Your son doesn't get to dictate how you act. You may not always be right (and should admit that sometimes, when necessary, so you don't lose credibility), but you are the adult here, not him.
The photos are sexual, but not overly revealing. You're wanting to find a partner, right? For a relationship, or for hookups?
Your son does have a right to have an opinion on this part.
He probably sees you as marketing yourself sexually, and that makes him uncomfortable, and that is understandable.
He's also at an age (presumably teenager?) where he doesn't really have a backbone yet. He is still finding out who he is, and he doesn't have the emotional wherewithal to be strong and confident, when others challenge him.
He doesn't want to see you as sexual. Most family members who are healthy do not want this.
You could tone it down a bit, to make him feel a lot less uncomfortable. But he is probably at a state of his life where he challenges lots of things you do. He's breaking away, trying to find some semblance of independence.
If this is you, then it's your right.
Some other women might not pose in these ways. There's lots of others photos you can take that are a bit more neutral in pose, and still be attractive. You might attract the hookup-wanting guys with these.
Can I say yes and no at the same time?
(this is only my opinion, it could be wrong, it could be right)
There is nothing wrong with the photos themselves. I read your profile and from what I can tell you just want to go and enjoy yourself. So many years in a less than ideal relationship and you deserve it. I may be over 50 now but mentally I'm still in my 20's and I would love to go clubbing in Ibiza and have wholly inappropriate sex with strangers.
The problem is that your son's friends are seeing the photos of a sensual woman and they are at the age where their bodies just think "woman me want sex" (say that in a caveman voice). They can't help it. Your son sees that and he is getting freaked out that these people who he thinks of as his friends are attracted to his mother. Part of that is him wanting to protect you from other men, he is the man in the house now and he doesn't want any other men getting close to you. He will get over it but maybe for now don't post them so often.
Think about it... your son is in the throes of adolescent hormones and his peers are teasing him about having a 'hot' 'cheesecake' Mom. You CAN'T promulgate the overt societal hypocrisy---
If you're a typical household, as a single Mom you're stuck in a paradox; female desirability, like produce... has a 'best if used by' date. You're acutely aware of your biological clock.
Yet, you'd prefer to maintain the fiction of your son's naïve 'innocence' to NOT consider 'Mom' as sexual. He wasn't born under a cabbage leaf... if you still do his laundry, how will YOU handle those first 'morning wood' semen stains? Sounds like its past the time for 'THAT' talk---
Theoretically, 'sex ed' is SUPPOSED to be BOTH the prerogative and obligation of One's parents. Mine NEVER did... how far are YOU frankly willing to teach, so he doesn't become some girl's future 'bad memory' ?
Imagine the circumstances reversed.
You, as a teen daughter learning from her catty friends... that your 'Daddy' has been posting "preview of cumming attractions" woodie 'dick pics' on HIS social media.
Our society has yet to openly come to terms that MUCH of 'romance' below the age of 60 is ABOUT soliciting then negotiating recreational 'hook up' physical intimacy.
You can't demand that your kid "be supportive" of his Mommy being a thirst trap where you know he's taking shit from people about it and all that other noise. Like you're basically and most likely getting him picked on more than the average kid. Like try to understand why he wouldn't "be supportive" of his Mom making all his peers want to phuck his mom and the adults 'maybe' even around him have that cold "sorry kid" demeanor around him... or worse, an adult like me that would bluntly say "hey kid, I want to bang your mom!" Take that phrase "thirst trap" and for some reason that trap is being set out in public where all the people he wished would treat him with respect are seeing it... they're seeing it. Understand what I'm saying? like if you were my wife for instance, all these pics have boobs or butt and I'd put you on blast so effing fast for posting this stuff because it's obviously for attention. Maybe acceptable if we were swingers but, got to be real about this right?
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I’m around your sons age, I can understand where the embarrassment and discomfort can come from because his friends are probably having a talk about hot his mom is, and he probably doesn’t want to see you, his mom, in this type of way. I love the confidence, you are a beautiful lady and you should be flaunting yourself. I would be posting my pictures if I looked that good too.
