True or false: many women are ruining their chances of being a WIFE by sleeping around and focusing too much on career?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Women also get shamed for being a prude for not having experience like a prostitute in my experience and this is also why my ex broke up with me just because i did not give the manwhore sex although he is a muslim and should wait till marriage- the irony ;) So i would not say that. According to my experience with gag guys is that some or many of them want a virgin or women with low bodycount who have the experience of a prostitute/pornstars. This is why i prefere virgin or men with low bodycount who is also a "prude" like me. Yes you are prude when you ain't into anal sex, deep throath, choking, blood play or another self harming bs but i get called weird or crazy when i also want to do all of this with my non existent my strap-on dildo as a joke. It is easy to stick your dick in every hole but hard to endure all of the pain, health issues, consequences etc. I also think that men who are against of promiscuos women should not be promiscuos themself. You can't be against hook up culture but also be part of it, since it is hypocritical and selfish.
I also can't generalize men or women, of course. I am just talking about my experience.

True or false: many women are ruining their chances of being a WIFE by sleeping around and focusing too much on career?

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Probably true. I became a wife young. Didn't sleep around or focus on career. If you want the family life it's better to start sooner then later before time runs out

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

I'd say false. That's because when people match up, there are hundreds of things combined that makes a person what they are. People might meet hundreds of people in their lives. Out of all of those only a select few are serious candidates for a match - i. e. when the chemistry is there.

Things like sleeping around (whatever that might mean to you) and focusing on career might be deal breakers for some guys, but they are not the kind of thing that will turn away the masses. There are millions of potential matches out there, and even if someone has those traits, there are still millions of potential matches.

It's true that a lot of men will not like those traits. It's also true that a LOT of men don't care. It's not going to ruin their chances, or even significantly reduce their chances. The kind of man that would not want those traits in a woman are probably not the kind of men the woman would want anyway, so it goes both ways. They would just not be compatible, just like they might not be compatible for a thousand other reasons.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

True.

If you're interested in doing things career-wise, then good for you but in terms of attraction career doesn't have much relevance on your attractiveness. So investing a lot into career first can become a trade off. Also on a related note, women who are obviously going to be busy will be less attractive, no one wants a partner that's never going to be around.

As for partners, generally speaking the more partners you have the less attractive you are. Women naturally start at high attractiveness and decline more over time, on their way down they will grab hold of a partner who is making his way up in attractiveness.
A woman who sleeps around is like jumping off that cliff. Her attractiveness as a long term partner will plummet.

Novacane · Answer

Okay the focusing on career one depends on a variable. As we know women are more hypergamy so they wouldn’t date a man that has a career, if the woman is making 6 figures, it’s evident she will want a guy that also makes 6 figures or more, and let’s be honest there are not that many guys that make that kind of money let alone in general those people make a small percentage, and those men who do make that kind of money, let’s be honest they have options and usually go for the young beautiful trophy wife, not the “career women”, and since women don’t date down, they are left with a small percentage to pick from. Now for her sleeping around yes, no guy wants to be with a girl that has been around with many guys, but not only
does it make her look bad but that also will fall on the person she is with.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

There is some nuance, but statistically true. Sleeping around is a biggie for me. I didn’t sleep around with more people than I can count on one hand, I expect the same from my partner. I’m also not keen on being the guy she “settled” for.
As for career, it’s a bit of a 50/50 bias. For one, women rarely will date down, and when they do the divorce rate skyrockets. Men usually say it doesn’t matter, but men don’t really have a lot to offer, and when a woman has options I’ve seen multiple cases of “he had no drive” and “he didn’t apply himself enough”.

JSmuve · Answer

True, women just don't want to admit it because it makes them accountable for their life choices. Few self-respecting guys wanna be the one to commit to the woman who spread their legs for a city block worth of guys. There's too many complications that'll show up long-term to be worth it. As for the career, career-focused women tend to have masculine traits that are unattractive to lots of guys. Not only that, if those women are in high-earning positions, chances are they will not want to be with a guy who earns less than her, because that would be "settling for less than she deserves" so their pool of guys is much reduced, limiting their chances of finding a guy.

aquamarine321 · Answer

Most females will say false, because they only see it from a females eyes, because she believes in getting a good job and money and during those 10 years or more years you will come across many guys who could be your future husband, but when you get old miserable, unattractive then you’ll realize you’re single and unhappy and wondering where all the men went, and then you become lonely depressed and desperate that now you’ll go for any available make to marry, plus men don’t want much , because you ain’t giving them anything so they go for younger women, because younger women have it all even tho they may/may not be working or finically well of, but because younger women are more humble easier to deal with more loving caring and can cook and clean and is

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

Truer words were never spoken. Women can lie to themselves about it until they hit the wall, but at the end of the day what men want and what men want in a wife does not bend to your feelings. Today's modern women does not understand men at all, which is just baffling to me because we men are simple creatures. Men don't want a woman who has slept around and men do not give a damn about your career. If you put your career ahead of motherhood, men will not view you as a suitable mother. No-fucking-duh. You'd think that would be obvious to anyone with half a brain.

