn't lead you on and I think its because you felt like yall were about to become something that when you found out he had a girl you were a little disappointed. But no what he has been doin is normal cause he may find you attractive and enjoyed lookin at you a nd complimenting you, seeing you but may have never intended to cross that line with you at least not yet cause now its too early. So no you were not played. I just think he has a crush on you like you do and just never mentioned a gilfriend for whatever reason or maybe he was just being friendly. he would have only played you if he asked you out on a date or made futuire plans with you, things like that.

[Starling]

Unless my boyfriend is specifically related to conversation somehow, I don't typically bring him up. It's really annoying when people just say "Oh, I'm in a relationship" when it has no context. And to me, it doesn't seem like he showed any romantic interest in you. More like, good friends.

[Asker]

You see last week I didn't even bring up the weekend and he blabbed out "oh I'm studying this, this, and that". Then the other day I asked him how his weekend was and he couldn't give me a straight answer. I figured when you're friends with someone you tell them about the important stuff to them!

[Anonymous]

going through the same thing, but he says he has a girlfriend and fb says he's single :/ idk. whatever.

[Dan2287]

Hey I've been in a situation like this too (although I think the girl was BSin me...). Throughout the whole semester she was showing interest in me and not ONCE did she mention a boyfriend. I ask for her number, she gives me that no problem. Then I ask her out and she says she has plans with her boyfriend...WTF?

I guess some people don't like to disclose that info for whatever reason. And maybe he just likes you as a friend? He obviously likes you and maybe if his current Girlfriend isn't working out, he'll go after you. His girlfriend might also be something very very recent - who knows

And don't put too much value into facebook - some people take that too far...

[Asker]

I don't however if you are willing to make a relationship public on the internet then why would you hide it in real life?! I thought friends talked about details on their life! I know someone isn't obligated to blert out "yea I have a girlfriend (or bf)" but if you wanna be friends then you talk about your life and what you do with yourself.

[martyfellow]

Who knows what the relationship is currently. Facebook is often out of date, right? People take a while before deleting former significant others.

Don't assume he just playing, Probably the girlfriend is history on or the way there so he's open to other ideas!