We all know women are attracted to bad boys, but what are you supposed to do if you're not one?

Question

Going through highschool and college it has become abundantly clear that women like men who treat them badly. Or averagely. And I accept that, we as men definitely have preferences towards certain kinds of women. But what has been stuck in my mind is what to do, if you don't fit into that category? When all the women around you aren't interested because your 'too nice'. Do we change our selves? Do we start being more of a dick towards women? Is being treated that way what attracts women, or is it just a side affect of the attractive attributes? Do we sell our car, buy a motorcycle and start smoking? To understand why most women don't go for nice we must first understand why they are attracted to Bad.

I wanna hear all the opinions, the good the bad, everything.

MAAJD · Accepted Answer

In Canada and USA many (not ALL, stop lumping all together) women like badboys because being nice or even 'super nice' is normal. everybody is nice and supernice. It's gets boring to those 'certain' women. They took it for GRANTED so they don't know how valuable it is anymore. It's like when you have good health, you take it for granted, you don't ever value that you are in good health until you get sick, then you will almost trade anything to get that normal everyday health you had back.

If you go to a place where women are treated like shit, and you are a nice person. you will instantly become a hot commodity there. Everyone will lust for your kindness and warmth and just be with you.

Now that was all just a FYI. The real info comes below:

It's not really the 'badboy' they are attracted to. It's the 'respect' or 'fear' or 'strength' aura that they draw from others around them. 'badboys' tend to be seen as people with stronger personality and not afraid of conflict. Strong guys, that others are afraid of. now ALLLL women like to feel safe and protected, being with a 'badboy' will give the feeling that they are safe and protected since people 'fear' or dont mess with that 'badboy' or he's seen or felt as a strong guy.

Man... drop all this badboy bullshit. Women are extremely easy to understand. I will tell you the secret recipe. Every woman wants to feel safe and protected by their man and also be attracted to them. That is - for the most part - all there is to it.

The above means, you need to be a man who has a strong personality and presence. Respected by others (could be because you are the strongest personality in the room, or strongest physically, or successful in life, maybe a 'badboy', or even just because you are the most athletic... whatever the reason is, find your own way that forces others naturally to respect you). Women are HEAVILY attracted/drawn to guys who are looked up/respected by other guys. they just melt and lose it. suddenly that guy seems to them like the strongest and most 'alpha' while the others are just followers. If you are someone who does nothing when someone slaps you on the face, who is gonna respect you? The fact that you did nothing will instantly lose everyone's respect to you. Even though If i saw that i will come and defend you and maybe make the guy regret slapping you, i will still have less respect to you than how it was before the slap and will give you shit later for allowing it to slide.

Basically, my point is. You can be the NICEST most kindest person anyone has EVER met, yet be the strongest person and most respected person in the room. And girls will literally go to the hospital because they lost so much liquid when they see you from how wet they got... cause they just saw that even the 'badboy' who they thought was the hottest, look up to you and respect you. You will become 10 times hotter than the badboy.

Now that you understand the formula, it will take you 3-10, if not even 20 years to become that person I just told you about, depending how much effort you put in to work and improve yourself. If you put in anything at all that is. I'l just tell you that I have been 'moderately' working on it and it's been 8 years now and i'm only like 70% there.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Accepted Answer

You don't have to be a bad boy.
Look, the people you fuck and the people you have a relationship with are not the same, that's for guys and for girls.
Bad boys are frontal with what they want, aka sex. So they sex easier, from girls that are easy like they are! The girls you see going for them are not the kind you want, trust me.

But let's say you want to have a casual hookup, do you have to be a bad boy? No you only need two things, confidence and bug numbers law. In an entire city, as long as you have confidence, there will be a girl that will be drunk enough, horny enough, or just really finds you attractive enough to go with you. Don't be afraid to get rejected and practice. One will bite the bait eventually.

