Why do women get so upset when men want to relax after a long hard day at work?

[Anonymous]

Jobs can be both physically and mentally straining why can't they understand that?

[wtf636]

As long as youo are doing the everyday shit that needs to get done. I don't think it's the relaxing they care about. From my experience I think it's 2 things really.

1. They want attention. If you come home and relax with them, it's usually not an issue. We can order food, no one has to cook.

It's when you are "relaxing" without them. Playing video games, going out with your friends, insert additional hobby that women don't give a shit about, that it becomes an issue.

You also can't do that shit everynight. Then nothing gets done. That's where #2 comes in.

2. Ladies don't like "lazy" men. They see you sitting on the couch playing video games, eating cheetos and their vaginas dry up. They don't find it attractive. It is a little boy hobby, and they want "men". Is it dumb, yeah, but it is what it is.

It's also boring. Who wants to come home everynight and do the same shit over and over. You need to switch it up here an there. Go out and do some shit too.

[Xoxocutekitty]

It depends if you're relaxing or being lazy after a long workday. After the workday there are a checklist of things to do depending on your shared life responsibilities.

Regarding dinner:
Who is attending dinner?
Who is going to decide what is for dinner?
Who decides if you are cooking or ordering out?
Who cooks the food or then puts in the food order?
Who is going to find a recipe?
Who is going to check for ingredients
If takeout, is it delivery or pick up?
Who is going to plate the food?
Who is going to get beverages, napkins, and utensils?

After dinner:
Who is going to clear the dishes?
Who is going to load the dishwasher?
Who runs the dishwasher?
Who wipes the table?
Who cleans the appliances used?

This list only gets multiplied ten fold if you have children or pets.

So yes, if she's doing all this work after her own workday AND probably picking up your socks, then of course she's going to be upset when you want to be lazy in front of a TV.

If you're traditional couple and the kitchen is her thing, then you better be spending your 'time off' doing something manly and useful. I'm assuming she's also working.

I should add that Stay at home mothers watch children for 24 hours a day, it would be nice if someone could prepare dinner for her now and then so she can have some time off from 'her long day at work.'

[The-Wise-Phoenix]

Woman... I read your to do list. Things like loading and running a dishwasher.
You have got to be shitting me. 🤨
I bet you have never worked a real hard days work in your life. I have been a tradesman for over 30 years. You should come to work with me sometime and learn what work feel like.
I mean Got Damn.😠

[Asker]

😂 haha

[OurManFlint]

I see where you're coming from, but task like deciding what to eat, calling in the restaurant and ordering and loading the dishwasher, are so remedial I wouldn't imagine many men making much fuss about it.

[Xoxocutekitty]

@OurManFlint you're right that individually, it's remedial. But it's less remedial when 7 days a week you're the only one putting in an extra 15 minutes a day to think about it, and another 30 minutes to execute food to table. There's no biology that says the stronger, better able to serve and protect gender should be entilted to sit on their duff because a task is too easy for them.

[DollAlone]

I dont think its so much about her being mad that he wants to relax but more so that she wants attention. And we women like our mans attention and expect him to read our minds. Cause we don't dare ASK straight up for it. Usually we pout and whine or do the subtle sighs then answer "nothing" when asked whats wrong. So id say as long as you balance out the relaxation time and include her in it, she should be fine. If she sits home all day while you work then she should have the place cleaned, a cold beer for you ready and dinner cooked for you. So coming gome to her is relaxing and something you enjoy doing

[Asker]

Sounds like you know how to keep a man happy

[Alejandro3000]

Communicate how you feel as soon as but be warned if you deny them the opportunity to express their emotions being home all day looking after the kids expect frustration resentment and eventual anger. They want to talk about it otherwise why are you even in their life? You can actually say I'm a little tired right now but I'll catch up with you in a few hoursOr let's talk over dinner and a glass of wine. Once that person stops talking to you and starts looking over your shoulder you'll be back here complaining lmao 😂

[SnakeBoop]

Plenty do, especially those who have jobs of their own.
but for things like if you have a kid, that they've stayed home to look after all day by themselves, when do they get to relax?
what about when "relaxing" is actually a toxic behaviour/habit they have? lines got to be drawn somewhere

[Anonymous]

If she can't understand your need for space, talk to her and let her know. We need to talk about our day and maybe she thinks that you feel the same, just let her see what you need and that if she wants you to tell her about your day you can do it later. So the two of you get what you want

[captain_voidwalker]

First lesson on women, they hate when men are happy. You like watching football well guess who wants to do shit when the game is on. Like playing video games, not on her watch she will toss your game console in the trash while your at work and act surprised when you get mad about it. Realy enjoy your car guess what needs to be sold off to buy a family car because she wants kids.

[Little_Bumblebee]

In what situation are we talking about here?

Are both working? Or only one?
What makes you think she isn't tired as well? But sometimes, things need to get done.

Is the man just going to relax in front of the tv for the rest of the evening, not caring about any chores or the kids?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Because those who haven't experienced working long hours couldn't begin to understand.. Just the same as we couldn't begin to understand how painful childbirth is.

[OurManFlint]

Women are pretty subjective nowadays. They find it hard to imagine that anyone is as tired as they are, has worked as hard or has contributed as much around the house as they have.

It's a new tendency to overlook your contributions while placing in bold and highlighting their own.

[TessCasie]

I don’t
I give him space
He needs to recharge
That’s some clingy women who’ll fail to understand so.

[Anonymous]

The wife never ever does that to me, when i come home, the house is clean and there is food on the table, and 9 times out of 10 she is naked as well. Im good with that.

[pleasestopthis]

I don't know, some women need a lot of attention. BUT some guys get to relax while they expect their partner to do everything around the house (even if they work too). My dad used to relax while my mom did stuff for us. That's not fair.

[Dkc123]

They wants and needs you to listen to their complains and whining... Basically about everything and everyone. 😝

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Because they want to be with you. And generally when we relax, we want to be alone, right?

[Anonymous]

Because we also have jobs and are still expected to keep the house clean and everyone fed, because y’all often can’t be bothered. We’re tired too, suck it up.

[MountAverage]

They don't. You just suck at attracting decent women, apparently.

[Asker]

It's not even about me I'm not even dating anyone right now

[MountAverage]

Then what I said applies to whomever thinks that way.

[Anonymous]

That can go both ways… men or women who just want to relax.

[Anonymous]

Lol, they don't care about your struggle.

[SmokinAces2000]

Wdym I’ve never heard of this

[Sketti2021]

Men do that too

[Asker]

Never heard of that but i can believe it