Why good men are invisible to girls?

[NhuanVan]

I mean there are a lot of good men become invisible to girls eyes like they don’t exist and at time girls don’t give them a chance or their time to hangout. Why?

[Lance1965]

A lot of men are not as good as they think they are, at least not from the point of view of the average woman. We all like to think we are a good catch but that doesn't mean we are. It is all very subjective and what you see in the mirror is not always what everyone else sees. It is true some women have unrealistically high standards but they are not all like that. We all are rejected from time to time, that is normal but if it keeps on happening there is a good chance you are doing something wrong.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Mainly because "good" is highly subjective and often boring.

[NhuanVan]

So good is bad and dull?

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

It can be dull - depends on your personality. The point is, you have to be exciting or at least interesting to women in order to make progress with dating them. I said "good" is highly subjective because everyone has their own ideas about what makes a person good vs. not good and that may not translate over to someone else.

[23Lotus]

I can't speak for every girl, but speaking for myself, I've met guys that are good people, but they wouldn't be good to get to know/date due to our differing interests, personalities, or just there not being any attraction on my end towards them.

[cystal]

Speak for yourself. My opinion I don't know about other woman but for me it's the retraction I have to be attracted to you if I'm interested in you.

[NhuanVan]

How much attraction do you to be interest in a guy?

[cystal]

His looks his intelligence his honesty his behavior his real quality in a relationship the same way you guys are attracted to women. But sometimes you guys go for the wrong women that you know is way out of your league or you know that's not interested in you.

[NhuanVan]

So that mean you have a very long list of traits in a guy you are looking for. Do they even exist?

[NhuanVan]

I mean good look with intelligent is like opposite trait. There no guy that have everything and super perfect.

[cystal]

I did not say it that the guy is perfect. I'm just saying that I'm not going to date someone I'm not attracted to. Is the same way you wouldn't date someone that you're not attracted to

[NhuanVan]

True. Tell me more of your view. I love to learn more about it.

[cystal]

I can't explain why it's just like I said everybody has a attraction to someone

[AM-205]

I think the Good Men know not to stare, and google at the girls, but the Girls see that as attraction, from the bad boys.

[DeVille_]

A lot of "nice guys" are actually manipulative and abusive so that's my guess why. Also they might just not be attracted to you.