For relationships. Have things going for you. Have a hobbie, be capable of holding a conversation, have a topic that really interests you that you know more of than anyone else, look well put together, out some effort into your appearance and finally, flirt. You don't have to treat them bad, but you have to know how to flirt. Being funny and having charisma go a long long way.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

No, I don't believe anyone should change their entire personality (or pick up unhealthy habits such as smoking; I currently have two very sick family members whose health is failing them due to years of smoking, along with one whose life was cut short due to health issues brought on from years of smoking, and would never recommend it to anyone) for anyone. A potential partner should like you for who you really are. You will never be happy trying to be someone you're not and with a partner who only likes that fake facade.

It's common with young girls to go through a "bad boy" phase, as they tend to have more unrealistic views of relationships and have a fantasy for "taming" one of those bad boys and changing him into someone who is good to them (which almost never happens, and they end up heartbroken; people only change of their own accord, and most do not bother considering they usually don't see anything wrong with the way they are/act, and it's impossible to change anyone but yourself). I honestly think the media portraying relationships where the girl ends up "changing" the bad boy or the bad boy ends up realizing he's messed up and changes for the girl is much to blame for this. The thing is, reality is nothing like the movies and fantasy.

However, once girls become a bit more mature and realistic about dating, they will typically be over that "bad boy" bullshit. The ones who are not typically have very low self esteem and usually just accept that behavior because they think it's the best they can do and believe that they don't deserve better (and in turn, don't demand better).

There are girls out there who want a genuinely good man who treats them with respect, and in my opinion, it is ALWAYS worth waiting for someone who is right for you rather than trying to change yourself to fit a round peg into a square hole, which will never work out in the end.

SnakeBoop · Accepted Answer

realise that majority of women are not attracted to bad boys...
don't fall into the "nice guy" mentallity. otherwise yeah, women are gonna want anyone but you. Take a look on reddit if that confuses you for the sub reddit of the same name.

InventorofWarp · Answer

This is rather funny because, I am kind of this.
I'm a church-going man, was a church-going boy. Waiting for the right girl. Never hurt a girl, don't intend to. Used to write anonymous poetry and love letters to the girls I had a crush on in school. Still do for my crushes except I no longer send them. Not just 'cause my crush now is taken.
I was a loser, scrawny nerd in school and the only reason girls ever looked my way, if ever, was to make fun of me or worse.

When I was 14 I got my first tattoo.
Got 21 more since then up to now. And not having a girlfriend allowed me to explore jobs and career options, study a few subjects, obtain a few licenses (motorcycle included). Got involved in drugs and started smoking. I quit but I still sneak one on occasion.
I travelled most of this beautiful country and a couple parts of The States.
I learned tons of new skills and talents that take years to acquire that people find impressive. Learned to speak 8 languages, play 5 instruments and sing.
I wear leather jackets and gloves when I go riding. Oh, I also grew up on a ranch and I used to dress appropriately to that (still do when back on one) and am well-verses with horses.

Point being that I hilariously just kind of fell into the image of a "bad boy": Tattooed, tall (well over 6'5), workout so I'm lean and physically fit, leather-clad, swear like a sailor.

But I'm like the complete opposite of what women tend to expect upon first meeting me.
I'm still 100% religious. Not to a huge degree but I say prayers, go to church, wear my cross and have a cross tattooed on my neck. I'm waiting for my girl not out of religious reasons but because as a boy I always wanted to be a husband and thought it'd be the most romantic thing I could give a girl is my innocence. And I'm a huge fan of kids and learned origami specifically to be able to do something interesting when I interact with kids, they tend to find it interesting. I also have two chocolate lab girls that I adopted in the pandemic that I tend to spend a lot of time with and treat like my babies.