AD240pCharlie · Answer

Most people (at least most people in the younger generation) don't give that much of a crap about a partner's sexual history (as long as there aren't any patterns of unsafe sex or cheating) but being career-driven can definitely be a problem for both men and women if they want any kind of long-term relationship. Both building a career and developing a relationship require a lot of time and effort, and those are things no one has an infinite amount of, so the more you put into one of them the less you can put into the other. If a person wants both, then they will have to prioritize and divide their efforts between them.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Higher salary comes from better jobs. Better jobs are found at better companies. Better companies provide quality benefits. Quality benefits usually mean better maternity leave.

A woman who decides to have children sitting pretty in a higher ranked position will no doubt be treated better, have more returning job security, and be in a financial position to take the additional 3 months family leave (unpaid). She may decide to, she may not, but the difference is Choice.

Sleeping with lots of people only matters to some people. Some people view it as additional experience and less emotional work (women dumping the ill effects of purity culture onto unsuspecting men).

Gangactivities911 · Answer

Absolutely 100% true. Most Men don’t really care about ur career like u think they do. I mean I guess it depends on the guy. But if u ask me and I think most guys that’s probs what they’d say. I’m not interested in dating a 30 yr old woman no matter what degree/job she has. Maybe if she was like a billionaire and really attractive and really good in bed and we clicked super well but realistically there’s no job that a woman could have that would make me choose them over younger women. I’m only interested in starting a serious relationship with younger women.

Dragonpurple · Answer

I don't think career has anything to do with it. A wife is not someone who does not work or focus on her career.

I would help her with her career as much as she wanted and have in the past.

As for sleeping around, that is more likely to be a issue but not a guaranteed issue. All it does it eliminate guys that do not want her as a wife because she has slept around.

That is where it might be an issue as it seems like it is hard enough to find the right person but if you eliminate a good chunk of people out there, either through your own choices or by being very selective then your options get lower and can mean a life of being single.

Which may not actually be a bad thing.

Anonymous · Answer

It is not the politically correct things to agree with that statement, but that doesn't change the fact that it's definitely true. Here's why.

Promiscuous women are low value women when it comes to a mate. Men know this instinctively, and statistics show it is a fact... promiscuous women tend to make worse mothers, worse wives and they tend to be more unhappy in marriage and more likely to divorce.

Also, women in their 20s have most of the power in the dating game. They lose that power after about age 30, at which point many become desperate to find a mate and have children. This article sums it up very well.

https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/why-women-lose-the-dating-game-20120421-1xdn0.html

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

False. Getting married is easy. I could find someone on the street, drive to Vegas and be married tonight. Building a career is much harder to do. If a woman's partner (whether it be male or female) is uncomfortable with her pursuing a career, then maybe they aren't the right one for her anyway.

YollyM · Answer

Not all women "RUIN" chances of being wives because NOT ALL WOMEN desire to be wives. Thus they aspire to be TRULLY INDEPENDENT. Not because they CAN'T get married and have their husbands take care of them , but because they DON'T WANT to get married.
Men often make the mistake of assuming that ALL women see marriage as an achievement but that was in the past (though for some women marriage STILL is the end goal in life).
It's a new era , women are more liberated and have a sense of self. Women know that their bodies belong to them and not to society. So if they want to be sexually active before marriage they can because MARRIAGE IS NOT THE END GOAL FOR ALL WOMEN.

JC1981 · Answer

Maybe those women arn't interested in becoming a wife. And no it isn't true at all, it's a personal choice in both aspects. Career and sexual experience have nothing to do with someone's potential for a committed relationship. Unless your materialistic, judgmental and don't have the ability to see what's on the inside of a person.

That1dude25 · Answer

There a small truth to it only cause some guys will consider that a deal breaker. I think you should just be cognizant of the type of guy u want. If you want a family oriented guy that hasn't slept with a ton of women. U should act in a family friendly way and not sleep around. However there dudes that are cool with it as long as you are cool with whatever in their history. Basically the cleaner the guy u want the cleaner u should act. Careers are hard cause life a balance. U gotta make time for a relationship but being successful and focus won't drive off secure men, it can scare insecure men. Also some men want house wives which is fair but if that not u , u should try to conform to that anyways

Caunsos · Answer

The cost of a family it sometimes that can rarely be met on a single income.

