Girls, do you feel like you are not feminine enough?

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Ik its silly but I hear guys saying all the time how they don't feel they're manly enough but I never really hear girls talk about it. When I go out and see other girls with their hair and makeup done perfectly and looking like they put a lot of time in their appearance I feel like I'm being a bad girl because I'm too lazy to put in that much effort and don't have the money for things like getting my nails/hair done. I get really insecure about my feminity, or rather the lack there of. What about you?

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

You make a good point. But maybe separate the idea a little - you can be put together without wearing stilletos, and be groomed and not unkempt. Do your hair and nails mostly yourself at home. Doesn't have to be all the time, but you may even walk a little taller when you are out and about, just for yourself. As for makeup, guys have a wide array of opinions on that. It's up to you if you want a lot, a little, or probably in between. Makeup makes a better version of every woman. Some men are even a bit jealous they have no such easy way to improve their face (not that they want to wear the makeup though.) Looking good, and making effort, gets you advantages in life, and even for yourself and own progress through life, that is a good thing.

foriWish · Accepted Answer

Girl I feel you. I don't think I'm that feminine either and I'm not sure if that's a bad thing... I don't get my hair and nails done. I have makeup but I'm bad at applying it and I'm too lazy to watch hundreds of youtube videos to figure it out ( I watched a few though). My hair is always in a bun, never down, wild, and free. I feel I have disappointed my fellow beautiful women who work it every single day. Not sure if I really care though... hm

The weird thing is though, I have everything I need to look like a stereotypically feminine woman. I have hot dresses , killer heels, girlie clothing, nail polish, skirts, etc. However, I have own jeans and t-shirts and I mainly wear those types of clothing. Wonder why...

roxy_362 · Accepted Answer

As girls, we all have those moments, believe me. Even if we have the time/money/opportunity to look feminine, a particular moment or day can ruin our self-esteem. This might happen even when others assure us that we look feminine enough. But, the problem often is how we view ourselves, not how others see us.

I think guys have similar issues for not feeling manly enough like you said, but I'll leave it to them to comment on it. However, as a girl, I hope you'll realize that you are not alone in those feelings in any way.

Hidden_P · Accepted Answer

All the time.

I essentially raised myself. I’m the youngest of 5 and the only girl. My mother, when she wasn’t abusing me, was ignoring me or working. I had to learn everything myself or friends (and this is before the internet and I didn’t get pocket money so no magazines).

I’m the least feminine person ever and at times I hate it. All my “girly” ways are pretty bodged lol. I cannot moisturise daily for instance and I can only paint my nails if I paint my skin too and pick off the excess.

jolospongebob · Accepted Answer

I like to see a good make-up, Hair and nail job and also want to learn how to do make-up and i feel manly enough its Just something in your mind what you think if you are a female you are always feminine if you are a man you are always manly

blondfrog · Accepted Answer

I am a guy and sometimes I feel I am not masculine enough.

Aidelwaish · Answer

I feel im not super feminine , but im definitely not girly.

Im cheerful, bubbly, cheeky, likes joking, and loves adventure.. thats why i can't say im that feminine. The way i dress not pinky girly, i like simple elegant style.

And for you, if u think ure not feminine enough, its okay. That kinda thinh should come naturally from you. If u feel u wanna look more feminine, of course u should do more effort. But if u are lazy and dont wanna do that, it means, this is you. Sometimes, in time u will change.

yikeserino · Answer

I feel feminine in different ways. I don't like makeup, don't like my hair done, no nails, and fairly blunt. At the same time, I do like wearing something that makes me feel sexy and feminine, I enjoy pampering my skin, and I love feminine smells. Everyone has masculine and feminine traits, whether or not we want to admit it. I feel like if we dismiss our feminine aspects we further the idea of "not like other girls", which isn't true.

shimmeryns · Answer

I have never thought about it and I feel I am feminine enough being born as a female... I think doing hair, makeup, getting nails done etc are just ways to look more polished, appearance wise. Not doing them doesn't make a woman any less feminine unless if she tries to look more tomboy.

kaewk · Answer

Femininity to me isn’t about makeup and fake nails it’s more about how you conduct yourself.. having modesty in speech and appearance. A girl caked in makeup, spouting out curse words every 5 minutes is not feminine at all.

So by my definition, I am feminine despite me not having fake nails, makeup, or my hair done every two weeks. I have never been insecure about my femininity.