My advice is: Find confidence.
Women aren't attracted to bad boys or asshole behavior, they like confidence and a bit of danger, that's why the image excites them. No one cared about me until I started going my own way and doing my own thing and being my own man and now I don't really give a fuck, I don't need anyone else but myself. I mean, I obviously still dream of having someone. But it doesn't dominate my thoughts.
I'm confident because I know I'm a catch. Don't get me wrong I still have MASSIVE self-esteem issues. But I know that finding a man with my level of skills, talents and intelligence and, I'm just gonna say it, attractiveness, is a pretty difficult farce. Most of my friends past 27 are losing their hair and I far eclipse most of my friends.

Get confidence and be a little dangerous. Be your own man.

Bram852OOO · Answer

Women aren't atracted to "bad boys" they're atracted towards guys that have self esteem. The so called "bad boys" aren't always as bad as you might think they are, and the "nice guys" aren't always as nice as they seem.

Just try to get another mindset, I'm a guy who is overly honest, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, move around with my bike and public transport, am a nerdy guy who study's sciences and plays D&D with friends. Yet i dont have a problem finding whoman to talk with.

What works for me is just to be myself when talking to girls, you have a hobby that you realy love but might be nerdy? Dont be ashamed of it and talk about it like you whould to others, being passionated about something is atractive!

And last point, always stay nice and polite. You went on a date with someone but she regrets you? Just wish her the best of luck with finding someone, a lot of peopele might stick around as friends and you might get to know a lot of people that way (i got to know one of my best friends atm trough my ex. if we didn't stay friends, i woudnt have met her)

Polloshurt · Answer

The hypocrite society along with the hypocrite media and movies fool men to be too good and think that he must be so kind to women. Stop focusing on them and focus on yourself build yourself financially and mentally also phisicaly so go to the gym bro be best version of yourself.

You don't have to change being good guy but being too nice is bad not only you will not get woman it's bad for you at the first place you have to be good guy but not too nice naive guy hit the gym it will help you a lot.

Also understand that most girls at their 20s wants to ride the cock carousel which will lead them ending either single mom or can't have pair bond later they will end up on TikTok probably making videos where are all the good men go. There's few if any good quality women out there they're rare usually they have good father.

So I assume you're still young be very careful with your resources yes your resources is huge treasure for these girls these days some women may be with you only for your attention or just because you text her usually because Chad doesn't do that and when she drain the hell out of you she will act like nothing between us. Understand your attention Worth money

Always have the power of walking away and never give your resources unless she's Worth it your attention your cash your time your emotions some of em are energy vampires.

fr44c3iqqs · Answer

I think it may be that they study proper attraction methods, we all should too.

By what I know, creating tension and being a playful slight jerk (not “player” type) is what it takes.

Another method to create the tension is to like give small, simple but meaningful compliment like say that her hair looks nice/good or that you like the look of her hair or eyes, but then make it short and then say something like “Oh! I gotta go to an appointment/class (or something important made up)”, that way she will feel some interest sparked and will be something like “What? There is something in this guy. I gotta see him later, and get to know him a bit more!”

You gotta be sure to press the right buttons. If you do, then she will very likely not care whether you are nice or bad, she will be into you. In one part online, a girl said “We don’t like nice guys. We like good guys.” So it goes by what they define as good or great, or enchanting. In fact, don’t say in flirting “You look great.” Great sounds better than good, but maybe replace it with a get better word like enchanting, fabulous, awesome, etc., but preferably more classy, more meaningful, and more endearing.

Of course, this is far from being all but it is yet quite a piece of help. Don’t forego doing your own research online. The loudest guys are the crazy and bad guys. Who says nice guys can’t make their voices loud and heard? That will earn them what they deserve!

backblueblack22 · Answer

This is an oversimplification. Most women are attracted to CHALLENGE. You don’t necessarily need to be a bad boy to be a challenge. But unfortunately being a nice guy is usually construed as the antithesis of challenge.

This is what you have to remember:

1) There is a good chance you were brainwashed at a early age to kiss girl’s asses. School teachers, mothers and feminist influenced education/entertainment unfortunately has done this to lots of young men. You have to take the red pill to unlearn what’s going on here. Never feel guilty or apologize for being a man

2) Most women don’t enjoy being abused (although some definitely have daddy issues). But unfortunately they are much more turned on by “hard to get” guys than vice versa. They see this as higher value.

