Are girls with guy friends meant to be taken seriously?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this girl for a few weeks. She’s a lot of fun, we have good sex. But she has too many guy friends. She tells me she gets along with guys, because other girls are jealous of how pretty she is.

I’m 17 she’s 19, she hangs out with rich men in their 20’s & 30’s. She brags that they take her travelling. Due to her lifestyle, I just wanna be friends with benefits but never give her a girlfriend title!

Would you honestly be cool have a relationship with a girl who only has male friends?

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

It's good to see a young guy who isn't completely brainwashed. I didn't think they existed anymore. You're spot on. Do not commit to this girl no matter how you feel, if your feelings change. Don't be fooled.

If she's hanging with these older dudes and travelling everywhere, it's almost certain that she's offering some kind of sexual favour in return. Even if she's not she's gold-digging, so she's clearly not wife material anyway.

At the same time she's not actually attracted to these older guys with money, she's only after their money and she's taking advantage of their thirst, while she has sex with you for free because she's attracted to you sexually. The very fact that they're willing to pay for her attention out of desperation lowers them in her eyes. I wouldn't say that they're a threat to you.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't rule it out, but i can see how in your scenario, a relationship with her would be unlikely.

The issue with 'male friends' even before getting into guys who are spending money on her, is that they are often not equal relationships. It IS true that attractive women often end up with mainly guy friends. Girls can be jealous and bitchy towards them, and guys, at least suck up to them and are extra nice. So guess what, they get along better with guys! The problem is this leaves them with poor 'friendship' skills since they're used to being pampered in every relationship they're in. Not their fault, and i wouldn't assume it of them, but i'd have my eye out for it.

As for this girl - she's beyond that, she's used to 'friends who pay to take her on trips'. You're apparently her broke fuckboy on the side. enjoy.

[Toast792]

For this particular girl I would say no, don't take her seriously. Those guys sound like a bit more then 'friends'.. But I have guy friends who are just my friends, and plenty of other women do too. It's just like having a couple of brothers that are cool to hang out with.

[Account]

Yes, girls with guy friends are meant to be taken seriously, she however, is not meant to be taken seriously for other reasons.
Like mentioning that she doesn't have girl friends because she is very pretty.
She is the drama personified.

[Alpha09]

I wouldn't judge her based on the fact that she has a lot of male friends. Some of us do. I do, I like male energy personally. However her reasoning for having only male friends Is the red flag. If someone says that they don't get along with the same sex because of something as stupid as "I'm pretty" they are toxic and other women see it. Most definitely don't date her, it sounds like she's a bit narcissistic and honestly a pick me. Enjoy the sex.

[snackthatsmilesback]

That situation probably not. But there's not a set rule because "friends" is such a loose word now. If she just hangs out with a bunch of guys all the time I think that's fine. I do that, too. But if she's serious spending a lot of close time with guys (like traveling you mentioned) that's thinner ice.

[Browneye57]

She's full of shit. And has a LOT of backup plans - those 'guy friends'.
No, women nearly always have a backup plan for you - even if they don't even realize it. If the chips are down, every one of them has SOMEONE she can call, some guy in the wings. It's the way they're wired.
Guys would do well to adopt the same plan - WHAT is YOUR backup plan?

[reallyhonestguy]

Say everything you want but I would doubt so hard that the guys would not be interested in her.
Of they're not it could be a matter of time. But they are, and they would always be a threat to you.
One thing is having ocasional guys friends or former schoolmate (which still I would make sure to don't have loose ends).

It can happen, we're human, things sometimes don't happen because of timing and at any point the circumstances are likely to make her be interested in the other guys.

[MuffinBoi]

Not this particular one at least.

If a girl has a couple guy friends, I'm not going to care much. But the situation you described shows she probably has multiple 'sugar daddies' and I wouldn't take her seriously.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like trouble.
If she genuinely thinks she’s friends more with guys because girls are jealous she’s pretty, then it’s also necessarily true that guys find her attractive as well, and that’s also why she’s got a bunch of guy friends.


They’re orbiters, and she’s either keeping them on the hook or just taking advantage of them. You do not put a ring on that shit. Don’t go any farther than sex buddies with her.

[Myou-ou]

You're making the right choice. Anyone who thinks all these guys paying her travel expenses are just "friends" is delusional. Besides, why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free?

[MCheetah]

She's a gold digger most likely. Use her for sex if you feel like that's within you, but do NOT commit to this chick.

[Jamie05rhs]

If other girls hate her, that's probably because she's taking their men. Which means she isn't satisfied with one man. Which means you should probably avoid her like the plague.

[art84]

I wouldn't date a girl who sees other guys cause she's basically sleeping around. Sounds like she likes to have fun and wants to enjoy life to the fullest while she's pretty and young.

[karaspara]

It does happen but the way you have described her I wouldn’t take her seriously

[Anonymous]

That's not a normal girl for this question to be considered in that terms. She's a slutty golddiggers. Make her your girlfriend and you both can travel together

[COMMODOREII]

Hell yes!! They must be taken seriously every time.

(disclaimer: if i didn't say that they would kill me. )

[Josh4206]

Yeah cause I trust her I would be completely fine with it. As long as she let me have girl friends

[legalboxers]

my ex only had guy friends. and seeked opinions from them so anything in regards to my bullshit relationship with her was moot

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

It's no big deal, but that seriously depends on the men around her and if the woman isn't the type to cheat on her man.

[Just_call_me_Levi]

I'd probably be okay with it, unless said friendship turn sexual or romantic, in which case a harsh "No" from me.

[In_Trance]

Right..

[Jmmmfi4]

Lol you ain't lying

[Anonymous]

she's not someone you should ever date. The fact that they take her on trips and the like, i guarantee they are fucking her too.

[kamikaze2511]

She's screwing them, all of them They aren't her friends; they're her sugar daddies

[yucel_eden]

She’s clearly having sugar daddies

[JessieBellll]

They are likely to be slutty though

[Anonymous]

I don't know why guys are saying no

[Djaay]

Why is it you want them to say yes?

[JosyJosy]

Sure yes.

[Abtraction]

she's using men

[Iron_Man]

No not at all

[dudeinohio]

I would not

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Nope