What do I do if a girl want stops talking to me just out of the blue?

[Anonymous]

My friend Sarah stop talking to me while I went on a trip to kerry for 7 days. I don't know why and she won't give me a reason. I feel like I have done something to her but I don't know what. We used to chat every day at work and outside of it. She used to always come over to me at work to and I'd go over to her. We'd hang out a lot and she'd ask me to go places with her. We even matched on tinder. When I went to Kerry it all stopped and I don't know why. It's been bugging me for weeks almost to anger out of frustration. None it directed towards her. I asked her once why she stopped talking to me and all I got back was "I'm not not talking to you lol". I replied by saying it feels that way. The sad thing is I've lost a friend more than someone I'd love to date and that hurts more. I really can't get this off my mind and I just wanna go back to the way it was. I gave her a hug before I went to kerry, best hug ever but I feel like that hug jinxed our me. Should I ask her again or is it a friendship lost? I've never felt like this before. I was crazy about her. I still am.

[Anonymous]

If she likes you, she might just be scared at how your relationship is changing from friends to lovers. She's scared that things might go wrong in the end.

However, since she was being snarky with her answer... she just might not feel the same way and is playing with your emotions, or with you. She might have started off wanting more physically but then she realized you actually do like her and got freaked out by it.

Either way, her best defense mechanism is to not talk to you since she doesn't know how to act or what to say.

[Asker]

I'm actually going ask her again today why she is not talking to me. Like I'm being honest. I'm going ask why I suddenly lost a friend. I just want clarity.

[Asker]

Is this a bad decision? I just want to ask where it all went and I'm afraid it might push her away more.

[Opinion Owner]

I'll be honest, the only time I was confronted about how I was acting I didn't respond and we stopped being friends. It was with a girl friend though, so not the opposite sex. You'll probably push her away but at least you'll have your answer. If you are going for it just let it all out though. Might as well get everything off your chest so you don't regret it later

[Asker]

That's it though. I don't want to push her away, I want to go back to how it was but I know that probably won't happen. I do see your point and I do appreciate your input but I think it would be wrong of me to not try and fix this, no matter how much it may hurt me in the end.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, if you guys are truly meant to be friends or more it'll happen. Just go for it but don't stress out too much

[Asker]

Ya I suppose I'll have to accept it either way. Thanks for helping. I really do appreciate it.

[Opinion Owner]

Anytime 👍

[Asker]

Well she opened it, I didn't get reply so I suppose that is my answer. 🙁

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, it's happened to me before too. (Being left on read) If you truly like them you're only hurt at most for like a month and you almost forget about them within 4-6 months so it'll get better

[Opinion Owner]

I would just keep busy with everything else in your life

[Asker]

I understand but we work together so the reminder is always there.

[Asker]

So I was walking out into the smoking area so I could stay outside on my break, I didn't know she was there but she was. I stood at the doorway for a minute before turning around and walking away. I really wanted to talk her as she was by herself but I decided not to. I'm still wondering how I fucked this up.

[Robin83]

I will keep saying this. Friendship between the sexes isn’t a thing. You either date and plan a future together, or you split off. Telling her what you want and what your goals are might be a good idea. Masculine traits such as ambition, confidence and bluntness is what she wants. Don’t be soft or woke, tell her what you want and ask her to comply. :) good luck.

[Dragonstarterplus]

Blah blah blah just ask her out