What we do know is that men communicate overtly, and women communicate covertly. Women are masters at innuendo, passive aggressive, and there's a hidden meaning to everything. They'll even look for that in what a man says but it's just not there. Men are very direct, there is no hidden meaning to what they're saying. If you want them to understand something you have to be clear and direct, otherwise they just don't get it.
So women are the masters at communication but men just don't get all that, so it's confusing. And the women expect the men to understand it all from their perspective but they just don't. So some of this is seen as 'playing hard to get'.
She will make hints and suggestions, all the why hoping he'll ask her out, make a move, or pop the question - all code for getting him to do something. She does this instead of being direct.
So it's nobody's fault, it's just the way it works. And women have been told to hide their feelings so the guy doesn't think she's easy, or is really into him, which is a mistake because he simply sees it as lack of interest, lack of passion, non-attraction.
And he doesn't have all those feelings and emotions swirling around in his head like she does, so she has trouble reading his level of interest.
And worse, today we have a lot of just simple lack of passion, lots of 'meh' relationships. I'm not sure where the passion is, or what happened to it, but it makes these dating relationships rather boring.
Playing hard to get means you're trash pump and dump material. Being hard to get means you're wifey material.
I would consider myself as hard to get in the point of view of many people. But im Not.
I Like humans and spending quality time with anyone, even if it just talking or clubbing. I flirt and I smile often, cracking jokes without actually being trying to be funny but that is how other sees me. It doesn't matter If you're male or female.
For the most parts I annalyze everyone secretive to find out who is just drawn by my charme and personality to spend good time or WHO is just interested to engange in erotic activities. I don't wanna spend my time with this kind of games that's where honest ist a huge Thing.
The thing here is I know what I want and you're not the one I want. I let you know. So don't consider myself being friendly to you AS a chance to getting laid even If I said im not interested. If im saying No but being still friendly to you it isn't Play hard to get. Simply it means I like you AS friend but Im not interested.
What I would call a friend is Somebody accepting me for WHO Iam but themselves smart enough to know Iam being friendly with everyone and Just not interested in anyone enough to engange in anything.
If I want to experience erotic I am confindent enough to saying so. So don't push me and don't put a Label in me for having self respect.
Keyword, "girls" women dont play hard to get. we dont have time for that.
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I don't know but sometimes when I am just trying to befriend women, I feel like they think I am chasing them for a relationship or sex and they start to play hard to get, they would comment on my posts and have conversations there again and again but won't follow me back or respond to my private messages, sometimes they would ignore my private messages for days while at the same they are commenting on my posts and having conversations there, everything is a mind game with women and you can't even make some female friends without the mind games and it's annoying as fuck, so I just back out
-When she looks at you from afar but doesn't when you are close.
-When she acts like she likes you one day, but acts like she don't even notice you the next.
-When she stops textin you, and waits til you text back..
-When she is hot then goes cold, then hot again.. Stuff like that..
You text her, she texts back 1-2 days later. You reply to that text within 5-10 minutes, yet again she waits another 1-2 days to respond despite having JUST messaged you and obviously having her phone on her.
You then move on and she double/triple/quadriple etc texts you within 5 minutes of sending "hey" getting pissed off at you for not caring about her.
Trying to act aloof or indifferent when the guy is trying to talk to her is probably the biggest thing. Women who are attractive, or even think they're attractive, are typically the ones who play hard to get. I don't like women like that, so I have no interest in talking to them.
I hate them!!!
One time i ask for the number of a girl.. she was with her friends (her friends got excited about my confidence) but to not look desperate in front of the friends just said "my number is 36" (the soe number) i said "sorry not looking for cinderella"... went away never look back
half hour later was smiling to me... didint care lol
Ignoring a guy sends the message that you're not interested. The whole "you have to make the guy chase you" thing is pretty stupid, really. It's as senseless the whole thing of dropping subtle hints and then getting frustrated when the guy doesn't pick up on them. Guys hate guessing games and would rather be able to tell if you're interested or not. The whole "playing hard to get" thing is completely unnecessary and stupid. Being more straightforward and direct is actually what guys prefer.
Its a game of cat and mouse... You give him a slight impression that you're interested like holding eye contact, and then look away. It stimulates him, he has an idea in the back of his mind but you're silently gauging his interest.. how crazy does it drive him? To what extent will he pursue me?
The only hard to get I ever came across was this way intimately speaking. I quickly pointed out to her, that her doing this was not turning me on. Her reply was, "yeah it does and you know it..." An emphatic no was equally dismissed by her. So while getting up I said, "let's do something else just so I could see the expression on her face. Priceless! So was the, "uuuh... okay."
Women used to send mixed signals, by example, I don't want to be with anyone with a needy voice.
Or I don't know if I want to stay with you, when she is asking to step forward.
Or she tells you that you will find her, and a Hobbie and expect you search her in Google to find where to meet with her.
Basically anyone that does this is a fucking idiot. People. Be real. Be honest. Don’t waste your time.
Bat shit crazy girls that are so socially and sexually retarded, that they don't even know how to get laid, let alone form some sort of relationship with someone that they "may or may not be" attracted to.
Who's got time for games like that. That's like a high school thing. The fact that we are picky or less likely to make the first move makes us naturally hard to get. But you should never play.
I wonder how many actually play that stupid game that makes it so fucking hard for the ones that can't seem to get the guy to leave us the fuck alone...
Being indirect and not straightforward. I personally frown at playing hard to get because I don’t have time for games, but I understand why it’s a thing.
If she is trying to be subtle instead of being direct with me.. feigning disinterest while dropping me a crumb trail of interest to keep the chase on, etc.
I really don't like that. I want direct women.
Lol funny thing is that guys i turn down think im just “playing hard to get”. Safe to assume she’s not playing hard to get, but is literally rejecting you.. unless y’all still in high school then maybe yeah girls play that shit.
Ignoring texts or short replies.
Refusing opportunities to spend time together.
Basically anything that rejects interest.
"Hard to get" is toxic behaviour and obviously guys don't like it.
Don’t change. Don’t change at all please.
Most women are naturally round about and less direct about what they want. They expect men to make the first move and call the shots. Not always but usually. But not all men like calling the shots because risk of rejection is present every step.
Hmm I usually think the lack of communication is a girls way of playing hard to get or maybe they are busy the standard of how they respond says a lot but other details about them can say more.
I guess by acting like they dislike you but at the same time always around cause they do
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