To be fair guys can be like this too. But nowhere near the extent as vice versa. You can to learn self control not to bend over backwards and to realize she subconsciously testing you. For example if you get her number do NOT call her the next day. Wait at least 4 days. Make her think you got other options.

3) Never give women a shoulder to cry on if you hear them complain about other guys. Never. Do not tolerate the friendzone. This can be tricky because it feels like they are opening up to you and establishing a connection. The truth is they just see you as weak and are looking to exploit you for free counseling or worse. Look for signs.

4.) Respect yourself as high value. Make her put in a porportional amount of effort. If it feels one sided then ditch her and respect yourself.

5) Do not ask women for dating advice. 90% of the time what they “say” they want is the exact opposite of what they REALLY want. Following their advice will just get you friendzoned.

Anonymous · Answer

Interesting question.
As we know thar highschool girls are kids. most of college girls are teenies. I am sorry but why are you comparing kids/teenies with adult women? I like bad boys when i was 15 because of their look but i dont like them anymore. Any adult sane man won't really meet such girls who like bad girls because they dont like kids/immature very young girls. So dont worry because you are not going to be around any pubescent kids/teenies anymore since you finish school/college
Badboys are kids/teenies too. Dont care what kids/teenies prefere. Badboys are liked because of their looks because young girls or kids are unrealistic, shallow immature and therefore dont care about personality. This is why E-Boys are popular around kids/teenies. This is also why relationship of Highschool kids dont last much lol.
Of course there are still some adult women who still like badboys but in my experience they are crazy or have some mental issues. I also think some women mistake dominant men with bad men who use their dominance in a bad way. So if you want to remain nice but also be lke these " badboys" be dominant because there are still many women who like stereotypical manly dominant men.

The so called "incel" community would not complain about being single then if majority of women supposed to like bad men. Any "incel" would be taken.
I recommend you to date mature older women. I am sorry what happened to you. Bad immature women exist of course. So be careful. And dont change yourself for anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

If you'd ever had a woman who was just completely head over heels for you and couldn't contain herself, you'd understand why women don't like the so-in-love-with-you nice guy schtick. Even if she finds you attractive, it'll make her uncomfortable.

There's a lot to be said for expressing interest non-verbally, watching for signs of interest from her, letting some tension build, creating some mystery, etc before ever talking to her. There's also a lot to be said for having enough self-respect to NOT be a little puppy dog who'll follow at her heels and do anything she desires.

Women in general want dominant men. Every time you beg for her attention or give in to her whims, you knock yourself down a rung on that ladder. They say women are the choosers, right? And that's where men screw it up. Put yourself on that pedestal, and you won't have any problem finding a woman.

I've had as many as six women competing for my attention at the same time in the same place on the same night. I'm not the 6'2" lawyer with a 10" schlong that men say women must have. I just know how to play the game.

Anonymous · Answer

Been there done that. Not necessarily being a bad boy but catering or trying to transform myself by dressing sharper or blah blah blah. I’m not changing myself for a girl. If you are a guy and you can’t be your true self, ditch girls you are pursuing. If you’re into comic movies and superhero movies, find a girl at a comic convention. If you’re into books and coffee shop, visit a coffee shop with book stores and sitting areas. If you’re into sports and fitness go to the gym and try to meet girls there. I hate drinking and partying, therefore I’m not going to find a girl at a bar while she’s drunk. This may not answer your question on the topic of bad boys but my main point is not all girls are into bad boys. I find girls who come from broken homes, delusional about guys/men, absent fathers or just trying to rebel will like those types of guys. Talk to a girl who’s ground and she knows what she wants and it’s not a bad boy. I think girls are also into bad boys because the assumption is they are not needy and act confident. Being a good person equates to being spineless in the dating world , which is wrong of course.

