Lets say you find this guy masculine alpha hot and you want to mate like a rabbit on a hot day. your average hot alpha maleBut then, you see his feminine side. For example, you are sick or injured and he takes care of and nurtures you. You see how caregiving he can be. Now he's to some degree... feminized... as you spend time, you see he has a soft side.he's sooo sweet... secretly, I've lost interest...Is it a turn off to desire and passion? My theory is that the "man" has to continually re-assert his masculine side or else the women, will lose interest. That may not apply to all females... maybe some want that soft side.
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Girls, do women lose attraction to guy if he shows the softer side of himself?
Male/female would get turn off by love/affection when they have had negative experiences. or lack of from care takers... Or they are not ineterested... Those who have positive experiences, understand that love/affection between intimate partners happens and builds stronger bond. These two will eventually combined to be one and make new offsprings... where both have to take the reponsibilties to care/love for the young which includes feeding, weeping them... eventually... one or the other will/might get sick and they take turn to care for ea. other.. in sickness, and in health... one might be in bedside and not able to feed themselves... thats why it takes two... These are natural feelings towards the ones you love... that which can include your own parents who one day will also need that support, to feed or to care for. A partern (m/f) who is showing the softer side is a huge turn on and a great potential for LTR A parther (m/f) who pulls away from showing softer side is cold and its a turn off. Or they are not interested. When it comes to relationships... always look at cycle of life...
No, women lose attraction when men start acting like women. Just like men start losing attraction when a woman starts acting like a man. A man can be soft hearted, but he knows how to use his hands to pick up a sword as well as to be a carpenter.
I am an INFJ, so while I am a woman oh, my analytical side of me makes me feel more masculine than I do feminine. But that doesn't mean I'm any less feminine in what I am born to be. I just handle my femininity a lot more different than other women. However what I have learned is that when a man acts more like a woman normally is because he hates being a man. And it's not always that Macho man nonsense, but that Society has completely broken down the man just like they broke down the woman.
Hell, I like it when a Girl has a soft side. But if the shit hits the fan. They got the tomboy redneck that comes out and kicks some ass. So I like them with both qualities
there's a time and place for everything you can be sweet just dont be clingy. Uou dont have to be alpha male just be yourself and show general interest
aha! So you are saying the "mysteriousness" and masculine should be seen, to keep attraction, but surprise with "gentleman", good nature, nurture, then that is good. So its a need for contrast?
If he was always the "nurse" type, kind considerate, opens doors, pull your chair out for the lady, sweet... it's like eating surgar for breafast, lunch and dinner... it gets bland.
Question... does that also apply to her orders. for example... she says "I need you to take out the trash, clean the car/fix the car, organize the shed", and he is consistently obedient... that be bad. He has to push back some so she is not in power. that right?
it may not be true for all, but I suspect is true for some portion and is a cause for attraction breakdown.
Absolutely not. It's nice if my man would like to cook for me. It's okay if he would like to cry. It's fine if he would like to go drag or crossdress sometimes. Seriously.
I've just never seen a man or male friend crossdress. I don't think so unless it is an actor, but if you are in new york or milan or LA, its a different breed. I don't even see gay men cross dress... I don't know who does that...
As long as they aren’t crybabys then I will love a guy more for there soft side. Especially if they are alphas with a stone cold face. Being soft makes you more human.
nurturing - im thinking caregiving, like lets say you see the "inner nurse" in him. There is other nurturing which is softly touching your face and such... that's diff to me. I'm trying to differentiate if him showing a soft side causes issues...
It could go in degrees... he does care for woman who is sick or injured, or for children... take on the house duties of cleaning and groceries. "perceived" caretaking feminine roles. Maybe it feels like "you have the upper hand and the masculine isn't there". That's my point...:) I think there is a slippery slope between feminine and masculine and he has to maintain masculine or else she loses interest. theory...
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