Girlfriend talks about another guy?

[Anonymous]

I know I am going to sound really insecure and retarded. but anyway, I have been with my girlfriend for 2 months now. We get along great and she seems happy to be with me. But lately, she has been talking to her one guy friend a lot. They have been friends for a long time and I have no problem with her talking to other guys. But she mentions his name often, and the last time she went out with her friends, she was like "can we take Mr. ABC(her guy friend) along?" . It wasn't this way when we started dating. they are friends from school but they rarely ever talked. And now he texts her till late at night. He broke up with his girlfriend just a few weeks ago. so I don't really know what is going on. I don't want to tell her to stop it or invade her privacy and spy on her and check her phone or do something stupid. she always said that she loves me but isn't in love with me, but just the other day she told me that she is in love with me and wants to be with me forever.. Should I be jealous of the other guy? or am I just being an idiot

[vmw2008]

I don't think you should be jealous, but I can understand why this kind of behavior would bother you. From a girl's perspective, he is probably just a friend to her. She does not see it as more than that. But knowing how guys are with friendships, and knowing that they don't put that much effort into one unless they like a girl, it's probably safe to say he sees her as more than a friend. Especially since him and his girlfriend just broke up and he's texting your girlfriend late into the night.

What you do with that information is up to you. Acting jealous and crazy will certainly drive her away, but having a mature conversation about it may help if it's become a big issue for you.

[Asker]

thank you :) I don't really want to discuss it with her because I don't want to make a big deal out of it. but it bothers me a lot. makes me want to punch that guy. and what makes it harder is, I only get to see her like once a month or so, since we don't live close to each other.

[Darkfairie17]

You don't need to be jealous. You have a right to feeling how you do, she is your girlfriend and I think it is natural to feel a little jealousy about a single guy friend. But honestly, what you should do is just to tell her how you feel. You don't have to accuse her, just let her know that you love her a lot and you don't want anything to get in between you two. Maybe talk to her about this while taking her out to a nice dinner :) Celebrate your love of her, she sounds like she loves you a lot, so I don't think you have anything to worry about :)

Try to realize that she may have guy friends, but you are the one who has her heart :D

[Asker]

thanks . I think I should just try to push away my jealousy... I seriously don't want it ruining things between us :/

[ina0089]

Well...i have guy friends too.. I get along better with them then with girls...and when I tell my boyfriend about them he kinda starts getting worried too... I mean I just really like them AS FRIENDS .. and they're funny .. I want my boyfriend to laugh at the stupid jokes we have too.. and one of them is more sensitive, and we do talk about stuff .. sometimes it ends up getting late ..but I do keep a distance between them...i think you shouldn't worry C:

[Asker]

thanks a ton :)

[assembledtoy]

It's perfectly fine for you to be jealous... I mean, if a guy is talking to your girl that much and he is not a relationship, there could be a chance that the guy might flirt with her, but hopefully she can tell and won't do anything if she truly is faithful.

[ilovemyjose101]

Don't be jelous. It just makes things harder.

You have reason to have red flags go up though.

She might be into him. but she might not be. You never know.

Just remember she's still with you and not this other guy.

If it really bothers you though, I think the best thing you can do here is just

sit down with her and talk to her. She should be willing to talk to you about this.

Communication is really important for you guys right now.

[Asker]

thank you for responding

[Anonymous]

now you know how we feel when men stare at other girls