Anonymous · Answer

You want to turn into a bad boy and get girls? Then you gotta be like 6ix9ine. He's got girls. And his girl didn't leave him even after he physically assaulted her and sexually assaulted her also. That's how you know how to be a the bad boy, that's a girl's wet dream.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/pPw_izFr5PA

Sara Molina (6ix9ine's girl) told, that he (Daniel Hernandez, 6ix9ine) beat her over a period of seven years, a timeline that corresponds to Hernandez's own admission. Molina told the Daily Beast about numerous incidents of abuse, including one beating in Dubai that left her face so swollen that she says, "I could barely open my eyes."
When Molina denied cheating on him, she says he punched her out of nowhere, driving "a hair extension into her scalp." "I was leaking blood," she said. "There was blood on the hotel pillowcases.
She continued to detail that Hernandez proceeded “beating me for two hours straight,” she claims “He punched me so hard in my right ear I thought I was deaf.” Molina describes that Hernandez punched, kicked and choked her, leaving her with two black eyes and multiple bruises. She then went on to allege that he sexually assaulted her next morning, “He woke up, forced me to have sex with him,” she said. “I cried.”
Molina described another incident that took place in April 2017, in which 6ix9ine beat her in a car in front of her daughter, then a year old, who started screaming and crying.
Daniel Hernandez admitted physically abusing his ex-girlfriend again in an interview with The New York Times in 2020.

slatyb · Answer

Most women are attracted to genuinely nice men. They just aren't attracted to the self-proclaimed "nice guys" trying to exchange unwanted favors for sex. The genuinely nice guys are just nice because it's the right thing to do, and they are nice to everyone.

AlexisP98 · Answer

There is a really unfortunate trap that some guys fall into where they think they have so much to offer to women because they're so unlike the guys that bully them and are just pure toxic masculinity, but they actually don't look at themselves objectively. They define themselves by what they aren't instead of what they are. Don't be a reaction to the assholes you know, be yourself. Your own passions and drives and interests are probably going to help you meet someone who either shares those or admires them. Fully delete the bad men from your brain because that's a whole world you don't want to be a part of.

valentina4eva · Answer

maybe start by not using some straw man argument that treats ALL women as some monolith that must ALL love “bad boys” lolol

i really doubt the women around u aren’t attracted to u because u are “too nice” 🙄🙄 maybe try improving urself to attract women instead of automatically assuming u aren’t attracting women because ur not treating them poorly enough😂😂😂

cth96190 · Answer

I do not know what to suggest, except to go MGTOW monk.
Really and truly, most women have been taught to hate us and changes to legislation have made it too dangerous to just be in the same room as a female.
I was a borderline incel until about age 30, because I was not a sociopathic bad boy.
By the time that I was 35 women who would have told me to FOAD when they were 20 were asking me out.
By that time, I was too bitter, angry and resentful to be interested.
Women still make moves on me, especially while I am working and when I manage to attend church.
I pretend to not notice what they are throwing at my feet, because there is no way to sort of crazy bitches and former hateful Feminists from the women who might be worth my time, without exposing myself to unacceptable risk.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

No absolutely not. Women hookup with bad boys, marry good boy. Don't change yourself why would you turn into a dick that's not something you should even consider

SunnyFlorida · Answer

Women want confidence. Woman often mistake a$$holes as confident men, then get treated badly. They put up with it for a while. Sometimes women get pregnant to save the dysfunctional relationship. You are not going to change women; you need to change your perspective. I suggest a book, "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover

Ukrainianbuddafly · Answer

Nobody wants someone that treats them badly, that's a cop out. But biologically we like men who can (among other things) protect us. A lot of "good guys" show us the kind side but forget to show us that manly protector side. Like how attracted would you be to a female that acted quite masculine?