Also the whole question is made up of subjective terms. First "many women" how many is many? Are talk the majority of women or just a large number and if is it a large number how large 100,000 or 10 million? Second "sleeping around" how much sex with how many partners in how much time counts as sleeping around? Third "focusing too much" how much is too much? Do we messure it in hours worked? Do we count hours networking? Fourth "and" are we saiding the these women are doing both or just at least one of the two?

Mavie123 · Answer

I'd say part of what you said is right.
well focusing on your career is cool and of course, it won't ruin your chance to be a wife.
but yeah sleeping around might.
coz nobody wants to be with someone unfaithful wether girl or guy.
it goes both ways

Kayla45 · Answer

Well... I'm a wife to a loving husband and I'm super career focused and driven. So maybe some have this issue, but certainly not all women do.

I'm pretty sure guys dig a woman who's career driven instead of being a jobless housewife. (Which in some cases is perfectly acceptable if kids are involved, don't get me wrong)

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

I am going to speak for myself here, I'd sleep around if I was single as a pringle. If I don't want to date yet, then I don't want to date. Simple as that. If I want to focus on a certain career, then I am not going to let anyone get in the way or hold me back. Yeah, I may be ruining my chance of becoming a wife, but at least I'm enjoying freedom while I'm at it.

Anonymous · Answer

For sure many are reducing their chances. Some are ruining them altogether. No idea how many though since plenty aren't really interested in the first place.

But yeah--sleeping around definitely does reduce a girl's long-term relationship value. Career focus doesn't hurt per se, but it doesn't help much at all and it DOES take a tremendous amount of time and energy so in that sense it can reduce the odds of relationship success for a girl as well.

I think everyone knows this. It's just not p. c. to say it out loud. But smart girls who do well in their careers are well aware that it doesn't help them on the dating market like it does for their male colleagues.

TheorionMage · Answer

THEIR Life to 'spend' as they see fit...
years they can NEVER re-live for the choices NOT taken.

Though adoption is not so much frowned upon, as once was.
( And the ONLY option for LGBTQ partners)

The Native Americans have a saying: "TAKE nothing but MEMORIES, ... and leave nothing but footprints"

Anonymous · Answer

the poll is very telling , guys split 50/50 , girls heavily say its false. i suppose a lot of girls sleep around when there like 18-20 so that stage of life is long past by the time there looking to get married usually mid to late 20's.

Raiden93 · Answer

I think that if they focus so hard in one direction they'll let time past them by. People come and go but you also have to live. As a man you have to pick a side. Show her the support she won't forget you. If she makes time you don't take it for granted.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

While careers have logically nothing to do with a person possible chance of marriage but constantly sleeping around with others might be it. What happened if you tried meeting a nice guy/girl who finds out your sexual pass, it would realistically worry them if the guy or girl is faithful or not.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

False.
1. Men prefer woman who have their own independence so focussing on career is good. Also you can date while also focusing on your career. One thing doesn't prevent the other.
2. About the number of previous sexual partners... who the fuck cares?

slatyb · Answer

Women who focus on becoming a wife, with no career, are extremely vulnerable in divorce as they have limited means of supporting themselves.

Baredog69 · Answer

As a man I think it is very hypocritical that always has been to call a man that sleeps around with as many women as he can instead yet a woman who sleeps around and may enjoy sex as much as any man it was referred to as a s*** w****. If a woman wants to have a f******* life and enjoy a career more power to her.

cth96190 · Answer

Add to the list disfiguring themselves with tattoos, piercings (especially in the nose) and weird coloured hair.
There seems to be a contest among young women to make themselves as physically repulsive as possible.

libsaretards · Answer

Not so much the seeking career part. However there is a balance that needs to be struck between career and personal. This applies to men as well.

The sleeping around is different. No man wants a woman who sleeps around the town.

t-8900 · Answer

Promiscuity is a turn off to me for sure. But if she's career driven or not Idc so much as long as she likes what she's doing and not working over so many hours as I need my alone time with her.

Vick2727 · Answer

Career is not the issue. It's just women aren't loyal these days or have a high body count that turns men off.

SnakeBoop · Answer

False. Only insecure partners who couldn't handle them would say so. :)

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know any women that are focusing "too much" on their career lol, but that's not a bad thing! Or many that are "sleeping around", and if so, probably aren't "advertising" it. That's not necessarily "bad" either, depending on her and the circumstances. Who doesn't like sex?

