I am ISFJ. My husband is ISTJ. I am 100% F (read LOTS of feelings) and he is 100% T (read very logical and confused by feelings). Therein lies almost every argument we have ever had.
I hear some couples argue about finances. We have never. It is almost always him being insensitive or misunderstanding my big feelings. 🤷🏻♀️ A 21 year work in progress. You?
FTR, the letters stand for the following:
I - introvert E - extrovert S - sensing N - intuiting F - feeling T - thinking J - judging P - perceiving
Responsible, punctual, and thorough, you are temperamentally well-suited for long-term planning and execution. You like to familiarize yourself with the facts and think things through, and you tend to shake your head at people who neglect the importance of committing properly to a goal. Once committed, you tend to find it easy to muster the discipline and patience required to stay the course, even in the face of distractions that would make others change directions or abandon the endeavor. You tend to come across as serious and you are generally not one to wear your heart on your sleeve. But as those closest to you have probably seen, you also have a sentimental streak and a wry sense of humor underneath the stern facade. Because you are so diligent in approaching your projects, you may at times be caught off guard by sudden changes which arise in a flash and which are hard to guard against. Steady and purposeful, and endowed with a good deal of common sense, you exhibit an enviable thoroughness and attention to detail that makes you well-suited to taking on long-term commitments and leading them to triumph by way of the sure and steady approach.
"Responsible, punctual, and thorough, you are temperamentally well-suited for long-term planning and execution. You like to familiarize yourself with the facts and think things through, and you tend to shake your head at people who neglect the importance of committing properly to a goal. Once committed, you tend to find it easy to muster the discipline and patience required to stay the course, even in the face of distractions that would make others change directions or abandon the endeavor. You tend to come across as serious and you are generally not one to wear your heart on your sleeve. But as those closest to you have probably seen, you also have a sentimental streak and a wry sense of humor underneath the stern facade. Because you are so diligent in approaching your projects, you may at times be caught off guard by sudden changes which arise in a flash and which are hard to guard against. Steady and purposeful, and endowed with a good deal of common sense, you exhibit an enviable thoroughness and attention to detail that makes you well-suited to taking on long-term commitments and leading them to triumph by way of the sure and steady approach."
I wonder if peoples' results would change over time. I just took a quick look at a couple questions. Like four years ago, I would have answered one way but now I'd answer another. I think most of the questions might be that way. Point is, I have changed a lot in the last couple years as to how I look at life and relationships. Is that just because I'm young or would someone older agree that if they answered at like 20 but are now 40, for example, they would answer differently?
That it does, though people are pretty dynamic and are what they need to be when they need to be it, so I look at as a preference sorter. My fiancé is introverted but can be quite gregarious and engaging; he just runs out of steam before I do lol
" Inspiring, warm, and empathic, you are oriented towards people and towards people's opportunities for growth and self-development. You easily pick up on the convictions, values, and worldviews of others and you strive to unite the people around you in service of a higher ideal. Expressive, sensitive, and charming, you often find yourself in situations where you are able to influence others to the core of their very being. You tend to be strongly in touch with the values and ideals of others, and it is by that connection that you guide people towards acquiring harmony and meaning in their lives. You are at your best when you can act the diplomat, counselor, and teacher to others, and you can sometimes lose enthusiasm in situations where there is no opportunity to bond or interact with others."
A Psychologist's typical profile - fits me.
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The thing about being 100% feelings based is the fact that feelings are inconsistent, largely irrational, and so easy to contrive. Example: if someone says "you look so beautiful today", your feelings could range from utter joy to rage because "he thinks I look horrible normally, and he only said I look good today as a manipulation to get me dress this way more often because he's selfish and embarrassed by my usual style".
You can claim any feeling you want in any situation because there's never any proof and often no good reason for how you feel. So you claim he's being insensitive, which may well be, but most often with "feelers" that's just a copout.
INFP last time I was tested about 20 years ago. I'm sure I'm still the same. There's another test that shows basically if you are detail oriented or big-picture orientated, and how it is best to understand if the person you are dealing with is the same as you or not. If not, it's best to try to understand their perspective and make them aware of yours.
@ez-bri-z my dear I can relate as I often say I am an introvert who plays the roll of extrovert really well. I love talking with people in the grocery line, but I NEED my alone time to recharge. 😇
I feel there were many questions that I actually had a balanced view on but had to choose one and couldn't select both options, the summary isn't too far off of me but not quite accurate.