DonkeyDan · Answer

It's confidence that women are attracted to, and bad guys have it. But you don't have to be a bad guy to be a confident guy. Don't change yourself to fit into a stereotype, certainly one that will get you nowhere in the long run. Any woman that is worth dating isn't the ones that go out with dicks anyway, they are cheap fake vain women.

jackderby_01 · Answer

There's a difference between being a nice guy and a kind guy. Nice guys put women on a pedestal while sacrificing their own beliefs, respect and interests becoming someone they're not. They always want something in return. Meanwhile kind guys are kind irreapective. They dont have some hidden agenda. Read this book called No more Mr. nice Guy by Robert Clover. He clearly explains what makes people nice and how to recover from the nice guy syndrome.

Anonymous · Answer

hey no offence but… this sounds like a movie or fantasy. That isn’t real life… not all women are attracted to “bad boys” who wear leather jackets and smoke… you can’t be serious.

I feel like if you are a self proclaimed nice guy and believe women don’t want you because you’re “too nice” there is something else wrong internally that you are not aware of or choose to ignore

Luopio27 · Answer

I used to think this way too but as I grew older, it became more clear that getting with the hottest girls is about leadership qualities.

If you are aiming to get the prettiest ones out there, it is understandable how it seems that only bad boys get them. They have great social skills, are excelent in communicating without words, like body language. Confidence is a misleading word. Guys that get the hottest girls, know exactly what they are doing and how they do things the way they appear atractive.

Girls who are not on top of the food chain, wonder same things about guys who are on the top of the food chain. For those guys, who looks dont matter, they dont have this problem.

DWornock · Answer

Girls are not attracted to bad boys. They are attracted to smart good looking hot guys that treat women like they have little value. Girls have always been easy for smart, good looking, and athletic guys. They snap their fingers and the girls come running. The spend very little time or money before the girl drops her panties. They are not in love because for them girls are a dime a dozen but the girls are in love. After fucking a girl a few times they move on the next pretty girl. Of course the girl is heartbroken, and resentful over being fucked and dumped. Therefore, she complains that he mistreated her and calls him names and that makes him a bad boy.

As an average guy, you have to treat girls like they are precious or else you have no chance. Only after investing a lot of time, effort, and money do you have any chance of getting the girl. Therefore, she is precious to you. Even so, she may dump you for the first hot guy that indicates he is interested.

MCheetah · Answer

Stop pursing women and be happy being yourself. Don't change who you are just because women will never be satisfied with who you are. It's better to be true to yourself than be a cheap imitation of someone else, just because that's all women will want from you.

imanf7 · Answer

Most nice guys aren't nice guys , they think they're nice , also it's all about the charm or looks , most people are attracted to confident people , whatever they're nice guys or bad guys that's the main thing. being an insecure overly shy guy is not being nice

ChubbyKing · Answer

Women aren't attracted to bad boys per se. They like confident, suave dudes. You can be a gentle and affection dude but if you have that je ne sais quoi to the way you carry yourself, it doesn't matter what your exact style is. I will say, never change for the sake of catering to other people, if you want to reinvent yourself, go ahead but do it for you not them

Poppykate · Answer

Women want men with a backbone! Don’t be so nice that you hold the door open for her, AND the next 20 people who walk through the door! Just open the door for her. Don’t cancel pre-arranged dates to help a friend, of a friend to move house. There is the ‘nice guy’, and then there is the doormat. A woman wants to be with a guy who is nice, but confident and can make his own decisions.

mzoggkellett · Answer

Well don't be a simp and don't be the nice guy. Be a man on your purpose, a man that seeks God and virtue, a man of truth and discipline and let the woman find you. Men are trying too hard to please these woman. Woman are not better than men and we need to stop worshipping them. Part of the reason we are stuck here is PORN which makes us worship woman for their body and for sex. Which isn't good and doesn't point us in the right direction. It's the wrong direction. Be a good man, do right, be kind but don't cater to people to make them happy by being fake or changing you who you are. A woman is supposed to be your partner in marriage your helper/companion, not your everything queen.

genericname85 · Answer

women aren't attracted to "bad" boys. they are attracted to competent men. though competence is hard to identify. arrogance looks quite like it for a person that doesn't know enough. that's why women fall for bad men. just become competent in whatever you do. women like that.

exitseven · Answer

When I was younger I always wondered about this but once I got into my 20's I think most of the girls that I might be interested in figured out that these guys were ultimately losers. In my 20's I had much better luck with girls than when I was younger.