However, from a teenager/young adults perspective, it can be a bit weird for many different reasons. I would respect your sons concerns and requests, and maybe find a different platform or make a different account to post these.
Your son doesn't like it. Because his friends are probably making his life hell. Talking about wanting to have sex with you. High school and junior high guys will do that to their friends. To torment them. If their mom looks hot or takes sexy photos.
That's the way guys that age are. The photos you post are supplying them with ammo.
Now you're perfectly free to post photos like that. At least you can understand why your son may not like them.
I try to be polite with my opinions, but this one deserves a blunt answer.
Your photos as a mother are highly inappropriate for social media. If I was your daughter I’d be appalled. You should be embarrassed not only for your son, but also for yourself that you feel the need to post these photos to get the attention of strangers on social media.
Personally I’d feel embarrassed at posting these at my age of 27.
What exactly is the end result you're looking for here?
These are pretty sexy poses and curve friendly clothes.
You look old enough to know that this is not exactly appropriate.
Now if or not it's wrong is another story, you do you after all.
But what is it you want?
Are you looking for attention, a partner, a hookup... what goes in your mind when you pose for these pics and eventually post them?
I grew up with a couple guys and their mom someone acting like you and dressed like you to this day they still dislikes and they really have nothing good to say about her or them
And they told me many stories because your mom would bring home some guy old enough to be his brother LOL not a dad and then you have all his friends wanting to be his friend because they wanted to be his mom's friend the guy loses out a lot of different ways I can understand where they were coming from their sons I mean and it sucks for me too because their moms we're hot and I'm sure they probably still are I can't really tell you if it's appropriate or not because basically you're going to do what you want to do anyway now if you waited until he was eighteen and is at the house that might be a different story but it is what it is I guess
Well his friends are seeing super sexy photos of you, and your son is getting joked on by his friends that his mother is a MILF.
You're probably embarrassing your son. And his friends are giving him a hard time talking about how hot his mom is, and how they want to bang his mom. You should make sure you unfriend or blocking his friends from all your accounts.. And yes no son wants to see pics of his mother with her ass or cleavage in sexy posses.
Its not that they are gross, I very much like the photos... but yeah its embarrassing and not wanted by your son.
The problem is that your kid & kid's friends are on the same social media pages. Yeah, you're going to embarrass your son by acting like a THIRSTY WHORE. He wants his mom to be seen as a classy, respectable lady type. You know, the type that his friends won't call a whore or make lewd comments about without him having every right to punch them in the face.
Sorry, but as a mom life shouldn't be all about you having fun. You have a responsibility to do things that are best for your kid (s). In an ideal world you would have found a dad who would stay with you and then none of this would come up cause you wouldn't be fishing for men online.
Personally.. I don't think they're inappropriate. That being said, if your son is having issues then you need to find solutions and/or compromises. You not being able to post what you want and him having an opinion about it, at all, are both problems that need resolving before they get worse.
I understand why your son would have reservations about it, specially if his friends are seeing your pictures. I mean, if you came across my radar I would more than likely cheat on my 20 to 30 yr old diet. Personally, I feel he may be acting foolish about it and has to understand that you may be mom, but you're still also a woman.
your son is uncomfortable about his friends want to fuck you and even the ones who don't probably just think it's funny to make your son uncomfortable, either way I think you have 3 choices: you can keep doing what you are doing and make your son miserable for a while; you can stop posting those kind of pictures and probably making yourself more miserable; or you can make your accounts more private, so you can keep doing what you want and prevent your son from being reminded everyday of how hot his mom is.
