Girls, How old were you when you first started getting looks and attention from older guys?

[Lilguy77]

Also, were there certain kinds of environments that you felt like you would get attention more than others depending on what you were wearing or revealing? How did you react initially to feeling their eyes on you back when you were growing up compared to now? Share your experience!

[Secret6620]

I was 8 when I started getting looks and attention from older men.

I unfortunately developed early and the attention only increased when I turned 10. I always wore dresses and skirts up until I had a trauma from an older man. Then I realized how dangerous the attention was and I started to dress in layers and baggy clothes.

When I was a child I hated the attention. I didn't want guys taking an interest in me for fear that someone would attempt to take advantage of me or attempt to assault me again.

It wasn't until after joining the Marine Corps I finally got my power, control, and confidence back and stopped fearing men. Now as a adult I don't mind the attention I get online but I don't like getting attention in real life. Online is safer because no one can find me or follow me home.

Very traumatic upbringing for me but I'm older, stronger, and have all the tools to protect myself from predators or those who wish to do me harm.

Thank you for the invite. I have been working on my trauma in therapy so no worries!

[Lilguy77]

Wow! What an outstanding share and so glad you did Secrect6620! Also a fellow survivor too and am early in the coping stages and finally starting to share with others like us I'm finding really has been helping me. Pm?

[Secret6620]

I won't be talking about my trauma explicitly but if you'd like to chat about non-sexual stuff then definitely pm me.

Beware I will bore you. I enjoy talking about nature, science, manga, etc. You know... Nerdy stuff. 🤓. You've been warned lol

[Lilguy77]

Lol that would be great! Always love making new friends and I just joined on here so cool!

[Lilguy77]

by the way, did you continue to try and date after your traumatic encounter throughout high school or did that steer your inclination and preference older men even as you were young?

[Secret6620]

Message whenever you like. My notifications are turned on so I am pretty quick responding.

[Lilguy77]

Well it's actually saying that I can only respond to your dm after you send one.. lol

[Dinklex3]

12 was around the first, but they really started hitting on me, cat calling, and following me when I was 14-16.
All of those encounters were disgusting and negative, lol. Disgusted me that adult males would harass children even after I told them my age. Back then I was scared and uncomfortable and hated to walk alone.
& No, it didn't matter what I was wearing. I was a kid and looking back at pictures, our fashion was a bit questionable lol.
Now, people are a lot more respectful and less creepy (literally had some guy block me off, open the door, and told me to get in his car when I was 13). Seems now the disrespectful ones are kids who assume I'm around their age.
Men 25+ in my experience seem a lot more chill

[CuteLingsAppreciator]

I was nine years old when I first got harassed by older man, I was wearing my ugly elementary school. Unfortunately I don't wear what I want to wear most of the time, unless I'm with a group of friends, because I know that it will attract unwelcomed attention and I'm not able to cope with the harassment and the victim blaming

[kidvid80]

14/15 cause i had size g boobs at the time at 4'11. it was crazy

[Lilguy77]

Oh my goodness... could only imagine the heads that must have turned when you walked down the beach back then huh?😂

[kidvid80]

it was insanity and i wore tshirts and jeans being a tomboy. i used to bind them down after i figured out why the attention? i lost weight and they are a d but still being so small my frame etc they are like how you doing, its the first thing people see girls and guys. thats life, lol. when guys say oh thats great! i always said-imagine having testicles that big, its funny sometimes but really sucks most of the time

[Lilguy77]

Hmmm what an insightful pov perspective! Yes I could imagine.. especially when your balls are the size 2 grapes!😂😂😘

[Lilguy77]

So did you ever settle into all the attention as you moved through high school.. and kind of own your curves and booty!

[kidvid80]

kinda is what it is, im used to it now. the only thing i hate is when people say i am intimidating? i never understand why

[elizamichale1]

I always wore kind of revealing dresses so i think it was all aling the way hehe

[Lilguy77]

Lol! And were you curvy growing up.. what were all those men looking at? by the way, how has the way you flirt back or tease them changed.. since you were growing up?

[TheEbonyEnchantress]

It started when i was 13

[Lilguy77]

Share your experience! And how did you react at first back then.. to the attention you started getting from them? Did you flirt back..

[TheEbonyEnchantress]

I didn't like it. I was at my neighbors house playing with with my friend, they had this beautiful balcony. Hours later she left me and went to shower so i just chilled there looking at their garden. Her older brother came and stood so close behind me asking if i needed anything. I said i was alright the he started grinding himself on my butt. I didn't know what to do so i just stood there like a mannequin

[rachel776]

i was 12

[Lilguy77]

K, so you were 12 years old at the time and he was how old? Describe that first encounter for you..

[Blackcupcake]

15-16