Chriscunning · Answer

It's just an initial phase. Most grow out of it then tend to want the hardworker / provider who can look after them and take care of the kids. My partner went through her phase and even admitted I wouldn't have been her type of guy when she was younger.

She was always the breadwinner with the bad boys and was always getting them out of trouble. She got tired of that and realized bad boys aren't very good.

djmzes · Answer

Simple Girl like bad boys Women like nice men.

RawIronhide · Answer

Well your preconception not entirely true. It's not that they like bad boys they just want to feel that their man can be strong and assertive. Trust me it comes after years of rejection and dealing with dumb people. I don't let people walk on me and I'm very clear about my intentions and what I want. That's what they find attractive.

jshm2 · Answer

Nah, it's just a stereotype. The reality is that girls like INTERESTING guys.

Most guys having girl problems are just vanilla, in either being too straight laced or too unhinged. Stop trying to be something you're not, and be more of what is appealing to them.

Bjornasey · Answer

As some of the replies have mentioned, once she has cum dumped she will settle with a beta like you, it's different for every gal, Some become wine aunts too, truly a miserable existence. I hope you become a man you can be proud of and not a beta, never settle for used goods, but I doubt you will heed so, most betas will always get a used girl and most likely get cheated by her too.

aquamarine321 · Answer

Be you , don’t be someone you’re not, plus majority of those girls or women are now used emotionally sexually and physically with maybe 50 kids and 100 baby daddies, because bad boys don’t want any girls to settle down with , plus I doubt it if any bad boy is now in a marriage and happy home , plus you don’t have to be bad, be dominant and masculine, plus not all girls want bad boys, most not all some women and girls want good husband and relationship with a happy home

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

Just be yourself and always try to improve yourself. Who cares what other people think? If you come across a real woman that has values, who cares about the ones that sleep around all the time. There are good women in the world, but they are becoming a small percentage.

Anonymous · Answer

There are Bad Boys and Genuinely Bad People. Many women have a problem seperating the 2 and don't find it out until their Single Moms. Then after that many guys don't want them. I would say work on yourself, and if successful options should become available but don't ever change your Core Values for any Woman. If thats what she wants wants then she's not worth shit. However, do it because you choose to if you find over time your proven wrong. Avoid marriage as well. I've seen too many guys my age and over get screwed over in marriage. Guys, you got the Overall Advantage later and she doesn't. Just avoid the Big Mistakes.

Jjcatt · Answer

I can’t believe someone would want to change their whole personality to meet ladies, this whole “women like bad boys “ is a bunch of crap, if u can’t grow up and go out and find a women who like you for you then go join a convent, or u could do your “bad boy” thingy and see how far it gets you

Browneye57 · Answer

Well, you're completely full of shit, with zero game, a real dud.
Women want a good looking guy with some bucks to spend on her, and gives her big-O's. You need irrational confidence.
So get busy, hit the gym, HARD, and make a shit-ton of dough. You'll gain the confidence you need for the effort, and you'll have all the pussy you can stand. I guarantee it. And quit fucking whining. Dear god.

saturnianqueen · Answer

Women aren’t attracted to bad boys; we like men who respect themselves and act with confidence and assertiveness, WITHOUT coming off as an asshole or a disrespectful prick.

Please know the difference.

No, we don’t like men who mistreat us. That’s a load of bullshit that men with low self-esteem and self-respect like to feed themselves just to make themselves feel better about not being able to get a woman.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Women want somebody who they respect and look up to. Someone better than them.

Upgrage yourself, get fit, earn decent money, get skilled in different things, travel a bit, have fun with it.

