Is it wrong for a woman to have an abortion without telling the father of the baby that she's pregnant? (Page 2)
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He's just as responsible for your condition as you are. It's your responsibility to inform him of your decision to terminate the pregnancy. He, on the other hand has no business telling you what the disposition of the baby should be. Since, you have to completely alter your lifestyle to accomodate the baby. While he doesn't.
Depends on the circumstances.
But, I say teen moms struggling to get by, the child suffering from poor financial decision after another in the long run is proof that abortion is beneficial for both parties.
Sure, the potential parents may be stupid as shit and should be made to step up, but it’d be more of a pain for the kid to deal with.
I don’t think she owes him an explanation at all when it’s her well-being and mental health on the line, not his.
If they are in a healthy loving relationship he should always know... Otherwise he probably doesn't need to as he wouldn't care anyway, or act hostile if this is the case of an abusive relationship.
Not if she's gonna do it anyway. It would be super fucked up if he said he wanted the baby and then she went ahead and killed it anyway.
... Then again, I guess it would also be fucked up if she didn't tell him beforehand but told him afterwards when the deed was done.
... Yeah... it's pretty much fucked up all around.
Nope. He’s not entitled to know about her medical choices or what she chooses to do with her own reproduction.
Plus imagine the stress, the bullying and the guilt tripping she will receive if he isn’t on board with that. She’s already making a very hard decision, and they’ll make it much worse. Especially when the guy inevitably starts telling people and they do the same thing he’s doing.
It is your body and your life. I am assuming you had your reasons. Would you have done anything different if you had told him? If you may have kept it if you talked to him, then you are in the wrong. I am not a fan of abortion, but every ones story if different and it comes down to your choice.
To me, ur actions are determined by how u see it. If u know that he's against abortion, then NO. If not, YES. But all the same, let him know first that U're pregnant (although I know this sounds a bit hard to do) to be on a safe side
Are you asking a moral question, or a legal question, because this is a real can of worms. It's really a question you want answered before you have sex.
Girl: Even though I'm on birth control, what if I get pregnant? I don't want to carry a baby to term, even for adoption
Guy: Well if you got pregnant, I would want the baby even if you don't, even if we don't stay together.
See the problem? You need to know this before you insert A into slot B.
Yeah it's ok, what he doesn't know can't hurt him. Why put that much more pressure and pain on yourself? If you made the decision no one needs to know, women get enough stress already over the decision. Save your mental health, be confident in your decision and don't let it haunt you because it really isn't a big deal, society has only made it one.
I'd go with "C", it depends on the reasons. Doesn't matter if they're good or bad reasons on the pro/anti-choice spectrum. If telling someone/a partner will result in her being forced to not go through with her wish, I think it's justified to not say anything. No one should be forced to have kids when they're not ready.
I believe in my body my choice and my wallet my choice. If a woman can abort a child without telling the father than without his consent he should not be held liable to child support if that child is born.
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Well Sir, if that child gets aborted it isn't likely to be born... is it?
Under normal circumstances I do think she should tell the father. If she was raped, obvs he doesn’t deserve to know.
I think it depends on the relationship. If it's a hookup it's up to her whether they talk about it or not. If it is a serious relationship I think they should at least discuss it, but she always has the final say.
If I were the father I would want to be given the chance to offer support; financial and emotional.
I'm a father and I will not abandon my child.
If it was my kid i would be hurt. I have no problem raising the kid by myself and i want kids. Granted to get that position i would only want to get a girl pregnant that wants me and wants to have my kids. If it was an accident or the bc failed then i still be hurt if she never told me. There are many reasons a girl could do it behind the back of the father especially if it was a rape. But it would out of spite and no regard to the father if she did just because she wanted to.
If it was yours you would never know it happened, no harm no foul.
What are your thoughts on your question bella?
I know it's not about you personally but i would like to know your thoughts on it from a woman's perspective.
she has every right to do it but wrong? maybe that depends on the reason yeah. i would hope she could at least inform him if she has already made up her mind
@beebella yeah i kept getting that shit too on my abortion question. annoyinggg lol
@Still-alive I hate those people. 😒
smh totally
@update not yet anyway 😏😂
Ok sorry that was crepy i retract that comment lols
😂😂
Sounded funnier in my head lols
The father should have the rights to know because that's also his fetus and chances are he's gonna be liable for the bill without even knowing but it's still her rights to decide. After all the pregnancy is unplanned. But if it really is a planned pregnancy, that would automatically be a deal breaker. It's still her rights to abort it but a waste of time to be with women like her.
Waste of time and money I mean. If you think only women have the disadvantage of pregnancy then think again to those who's paying for it.
Not if she already knows he's pro life. As much as guys here claim they can be flexible for your sake, the pro life way of thinking would eventually drain you.
Other than that, yes it's extremely wrong. It's his child too.
I think it is wrong. She should at least tell him, even though she has the right to decide what happens to the pregnancy.
Depends on the situation. if it was just a hookup or you’re 100% set on having an abortion I don’t really see the point in telling him especially if there’s a high chance he’ll react negatively. At the end of the day it’s your choice
I think most of the time it’s better to at least let him know, but in no way should that be a law.