Guys, why are you so repulsed by girls who play "Hard To Get", but then girls who are "Easy To Get" you call sluts? (Page 2)
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There are a couple things going on here. One is that “hard to get” and “easy” are not opposites though they sound like it.
“hard to get” means feigned (or real!) disinterest where you have to pursue her very actively to get anywhere.
“easy” means “has sex quickly and/or outside a relationship with guys who meet her requirements”.
so a girl can actually be both, neither or only one. A lot of relationship minded guys are looking for girls who are neither: they show interest and aren’t playing games and are clear about being interested in exploring a relationship but also don’t fuck that fast or outside relationships.
I try to be fairly honest about who I am, what I want, etc. I don't ever want someone feeling used or like they would regret their time with me. I try not to play games like that, but I definitely flirt a lot.
Women who play hard to get because they want to are one thing, women who play hard to get because there are a lot of annoying or messed up guys are another.
I'm fairly patient, but when it comes to meeting people I am more inclined to talk to people who will, you know, talk
If I'm being totally frank, for me it comes down to a combination of desire vs how much effort I'm willing to put in.
In general I prefer a chase, because it shows the girl has a sense of self worth, which I think is important. But if a hot girl is into me and I don't have to bother that much... Hey, good times. 😇
I don't use the word "slut" except if you're a man and we're friends.
If you enjoy sex, one Night stand and shits I'm happy for you, you're not a slut to me.
And yeah I can fall in love of both of them, it's really a feeling vibe. The girls I could have date the most used to call themselves "sluts" cause they enjoyed sex a lot and where hunting men.
I really don't care. If you love dicks I got one.
Not playing hard to get does not imply easy. They are very different. Playing hard to get implies, being difficult to date. Most guys give up after asking a couple of times or if once they go out, she often turns him down.
Easy implies easy to f**k which means she has probably f**ked lots of guys. A girl doesn't have to play hard to get and be easy. She might quickly agree to date but take 3 months, a year, or be engaged, before she will f**k.
Its goldilocks all over again, not too easy, not to hard to get. not too big, not too small. The 'just right' might exist in a handful of situations, if your patient, then go wait. Otherwise, you have to go broaden your scope.
Dislike of rejection plays a role herr. Guys want a girl to be easy for them, but only for them, not for other guys.
Makes sense but a little unrealistic it seems :)
I mean, the keyword here is "play".
I don't want a woman who "plays" hard to get, I want a woman who *is* hard to get due to the nature of her standards and expectations.
A slut pretending to not be a slut is still just a slut.
If you pretend to have standards, you are lying to me, and you will be forgotten the moment the truth comes to the surface.
We like girls that are hard to get NOT playing hard to get. Huge fucking difference. If you ever hooked up with a guy you are PLAYING hard to get because you aren't actually hard, you're just pretending you are with me. That's bullshit and i would never tolerate being disrespected like that.
On the other hand if you sleep with everyone that's no good either.
Men want a woman who thinks sex is special and has high standards of who she sleeps with.
It's incredibly rare for a guy who's gotten with a girl--even if easily--to call her a slut.
From what I've seen, girls are overwhelmingly labelled as sluts by other girls. Beyond that they're much more likely to be called sluts by dudes who never got with them who are upset about it.
Guys who are getting it don't make a whole lot of noise.
I’ve never heard a guys call a girl easy never in my life only women call other girls easy. Most guys in this world would be happy if a girl even talked to them and we all know that’s a fact. The 90/10 that I know you women are tired of hearing is real and backed up by stats. You take a few comments from a few guys in the top 10 percentile who get all the bitches and you make it seem like all guys say that. Fuck off with that shit we see through your bull lady
The same women who play hard to get are about as bratty as the guys who use the word “slut” is stupid.
Tbh I think they have this idea of an ideal woman they can own but are pissed off when they realise that these women probably won't be interested in them.
Hard to get can mean hard to hold or that she thinks that's how men should be treated. Either way, you'll figure out once you have them that they weren't worth the effort. Love is a gift and if she hasn't learned how to give by now, she'll likely never learn. That's why there are billions more.
I think you're talking about two different kinds of guys, with very little overlap.
Anyway, I have a deep fondness for sluts. Or I would if I ever met one..
It's really simple. We want somebody who is into us and not other people. Being easy to get means they have been into a billion other people or technically a billion other people have been into them..
It’s not that we repulse girls that play hard to get you can do that but if you play hard to get where we trying to communicate with you and your like I don’t want to seem desperate I’ll text him next year then we are repulsed. The easy girls makes you think like. “Is she always this easy” “if so how many guys has she been with” things like that
In my opinion it depends how old you are as we grow up and get older in age we have tents you pay less and less games so we end up being more straightforward and it's probably why we end up gravitating to the people who know what they want
Easy to get doesn't mean she is a slut. If she did hook ups, that would mean she was a slut. If she is easy to get for someone she actually likes and is interested in for a relationship then that is good.
Only called one woman a slut, that was my ex, fair reason, she had a problem keeping her legs closed. As for hard to get, dating is already some horrible bastardized version of chess, when honest to God, both parties want it to be checkers. If only there was a way people could just be honest and play no games at all with what they want in life. It'd be a real shame.