Don't chase women and no simping.
Let the women chase you.

Women control sex, men control relationships.

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

First of all... why giving so much attention to girls? Dude rich guy never get ugly in girls eyes. This cunts don't have any future. Focus on goals. Make millions dollars. Than this cunts will run to your dick.

Don't take this cunts seriously.
Fuck & forget policy follow.

rcljr · Answer

Stay your course, be an intelligent, thoughtful, calm non felon, don’t get tattoos on your face and neck, the “ bad boys” end up with nothing but diseases, regret and failed shitty relationships to shallow, vapid, fake women.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I already have a motorcycle. I would highly recommend it, if that's something you're interested in. Just be safe and very careful.

But please, please, please don't smoke cigarettes. You really don't want to start that habit, man. It's really bad.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I have never liked a bad boy. Every guy I've dated was gentle, sweet and actually quite sensitive. I am too emotional to be gambling with my feelings...

StunningANDbrave · Answer

To be an attractive man to a woman is almost entirely dependant on her age, women that are in their teens all the way up to their late 20s want a more masculine alpha male, from 30-45 they prefer a more softer approach from men but not a complete pussy, then it reverts back to the more alpha masculine traits that attract them.

kc_4308 · Answer

I’m not attracted to bad boys.. it’s a turn off for me. The issue with me is motivating myself to date again after being single too long

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

We aren't attracted to bad boys. We are attracted to manly men. If manly men are considered bad boys then yeah sure that's what I like. I want a man who can protect me.

RaeShirley · Answer

Girls will be attracted to the good guys too, it is weird but it really does depend on the girl. I have 3 sisters and only 2 of us are into the whole bad boy vibe, the other 2 of us prefer sweet kind good guys😉

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Dude, just be authentic with women and eventually one WILL want get closer to you. Be authentic to who you are. Be polite. Be interesting. Do things a woman would want to do with you.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes. Women dont like pussy ass bitch men. It has nothing to do with a motorcycle or smoking. It has to do with you having balls and if you want a motorcycle or to smoke or to do whatever that you fucking do it and not care what some woman had to say like your girlfriend or women in general or your mommy.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Try it.
I did, it worked.
Never liked it, but did discover why they liked it (for the safety of not being attacked by anyone - once you date a dick people are afraid of, they miraculously stop poking their noses into your business, life and underwear; most of the usual opinion makers are in fact old nasty perverts, and towards those, it is much better to be a rude (or even ruthless) dick.

Roxi-2 · Answer

Pls say it’s a joke? Yeah women don’t just go for “bad guys” but if you’re being beat to it has a lot to do with looks and personality and treatment of women not with bad or not

Anonymous · Answer

Only option is wait till you're 30 or 40 Or marry a sex doll

It's very obvious that you want women who run after bad boys aka women with no sense. So all other sensible women will be invisible to you. Good luck🍀

Luminair3 · Answer

You shouldn't change yourself. Girls go for bad boys to get the thrill, once girls become much more matured and wiser they will go to someone who is caring and kind (a good boy).

007kingifrit · Answer

young women confuse arrogance for confidence. that's why they fall for "bad boys" this goes away by 21 usually.

hannahjo022 · Answer

I never liked bad boys but they are attracted to me. I can myself by a bad girl at times maybe its thats why they are attracted to in me?

aliali8 · Answer

Girls like bad boys. Women like nice guys. Understand the difference.

Anonymous · Answer

We do NOT want bad boys. We want someone who thinks they’re good enough to have us and bad boys have that energy. Someone who is “nicer” absolutely can demonstrate that same energy.

na2398 · Answer

I'm not a self-proclaimed nice guy but I just don't know how to treat anyone poorly. In terms of reciprocation and relationships, this has always spelt doomsday for me. Gis my age would almost always go for the nefarious ones..

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Toxicity is not attractive

We all know women are attracted to bad boys, but what are you supposed to do if you're not one?

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