We started talking for a month & eventually we got physically intimate (had sex) & I jokingly said who are you texting your girlfriend? And he said “I don’t have a gf” then he says “she’s in another state she won’t know” I’m in shock and hurt because I didn’t know he had a girlfriend? Did he play me?
Yes he most certainly did play you and the reason why he didn't hesitate to do exactly what he did to you is because he is under the belief and impression that it is not considered cheating or wrong of one of them are in a different area code or zip code!
He believes it is a perfectly okay and cool thing to have sex with another person as long as you are in a different area code or zip code as your relationship partner! And as a male is a socially polyamous and believes that multiple sexual partners is a perfectly normal thing! Whereas a monogamous male is the opposite of that and believes in having only one partner for a mate!
It's up to you to decide on which one of those is the correct answer or belief!
It will be best to discuss such matters before having sex. It should be clear what your existing relationship status is and what you expect, for example a sexually exclusive relationship.
Even as a guy I need this clarification.
The question "What are we?" some time after the first sex will often not have the answer you are hoping for.
Yes but also kind alert yourself get played! How many dates before sex? How well does he know you?
Could you have easily hid a husband?
Yes you got played but really just. Amonth I push back dates longer then that!
Next time don't let. Guy have sex with you for like 3 months so you know he does not have a girlfriend!
My sister does this so much also! Like you don't know him then you feel cheated on after he was honest when you asked! Why not just ask before sex?
Unfortunately yes he’s playing you leave the relationship. One of the many reasons why putting out is not Good
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because he's a pathetic slimball?
was he drunk?
back in the olden days, people would get a ring and a dowry. That model was a decent one...
credit this one to women's lib and the corruption of mankind. hope for the best.
If you are expecting people to be honest, pure, truethful, get another idea...
Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex.
That was love and marriage.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This is what freedom and equality looks like.
Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex.
That was love and marriage.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This is what freedom and equality looks like.
There is a simple way to prevent this from happening again. Ask whatever moron you decide to have sex with if he has a girlfriend, BEFORE you have sex for the first time. Get a clear 'yes or no' response. Problem solved.
I wouldn’t say you were played. You were deceived. Even if you had asked there was a girlfriend, he would have lied anyway.
That is a risk both women and men take with someone new.
Live, learn, expect and don’t be surprised.
Deception grasshopper... and this guy's pretty openly smug about it too. You must be nice and live in a fairly well off area... I know more than a few females that'd be showing up at his door armed, to kick in his door and teach him a lesson.👀This is the point where the decision you make will determine in large part what you attract from here on out for awhile-because it'll show-and guys will be able to tell. Self respect, or belief you can change him?
You really don't know when you've been played? If anything he was totally dishonest with you and was a freaking cheater. Be glad to be rid of this person.
Talking for a month. That’s the time you ask before you become physical. Learn your lesson.
When they can get away…they will.
The fact that you don't actually know the answer to that question makes me super nervous and gives a shit ton of anxiety to your whole generation
You know the answer, you just do not wish to admit and face the consequences
You have to trick them early on. Talking, talking, talking, "what color is your girlfriend's hair?" "Brown." Gotcha.
If he told you he had a girlfriend would you still have had sex with him? There is your answer.
Well yeah obviously he played you, what else would you call it lol
We're not required to tell if we have a girlfriend or not, just like you're not required to tell us if you have a boyfriend or not
A girl has done this to me but without the sex part. She didn’t give me a direct answer when I asked if she had boyfriend she said she was interested in me little later she said”the truth is”then she admitted to having a boyfriend
Having sex that quickly with anyone is a bad idea 👎
It’s important to get to truly know someone before any physical intimacy comes into place. 🤓
For many guys, sex is a weapon 🔪
Ouch, best to stop talking to that liar, and yes he played you.
I think it’s pretty obvious he did, I wouldn’t recommend associating with him.
That’s so bad! Which country did he say his girlfriend was from? Because I have a long distance boyfriend in America
No. You are his side piece, is all.
He obviously played you.
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