Why do like hurting boys? What is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I really enjoy having power over males and I boss them around a lot. I remember the once I was 11 and kicked this older boy in his ‘boy area’ and watched him fall and nearly cry and I was attracted to this. I am nearly 14 now and I still like controlling and dominating them.
This is secret and no one knows it’s embarrassing.

[hellionthesagereborn]

I'm guessing you have psychological issues. I would look at life experiences that could have caused this i. e. why do you like being in control and being able to push them around, do you not feel powerful in other parts of your life or what have you. So I would look at your life and see were maybe this started, when did you first realize you liked this etc. I don't think this is healthy per say, at least not hurting men, but their are women who like to be dominant and in control so its not exactly unheard of either. If you can I would talk to a psychologist, or some one you can trust about this and get their opinions on it as well.

[Asker]

It turns me on and I do like boys I don’t know why I feel this way since I was like 9

[hellionthesagereborn]

Not saying you don't, I'm saying that usually trauma of some kind is responsible for these more extreme responses. So why since you were nine?

[abc3643]

I don't think so much that you enjoy hurting boys but that you "like controlling and dominating them". Many women are like that. They may hurt boys when young like you, but usually grow out of it but still have the desire to be dominant.

Consider PMing me or following me so we can discuss this further. I may be able to help you get in contact with other women with similar desires.

[TraceyByrd]

Try doing that to a girl & see if she won't punch the shxt out you

[TomGarand]

It seems like you just like being dominant. There's nothing wrong with THAT. What's wrong is the way you're going about it: hurting people.

If you want a relationship with a boy in the near future, you need to know that you can dominate him without hurting him. Feel free to message me, and we can discuss this further.

[Asker]

What would you say is ‘not hurting’ them? How can I be not harmful?

[TomGarand]

By simply NOT physically assaulting people. One of these days, you're probably gonna kick the wrong guy in the balls and end up getting seriously hurt yourself.

Do any boys actually like you and your dominance?

[Asker]

I do have some boys as friends and I hope they like me. They act like they do

[TomGarand]

Well, I mean romantically. But it's good to hear you've got friends.

Speaking of your friends, just stay their leader, and conduct yourself as such. Act like you are the leader of your inner circle, but make sure to listen to your friends' suggestions.

When you act like a leader, you're gonna attract those submissive boys you love so much.

[Asker]

OK. I will do that thanks. The boys are generally submissive anyway. I’m not always with them though

[TomGarand]

No problem. Give me a follow and message when you can. I wanna know how things play out for you.

[Asker]

I followed you. I’m cleopatra333

[codyccc]

Your probably a psychopaths but it could be a very lucrative career later

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[IAMNathanael]

You might want to see a counselor. That can't be healthy behavior...

[Asker]

What should the normal be?

[IAMNathanael]

mmm... not hurting people...

[Anonymous]

You are a sociopath and you'll probably end up with a criminal records

[Asker]

I hope not. What is a sociopath?

[Opinion Owner]

I dont know. I have never heard that term before

[Txtx25190]

This is why I’m scared of girls

[Anonymous]

it's okay they probably like it

[Anonymous]

You like controlling and putting down penises

[Dweezil]

Youi are a misandrist.

[Asker]

But I do like boys