A beautiful younger woman I'm seeing likes to go out almost every night of the week. Bars, clubs, sheesha bars, coffee shops or all three. She goes out and get home in the early hours. I haven't been dating her long. She graduated from uni a year ago and doesn't have a job. She lives with and is supported by them.
She drinks alcohol, but generally quite slowly so she's probably not out trying to get hammered drunk.
She doesn't gave any normal hobbies except going out.
I am not the jealous type, and i do NOT want to impose any kind of control on her life.
But I am concerned about her behaviour. Why does she feel the need to constantly go out? What is she really looking for out there? What is she missing inside?
Often she takes many hours to message me back because she's out and busy. There's been times where I ask for her input into making plans with me and it can take days because she's always so busy socialising. It's a bit annoying. But I don't necessarily think it's a deal breaker because I don't understand it.
I really just want to understand this behaviour. Is it something I should be wary of. Does it pose a risk to my building a relationship with her?
Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
Yes. Sounds like your girlfriend is enjoying the life of a single unattached woman and not really looking for a stable relationship with someone. People who aren't interested in being tied down with a guy or girl constantly go out and are NEVER home they also, do not return phone calls too often or put people off for invitations for dates because they are either booked up with plans to go out on the town with friends or already have dates with other people. If you are looking for someone who is more interested in a steady courtship with you and wants to go out as a couple and doesn't have a problem staying home once in a while with her boyfriend, you might want to look for another woman to date.
Look imagine she wasn’t beautiful. She was a ugly or unattractive young woman without a job or responsibilities. Would you still be trying to get with her? She party n drink to much to avoid the fact she can’t get a job in what she study. That pretty sad n it’s not your job to save or help her. Imagine if your guy friend was jobless n always partying. I am pretty sure you would think he wasting his life. Maybe I am too stupid or too smart but I rarely go out n I do it to experience something different. But I would be in a panic attack if my college after plans failed.
This is the downfall of dating someone young. Yeah, they’rd hot. But they’re young and this type of behavior is how most young folks operate. You’re curious & have lots of energy. She may not be ready to be tied down into something serious.
Girls like going out becaus there's plenty of guys who will buy them drinks or give them coke for free... her going out shouldn't effect you as long as you don't mind dating a mud cricket... If she's got no job how do you think she stays juiced up all night every night...
No, it's not okay. It appears like she's not ready to get into a serious relationship yet and wants to enjoy being single. Her idea of her relationship with you might be different from yours.
Sorry to say it's probably over. Unless you can make serious, never ending compromises, and she's a unicorn.
By unicorn, I'm speaking of a person, male or female, that will remain faithful.
The conflict occurs when the lines are drawn and crossed. Alcohol and drugs play their roles in our real-life decision making process and how we are perceived by our partners.
Eventually though, you'll have to make a stand. Sooner the better.
I wouldn't get my hopes up in thinking she wants to date you exclusively. You can't build a relationship with someone who takes days to respond to your text. Just be careful as I think you may get hurt in the end. Just my humble opinion.
I do make effort. I'm happy to go out with her. But I can't go out 5 nights a week because I work 5 days a week. And to be honest I don't understand what she enjoys so much about being out all the time. Maybe you can tell me what it is?
It's because you have different priorities in life.. You have work while she is not that busy with other stuff so she fills her time by going out with friends..
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