ODC2112 · Answer

Lately, I think people remain teenagers forever. It used to be something that was only clearly seen in men, but now it is even more evident in women. People don't want to become Husbands or Wives and continue to behave at 20, 30, 40, 50 as they did when they were 14. It is not a question of study or career, it is a question of values in life, and current values are not adult values, but adolescent values.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, they are good individually but destructive together. Women while young sleep around with bad boys, most good guys stay single and focus on their careers. Now that after a certain age and established career women want quality men with careers and will not date those bad boys anymore as they don't have carriers. Now the good men with careers can date young women who are more fun and without career burden as they had been ignored their whole life.
It's a circle of misery.

AncientWisdom · Answer

Those girls unfortunately end up with dudes that are usually not good , or end up settling for a guy they don’t love.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

The career? Not necessarily, unless you are unbalanced about it. The sleeping around? Definitely. I don't know many men who would knowingly shop for used and damaged goods.

Anonymous · Answer

Nah, that's what misogynists tell you in order to shame you for making your own money and afford your own living and not be able to be taken a financial hostage (so that you are cheated on while he has a secret 19 year old sugar baby on the side, that he sees after work in the hotel).

lauvboi · Answer

Focusing on your career is never 'too' much. You are chasing your dreams and you surely have to give it all.

Rather than being gender specific, people who come from a traditional and cultured background would never prefer 'people' who sleeps around.

That aside, i prefer ambitious, career driven women. I and my people these days prefer women like that

hhadeshatesme · Answer

if marriage is a goal for said women then yeah those have the potential to get in the way

exitseven · Answer

Sleeping around is definitely not attractive and if she is too wrapped up in her career, that is not attractive either.

that-one-dud3 · Answer

If they choose a good career I don’t see the issue there has to be a work-life balance in everyone and anyone life irregardless of gender. Sleeping around that part I guess that’s someone’s personal preference is a woman has slept with 3-4 men before she slept with me then so be it but I’d be more uncomfortable if she said a high number like 9-12 men. Even then even though it doesn’t seem like a lot in our heads it is. So be it.

Anonymous · Answer

It's true in some cases. I was a person who got married young and started a family. I've definitely encountered women in their 30's who seem desperate to get married and have kids.

Chris_u006 · Answer

You just need to find the perfect schmuck for you to marry. Yes I know it will probably take some time. If it is meant to be some day, you will know it!🙏😇

tojazzjune · Answer

Women can and do sleep around and it is simply fine as long as she is honest and safe. No double standards please!!

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think there's anything wrong with a career be it guy or girl so long as it doesn't consume you. You need to find that balance. But I do agree too many women ruin their life by sleeping around. If a woman has slept with a dozen guys before me why would I believe I was ever anything more than just #13 to her?

Jintendo18 · Answer

No, but once family is started, neither parent should be absent for so long from the house so as not to have any time for the kids. As for the sleeping around part, it is what it is.

Lliam · Answer

False. They are the ones who make the best wives for real men. It's weak men who will feel threatened.

Bezzina · Answer

This isn't as black and white as it seems as its all about who the people are.

Example a super hard working male lawer may also want to be partnered up with a hard working career orientated female.
Then again the same person may just want a house wife to raise children.
On the number of sexual encounters. Again it matters to some people and not to others.

Myself. I want a career driven partner and couldnt care if theyve been with 5 or 500 people.

NopeWhatTime · Answer

If me focusing too much on my career is ruining my chances of being a wife, I'll happily stay single. And not as many women sleep around as people think

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Absolutely true. Its almost impossible to find women worth marrying.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

True. You whore around or you take your career to the extreme then why would anyone desire to marry you?  Better stay single if that's the case.

notwoke · Answer

true, the personality these women develop make the unmarryable

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Women are ruining their chances plenty of ways. I don't think focusing on their careers is one of those ways though.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Not so much the second part. But definitely the first part

VikingWarLord · Answer

Sleeping around is fine, focusing on career is the killer

Still-alive · Answer

im sure this is the fantasy incels all tell themselves after being rejected so many times. but it just ain't true

AdithyaR · Answer

Neither of those have anything to do with being a good partner.

loveslongnails · Answer

Just curious... how much sleeping around is "too much" for a woman to be considered "wife material", AND, is that number the same for MEN?

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Why to be one mans while while she can be wife of multiple people. And carrier is important for more reasons or something that earns them passive income

fonduegirl · Answer

And too many men here are making fake pink accounts to bring us down lol

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