Do guys shave to look good for themselves or to get attention from ladies?

[Anonymous]

I only shave for myself not to impress others. I don’t like it when some guys think ladies/girls shave to get attention from guys. There’s nothing wrong with looking good to feel confident. If I were desperate for attention from guys I will spend 50 mins shaving from below eyebrows to my toes every 2 days. I only focused on my underarms, eyebrows and fingers (yes I had thick finger hairs like a guy). If I were a guy I will just shave the beard, make my eyebrows neat and get rid of chest hair.

Are there any one who shaves from below eyebrows to toe?

[CaptainOverthink]

I think every guy has an image of how he want to be seen and who he is in his mind and I think when we try to uphold that image (even if it's just on the surface) we feel better about ourselves, we feel slightly more in control.

But humans are also group-animals and so we are affected by the trends of society, so it's about more than just what we choose to be. It's about who we think we are.

A beard could stand for many things, like being a male of maturity. Many different facial hairstyles gives room for different ways for someone to express what they feel is them or who they want to be.

Having a distinct style that is well kept also takes routine shaving and it demands that you are somewhat orderly about your life, I think it expresses that.

I suppose shaving other bodyparts is somehow part of feeling clean and sexy, wether that be for yourself or someone else, specific or not.

As for myself..
I keep my face clean shaven because letting a beard grow is easy and so many men do it, why should I? I need to feel well kept because I want to be more orderly and I reason to myself that I need to keep my youth close as I can easily have a grown beard when I get too old to still think I am young.
I occationally shave my junk and armpits because I would myself be a bit horrified at navigating such a wilderness should I find myself down and dirty.
But I rarely do and so it's just kept from going junglejunk from time to time.

[_Lynx]

I like the part where you want to be different so you shave and don't grow a beard.

I always went against the society trends of my little grown beard. Seems it wasn't a factor against attracting ladies, though almost everyone I met said that it didn't look well, usually because they are not used to it. I liked my appearance with it.. until I shaved it. Now people say it looks much better, to me it is not as good as before.

[CaptainOverthink]

Yeah well I have always found it more appealing to carve my own path. As I've grown older I've realized I have to pick those battles carefully but if most people do it one way then why go where there's nothing to explore.

I never liked the trends when I was younger and all men looked the same, short hair and just following blindly to someone elses ideas that wasn't even so bright to begin with.
It might not say much but if I see an alternative path that aligns with my values then I prefer it.
I play the devils advocate a lot in conversations for this reason as well.

I don't know if the ladies prefer beards over shaven faces or if it even really matters. But I'd like to think that this way I am showing off more features of my face, like cheekbones and so..

[_Lynx]

Sometimes to attract girls, why not?
But not mainly.

I like playing eye games with girls and ladies who won't mind it, and I like having a nice beard/shaved one so they enjoy the view -of a guy- just I like enjoy the view -of a girl- as well.

But mainly I shave for myself, so I feel I know how to take care of myself well.
Because if you only think about girls, you get obsessed that you need to look attractive.. it gets to the point where you realize how empty and silly you are. So it is for myself first and most of all, as taking care of my appearance to look pretty, nice, and easy-to the eye.

I defenitely like and work on looking good-looking or 'attractive' / "powerfully presenting myself" you may say, but not to 'attract girls', rather to look nice merely as a person.

I sometimes feel going to a guy or girl and tell them that their appearance is lovely and great and just move on, but it would sound weird maybe. I mean I like good appearance, I don't care about sexy or not sexy, but the vibe and feeling they share as a human through their appearance. Be it guy or girl regardless of age or gender.

[Anonymous]

At one time, because I had a roommate who shaved her ENTIRE leg, toes to crotch, I did it once. What an error! I had shave bumps from ingrown hairs for weeks! So, it was knees to ankles from then on.

I had some toe hairs that I clipped and finally when I was older, had them removed by electrolysis. Did same at bikini line.

It's most important to keep your face looking its best. Body is second when it comes to hair. There has to be the decision to keep it or carry the cost for shaving or removal.

I trimmed my hair because I thought it looked groomed, so no I didn't only do it for myself. If I was the only person in the world, I'd never remove any body hair. If no one sees it, it doesn't matter. But, we all live lives in the public eye.

So it's important to look neat and like you care.

[_Lynx]

I once saw light arm hair on our lady instructor in the university.

Don't know the exact word of 'showing' here. I mean she was wearing a long sleeve but you know when you fold it to the middle of your arm. So the exposed part had some light hair and she is dark skinned. She was standing near so I saw it by unintentionally. Didn't feel disgusted or like 'You "have to" shave'. I always see plenty of hair on my sisters arms and legs. I know from them what I takes. So fine. But of course if you're my girl at least do something about it so I don't feel it or it is smooth and light enough as if you don't have.

That unlike armpit and pubic hair that should be shaved definitely.

