about a year ago, I made a post here asking what to do because my boyfriend had just suffered an injury (an extremely hard kick to the testicles, which led to severe problems in the bedroom). many suggested I should leave him, as we eventually learned that he became sterile, and was largely impotent from the injury.
I stayed with him, and now I'm beginning to regret it. it's not the infertility or the impotency (which hasn't improved), but he's been acting in borderline abusive ways towards me based on how i reacted to his injury.
long story summary:
the injury: he got the injury from an argument with his roommate about how we were having sex too loud. after a while, his roommate just kicked him so hard in the balls he fell to the ground and moaned for like a solid thirty minutes before we could get him an ambulance.
now, this is the part where he blames me: at first, when i saw him get kicked in the balls, I LAUGHED MY ASS OFF. the roommate and us were all old friends, and this wasn't the first time my boyfriend had been sacked before, so i didn't think it was a big deal. i didn't know the extent of his injuries.
but my boyfriend (like months later) now brings up how i laughed at him whenever we get into an argument to guilt-trip me. he also blames me for his impotency, saying "i don't try hard enough to give him hard", when in reality it's because he might not be physically capable of it anymore
what should i even do? i'd feel so callous and judged if i broke up with him because people would think it's just because his balls broke. and was it really that wrong for me to react that way? how would you react if your boyfriend got sacked and you didn't realize how severe it could be?
I stayed with him, and now I'm beginning to regret it. it's not the infertility or the impotency (which hasn't improved), but he's been acting in borderline abusive ways towards me based on how i reacted to his injury.
long story summary:
the injury: he got the injury from an argument with his roommate about how we were having sex too loud. after a while, his roommate just kicked him so hard in the balls he fell to the ground and moaned for like a solid thirty minutes before we could get him an ambulance.
now, this is the part where he blames me: at first, when i saw him get kicked in the balls, I LAUGHED MY ASS OFF. the roommate and us were all old friends, and this wasn't the first time my boyfriend had been sacked before, so i didn't think it was a big deal. i didn't know the extent of his injuries.
but my boyfriend (like months later) now brings up how i laughed at him whenever we get into an argument to guilt-trip me. he also blames me for his impotency, saying "i don't try hard enough to give him hard", when in reality it's because he might not be physically capable of it anymore
what should i even do? i'd feel so callous and judged if i broke up with him because people would think it's just because his balls broke. and was it really that wrong for me to react that way? how would you react if your boyfriend got sacked and you didn't realize how severe it could be?
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