Yeah your sons friends are probably fucking with him because of the pics it’s not that they’re inappropriate it’s that you put them out there where his friends could find them kinda not cool mom kids have a hard enough time growing up don’t make it harder cause what’s he gonna do when one of his friends is like damn look at that bitches hot ass? He’s gonna hit him and maybe even get beat up over it I mean damn the damage is probably already done so not cool and I don’t like judging but you brought your son a lot of misery man this sucks I feel bad for both of you please take them down just send them private message to dudes or chicks whatever think about it you don’t want to cause your son problems no mom does
Your son's friends love them because they jerk off to them and constantly remind him every day how they'd love to bend you over and make you squeal until you can't walk. He probably hears that shit multiple times a day and feels powerless to do anything about it. But that's probably what you were going for. To get sexualized attention from a bunch of guys to make you feel better about being a single mom who doesn't get nearly as much male attention as you did 20 years ago and convincing yourself that you'll actually get a guy to commit to you. It's a tad desperate.
If you’re single go for it.
Women seem to have this issue of not understanding that once they get in a relationship you cannot behave the same way they once did when they were single.
They get so invested in all the attention they got that they don’t wanna let that part go, yet think the guy will absolutely LOVE them continuing to do that.
If a guy is dating a girl doing this? Chances are he either is cheating which is why to her, it seems like he doesn’t care.
Or, he’s a bitch with no self worth
The second and fourth pictures, no. The first one, kinda.
Your son is right. If you're more willing to be egotistical for strangers on social media by showing them your tits and ass, than spare your son the massive embarrassment of the whole school thinking his mom is an OnlyFans whore, then you're a terrible mother and person.
You don't even look bad for your age, but come on... You have kids now. It's time to STOP!
I like your photos and think you look really good - that said, maybe post them on platforms he’s not frequenting and make sure he doesn’t get unwarranted attention from his peers due to his “hot mom”. I don’t have kids, but I would not want to mix myself into my son’s personal sphere as a peer, especially not on a sexual level. It delves into the creepy/inappropriate and should be kept separate.
Your life, you enjoy it. If you are comfortable then be you. Mums exist to embarrass their kids! Mine often makes jokes when female friends are around like... when the dog had his penis out my mum once said to 2 female friends "oh the dog has his willy out, my son gets his out when girls are around too" ... or openly discussing how she's always been "lucky" with men and "size"...
I struggle to take you seriously. Your writing lacks basic punctuation, at your big age you're craving attention from horny teens and you're stupid because you either never thought to consider what your son feels, or because you already know the answer to your question, but chose to use this platform to further objectify yourself for a small dopamine rush from the "support" you get from other guys. Your son needs a mother, not someone he's embarrassed about.
yes. they are.
if you're married and have kids, i think any mother would know what's appropriate and whats not for posting on social media, knowing their kids, friends are looking, or just perhaps make it private?
also, dont you think you should save all these for rather your husband instead of showing it to random creeps and strangers online, like whats the use when you have a husband? does he not deserve all this just to himself. would you want your husband to post things like this on social media for other women to see and flirt with him?
honestly i am embarrassed for the children, imagine being in their place, and your mother just posts these kinds of pics online, honestly id wanna die out of embarrassment.
I think your son asking you to take them down is saying a lot without saying a lot. I wouldn’t want my friends talking about fucking my mom all the time. That shit would become a common theme they’d use to fuck with me. Guaranteed. You’re gorgeous and that’s great that you’re owning your shit but if that’s making your son feel however he’s feeling I think you should be more conscious. Just be aware of how that shit might affect him.
Put your fucking phone down and get a life! You've obviously got kids and I would hope there is also a father in home as well so you should be so busy keeping house and raising kids that you don't have the time to play like a teen on a phone.
Yes it’s gross. Second you shouldn’t give a flying fuck if your son likes them or not, he isn’t meant to be attracted to you he’s meant to be attracted to women who aren’t related to him. Third you should feel uncomfortable asf if your sons friends are saying such things about you because of the posts. If you chose that life where you want to post shot like that then do yourself a favor and block your sons friends and your son. They have no business in your business. And please check the way you talk about your son it sounds like you care awfully a lot about if whether or not he likes what he sees. Are you married? If you are then you should care more about what your man says and if you don’t then I suggest finding a boyfriend to your liking and rely on his opinions.