Otherwise I say any guy is eye-pleased with girls in clothes, dressed in a sexy teasing way, who ever said a girl [has to] show her skin or we have to look at her nude to enjoy 😒

[Opinion Owner]

@_Lynx Why don't you leave it up to the person whose body it is. If they smell clean, what does it matter?

[_Lynx]

Isn't that what I am saying already.

[Opinion Owner]

@_Lynx You just said "unlike armpit hair and pubic hair that should be shaved definitely." It appears you're saying those two areas HAVE to be shaved. So you aren't leaving it up to the person. In addition you say, "at least do something about it so I don't feel it... or it is smooth and light enough as if you don't have (it)."...
You're saying just the opposite. ...

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think it might be so they look good and presentable. I mean, I shave and stuff so I look good. Plus when you do self-care you also get the benefit of feeling good too.

[FunkyMonkee]

I usually only shave my face and only do so every few weeks because it's such a pain in the ass. I never "had" to deal with my brows until about 10 years ago when they started getting long all the time! Normally, I would've let them go (it tends to run in we Scots) except that there were a couple hairs that were CONSTANTLY bent and would grow over my eyes!! I got tired of having to look at them without a mirror. At first, I tried yanking those hairs out but, every time they grew back, they'd keep that same bend!!
I've shaved my pubes a few times just to see what it was like but don't do it very often.
I shaved my head in protest 32 years ago as of 4 weeks from now and haven't cut it since.
I used to shave my legs a lot because I'm a drummer and have discovered over the first few years of being in the band that, I NEED to keep my legs free from things like, pants, to be able to play double bass drums the way I do. I had to put SOMETHING on my legs to keep the leg sweat from getting on my arms so, I started wearing tights but, I'd blow through a pair after every other gig!! At $10.00 a pair, that was expensive!! So, I switched to pantyhose because they lasted at least twice as long, looked and felt a lot better, kept my legs a bit cooler and were a LOT cheaper!! Can't have hairy legs in pantyhose! I've seen a few women do that! DISGUSTING!! And, to keep from being "naked" downstairs while still leaving my legs free, the scooter skirt was needed! My fans not only loved it but DEMANDED it!! It'd be like Jimi using a left-handed guitar and ONLY EVER playing with his pick! Or Pete NEVER windmilling his guitar in the entire show.

[Citizenkirk]

Shaving was not an issue for some slobs who didn't bother to pick up a razor down again, was someone important to the preps and socias' who dress nice and wanted to look nice, but for us student athletes and swimming and endurance events like triathlons and cycling, shaving with serious business and had a number of different reasons and social conventions regulating its practice. Like "LOOKING BULLET STREAMLINED FAST, BEING THAT FAST, AND NOT STINKING!!!"
NOT ALL SWIMMERS IN ALL SCHOOLS THROUGHOUT HISTORY SHAVED EVERY SINGLE HAIR DOWN TO THE FOLLICLE, BUT OUR TEAM WAS HARDCORE, AND RIGHTLY SO. BECAUSE WE WERE AMONG THE BEST, THEREFORE, WE TRAINED AND GROOMED OURSELVES THAT WAY. THAT MEANT NO HAIR, PROCESSED SUGAR, JUNK FOOD, OR WHINING.
We started wearing suits at meats in high school but not always during practice, and if they knew as much about food Dynamics and water density induced drag during the 50s and 60s they might have committed the same attention to streamlining themselves to shaving all unnecessary hair as we did, but I think earlier generations may have associated smooth hairless bodies with weakness and being un-developed or physically immature, like these people did during their High School swimming...

[BeMuse]

I don’t like shaving daily and only do that when I need to be in a professional environment daily. Working from home I do not shave daily. That said, facial hair gets hot and itchy after a while. I don’t mind a little scruff, but once a beard starts to develop I general shave it clean. It has nothing to do with appearance in my head. There an an appearance expectation in the work environment that you have to shave daily, but otherwise I could care less what it looks like. I do care if it itches my face or it’s too warm on a hot day.

[BeMuse]

It has no impact on my confidence level. As far as how I loo, different girls like different things. I don’t care either way. Shaving is really just an employment and comfort thing.

[BeMuse]

*look

[Leavesbound]

I shave my face because first most women prefer guys to be shaved and second I don't like hair growing from my face and finally, I like the sensation of woman's flesh on my bare face. I have grown beards but they are not easy to keep clean and constantly trimming them to make them look good is a lot of extra time consuming work. I'd get my beard removed by electrolysis if I could. As for ladies, I prefer ladies to have body hair though it's not a deal breaker. I just don't want a woman to shave because she thinks I'd want her that way. I really do love a full pubic bush though.

[pajamasam]

I shaved my body hair for a woman once. Big mistakes it was uncomfortable and she wasn't worth that to me anyway. At the time I thought she was worth shaving for but I was wrong.

Now I keep all my body hair, I just trim the downstairs stuff.

I keep my beard grown out because it's easier to style a beard than it is to shave every day.

