The whole dad hates daughter boyfriend thing is weird?

[williamstorm3]

If ur gonna tell me its to make sure the daughters safe and boys suck and this is how its supposed to be, lets roll with that theory.

so the girl is in a masochistic place

and she's also has to defend her boyfriend from her dad

and she loves her dad and is ok with him doing tis

that could drive anyone crazy, right?

its weird.

so the dad can hate the boyfriend but everyone else should be nice to him. Weird.

basically dudes need some form of questioning and antaganizing to keep them in line, because boys are mean to girls. but the girl should be loving to him and view him with an open mind.

weird again!!

lets end the weirdness and stop stressing girls out, and just inform them of fuck boy tendencies and such and help them self respect and the knowledge of the boy and then be nice to her boyfriend unless u see something wrong with him, and as ur dad u can sense bad sign in dude (atleast i hope you can detec). but dont control freak you're daughter ever.

who is with me? and do u think its weird to or not

if its not weird and im just viewing it incorrectly, which i could then comment below nad letme know

[AynonOMouse]

The dad probably (and rightfully so) sees the guy as a bad influence because the daughter starts lying to her dad as soon as she gets a boyfriend. At the start most of them try to hide it from him that she even is dating someone and then lies about where she is going (pretends to be with friends, etc. but is really with a guy) so right from the start the dad has a valid reason to not trust her or the guy.

I think that is the main reason why many fathers don't like their daughters boyfriends and the daughters brought it upon themselves by being dishonest and secretive in the first place.
Part of the reason why they lie is they start dating too early when they really shouldn't be too.

[VIVANT]

it’s disgusting for father to be so intimately involved in their child’s sex life. To the point where he has hostility toward her boyfriend and can’t quite understand he’s her father not a scorned lover.

[AynonOMouse]

@VIVANT So it's fine for them to start dating in grade school, lie to their father, and not let their parent know where they are at? Because that is exactly what happens from an early age.

[VIVANT]

Oh no I agree certain standards of conduct should be set for gurus AND boys.

Teaching responsibility self respect respect for others accountability, what is expected is very important.

The father hating the boyfriend -that he is openly being openly to do it is not a secret-is an entirely different category. And usually about jealousy not concern for her welfare. The fact they can't tell the difference is what makes it creepy.

[williamstorm3]

@VIVANT yeah some dads will be like oh i guess i was controlling a bit or im sorry or be like "i wish i could just make her never have a boyfriend ever " or "i shouldn't have to allow to her have a boyfriend ever" or weird controlling desires like that

[AynonOMouse]

@VIVANT I haven't known anyone IRL that happened with except the ones that started out by lying about who she was with and where she was in the beginning.
Then when there is a teen pregnancy they get upset that the father doesn't want to support it due to her not being mature enough to make good life decisions on her own in the first place.
Whenever they are under age their parents are perfectly well within their rights to decide who they shouldn't be with.

[mattdzz]

No, you're dumb, and can't keep a logical train of thought to save your life (weird is not a coherent accusation).
A father has to challenge the incoming guy as he stands to replace him as the central male figure in the girls life, and as protector of the family it is his job to make sure this new guy is up to the task of protecting her. If he can't handle the pressure it shows he's not fit to protect his daughter. Any daughter of a good father should expect her father to be weary of any guy she brings back.

[VIVANT]

Gross 🤮🤮🤮🤮

[mattdzz]

@VIVANT oh, this idiot again...

[VIVANT]

I love you too 😘

[williamstorm3]

dude dont be mean you better respect this girl. its very ironic how you act dude

[mattdzz]

You do know that what you said made absolute no sense, right? Did you graduate high school? Your communication is atrocious, and at the end of your question you said something to the effect of: yea, who's with me? That's just pathetic a guy in his 20's seeking validation like a teen girl.

[williamstorm3]

dude i dont seek validation wtf are you on about. ur over here disrespecting a girl.

[williamstorm3]

this is my question my rules thats all

[MissDawn7961]

not all dads hate the boys their daughter is dating ! loving fathers want to make sure that their daughters boyfriend is not mean , so that his daughter will not get beat up on or worse from this brute of a boyfriend she is dating ! I feel most dads want their daughters to marry a loving and caring man who is worthy of being his future son in law ! thanks

[VIVANT]

Lol I’m not Going to defend that theory. I always thought it was gross. Too Lolita.. Like Dad she’s your daughter, It’s not a competition.

🤮🤮 🤮

[williamstorm3]

I agree with you buddy lets be friend

[VIVANT]

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