R_Cakes91 · Answer

Dude, I don’t own makeup, heels, my hair is always natural and I don’t own a hair dryer. Your femininity isn’t about doing your hair and makeup, it’s about how you act too. Don’t worry about those women who are always down up, a lot of them look scary without their clown masks anyways.

But yes, I understand how you feel. I have man shoulders that I am very insecure about but I just choose an athletic job and then I feel so much better about having a less feminine body.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I’ve stressed over this forever. Im not really masculine - more not especially gendered like a tree, lol. I like reading, thinking, being out in nature, etc. I’m quiet and kind of withdrawn. The cutsie girls who know how to coo and charm are so much better! Their confidence and charisma makes me jealous, but it is what it is. I enjoy my solitary weirdness just the same.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like it all the time. I’m not very good at stereotypical girly things. I can’t do my own hair or make up very well, I can’t walk in heels, and I dress like a boy most days. Sometimes I wish I were more girly. It would make it easier for me to make friends with other girls. I don’t have a lot of girl friends because most other girls assume I’m gay or we just don’t have many common interests.

Anonymous · Answer

I grew up with a twin sister and we were the expected opposites. She was a girly girl and I was the Tom boy. As we became teenagers I always felt inferior and jealous of her and started to take interest in girly things but everyone in my family judged me and called it out of character. I always wish now that I had been more feminine at a younger age because doing pampering activities or dressing up now makes me feel uncomfortable even though I enjoy the idea of it.

MinaSuzy97 · Answer

It depends on the person's definition of "feminine" some consider it in makeup and fashion style as feminine some consider it shyness & cuteness others see it as sexiness and confidence. So it depends !

GenericGirlFace · Answer

I wear eyeliner every day, accentuate my more feminine features, and I still feel I am not feminine enough some days. In a society of glam makeup gurus and yoga pants, I don't know if any of us will ever feel as feminine as we see other women.

Lynzerilee · Answer

I feel you girl. Same here, i'm not into make up although I like to wear cute clothes. Being petite and pretty much curveless also adds to my insecurity.
But I do realize that every girl in the world has her own insecurities.

vikeesi · Answer

I don't have a feminine face which often upsets me. I think my body is feminine. I am very androgynous so I could dress like a bloke one day and elegant the next. I like to look feminine on those days.

Gypsy_x · Answer

Femininity doesn't have to be about hair and nails. I feel feminine after a shower, or in pyjamas, or in active wear.  I feel feminine. I'm not girly, but I love being a woman.

Imafreespirit · Answer

No. i don't do make up or any of those 'girly' things society says we should do as women but that does not make less feminine.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

No , I also don’t do my makeup daily. Nor do I care too much because when push comes to show I can cook and crochet circles around the competition

MajesticTwelve · Answer

No not at all, but I do feel like I'm often discouraged or thought of as a lesser girl for acting like one.

SydneySentinel · Answer

I'm a tomboy in my actions and probably some in my style. I still feel very feminine.

mistixs · Answer

Yeah I'm neither feminine nor masculine. I don't understand women or men.

AuroraRoseat · Answer

I honestly don’t care to be subjected to archaic societal gender norms. I am what I am.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, because "femininity" and "masculinity" are just a social construct... gender roles were invented by the religion.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a really feminine girl but sometimes I feel weird about it... after all it shouldn't be counted as my "power" the way that my traditional society taught me

Thotkiana · Answer

Yes because i look like a man with long hair and boobs

Anonymous · Answer

I am feminine but at the same time I can be a bit like one of the guys and not be a complete tomboy.

Babygirl_S · Answer

No but I don't think hair, makeup etc are the only things that define femininity.

Tom_E · Answer

Set your own standards to live by! wtf is "feminine enough" lmao

LuWe22 · Answer

No. I´m feminine enough. I love my long beautiful hair and my boobs and butt

fromp · Answer

I hate girls that are too feminine, but sometimes I like them

Anonymous · Answer

All I'm saying is, if you want a "masculine" man, then shouldn't you be a "feminine" woman?

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Meh. I stopped doing my hair once I had kids 😂😂

ElizaPam · Answer

No I am pretty girly and I’m happy with myself

Cuppo_Mode · Answer

You ever heard of a thing called a tomboy?

LtJackass · Answer

Girl: "God, I wish I wasn't so tall" *Is 5'7

ninaneedshelp · Answer

Maybe because men see manliness differently

kayaleyla285 · Answer

I would always never want to be feminine enough.

Secret6620 · Answer

All the time 😎🖤

bigboobemma · Answer

@desperatelyhungry you single

choosen1979 · Answer

Sometimes i do

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