However if im going on a hot date. I'm gonna shave my beard up to look as handsome as possible because I always want to put my best foot forward.

[RingOfFire]

I think both men and women shave for pretty much the same reasons... not necessarily in order if importance:

1. It is socially unacceptable not to shave and they want to avoid the social pressure. Men can have well groomed beards in some circles but that is still shaving.

2. To look good to the opposite sex.

3. Because of the combination of the two reasons above, they feel better about themselves and more confident when they shave.

For the most part, what makes people "feel good about themselves" is doing things to please others or to avoid being subject to social pressure. They confuse that with some sort of innate self satisfaction.

[Jaximus-Lion]

Guys shave because people tells them to. It has become a tradition that guys shave to look "sharp" and "clean" of course "smooth" and made all guys on earth shave and never have the chance to understand why. So! They shave because that is all what they have been taught, it is really that simple but no one gives it a real thought.

[AlexanderAnttila]

I do it mainly because I prefer to be clean shaven and feel like it suits my jawline best. But in this I also do it excpecting to optimize my attractiveness to women. Unlike most women on here I don't have to boom out 'it's for ME it's for ME it's for ME' as soon as the question is asked. Get over yourselves. People do things conciously and subconciously to attract others and look good to them. It's not the end of the world to admit that.

[WindAtMyBack]

1) I don't like beards. Not on myself anyway.
2) A beard feels like super clogged pores. It feels super dirty. Cleaning the skin under a beard is not like cleaning the scalp. It's a lot harder to clean.
3) It itches.
4) It gets in the mouth when eating
5) It gets food on it, yellow mustard, mayo, etc
6) It gets icicles in the winter
7) Habit

Since I retired I don't shave every day. Not even close. But I MUST shave sometimes or it will drive me nuts.

[tuvwxyz]

I'm a minimalist; don't like more or less than needed, thus I use a trimmer periodically, it doesn't give a clean shave, but makes my hairs so short I don't feel them unless I touch my face, but have a slightly unkempt, unshaven look, which I don't concern myself with, so no, I wouldn't have any facial hair if I had a choice, as it's just one more think I need to concern with.

[YourFutureEx]

Guys do 99 things to get girls but shaving ain't one. We do so many things to look "good" but we do shaving to look "human". It's more of an hygienic thing than cosmetic.

In the bigger picture, most of the things we do are for ourselves and looking good to others is only a side effect of that.

Just focus on you, and others will too.

[TurboKid]

My number one reason is just the feeling. I don't enjoy the feeling of having a beard. In particular, the mustache really starts overlapping my upper lip if I don't shave for a week and it feels kind of messy to eat. It's why I've been shaving regularly even during quarantine.

[VanillaSalt]

I’m actually tired of hearing I do this for me but you... usually it’s to feel confident... but not a thoughts given as to why you feel more confident in a mini skirt or with your legs shaved.


I do what I do can because i want to look good because I know it people think you look good they are kinder to you and because I don’t wanna eat my mustache.

[NathanDavis]

I shave the way I do, because I don't like the facial or body hair.
Also because of sports, I feel more comfortable and "more clean"

I've never done it to impress anybody but, I've had a stubble when my girlfriends wanted it to, because they really liked it, and I didn't mind that.

[JDavid25]

You shave for you to look good in front of other people... Cause notice how a lot of girls don't shave when they are not around people.. You shave because you think it'll look good if you get in front of another person.. Maybe even men.. I don't care for this aversion to doing things because you want to attract the opposite gender.. But I shave because I think it looks good.. I lost a decent of extra fat, and I can see my face shape much more..

[Shiver]

Facial hair seems to fuck with my charm. Also can get prickly for me, since all my hair is pretty thick. Yes, that includes my pubes. I shave my dick and sack, because it feels better and because no one wants to find hair half way across my shaft. The rest stays natural, or trimmed.

[FatherJack]

I am well aware women never groom /dress to get attention from men , most women are already sick to the back teeth of male attention as it is. I shave , and not daily either.. every few days , purely to stop my face itching like hell , as have thick hair. Also , as I wish to remain single anyway , not concerned with " attention from ladies " .

[SupremeWarlord]

It's a mix of both, speaking for myself, I appreciate the ladies' opinions and take that into consideration, in order to improve my chances to catch their attention. At the same time, I am influenced by the cultural norms and end up finding one particular look more attractive for myself, and stick to that.

[Unbeatable]

I got depressed when I was 19, and neglected my hygiene really badly, i knew what was happening, I just didn't care. I started getting treated me badly, so I started treating others badly in retaliation. I ended up going to jail as the situation continued spiraling till I completely lost control of myself. Hygeine matters!

[ThisAndThat]

I only shave for myself not to impress others. I don’t like it when some girls think men/boys shave to get attention from girls. There’s nothing wrong with looking good to feel confident. If I were desperate for attention from girls I will spend 50 mins shaving my face every 2 days. I only focused on my face neck and sideburns. If I were a girl I shave, if necessary.