Why do guys become misogynists?

Question

what causes someone to hate women so much. I don't get it. you were made from a woman, times have changed where women are now doing everything a man does and more. all guys, even misogynists can answer. and girls if you know someone like that, have they explained why they feel that way? this is something that I don't understand at all because of all the circumstances. all help would be great.

Aquaman2121 · Accepted Answer

Honestly, all misogyny, racism, sexism, even ageism are is an excuse to either mistreat, take advantage of or blame someone for something, look through all of time and you will see it's the case. With that being said, I really highly doubt you know of anyone who just over night, or even over a few months or years became a misogynist, I think you just know some very lonely and sexually frustrated guys. Let me explain,

For a moment in my life, I was worried that I was beginning to hate woman, that I was beginning to resent them. I wasn't in fact, not even close, I was frustrated by the ACTIONS of the females I was encountering. I think femininity, rights, equal pay, and all other fair actions for women are fantastic. I coach youth sports and have never resented the powerful females who have learned sports with me. Some of the best managers and leaders I have ever had were female, and I loved to see them succeed and learn from them, bottom line, i was not growing to hate women, I was letting immature girls frustrate me.
You have to understand, a lot of young girls value attention far more than affection. You can usually see this by the girl on dates with a guy and she can't stop picking her phone up to make duck faces on snap chat leaving the poor guy looking embarrassed. Dating is not very fun for a lot of us. Imagine hearing all day how much of a nasty pig you are and how women can't ever find a caring guy and how all men are assholes, and here you are paying for the meal of a girl who inst even making eye contact with you... its insanely frustrating, and not uncommon either.
See us dudes have insecurities about our bodies too. We are scared of things too. We have feelings too... I know shocking! Look at any advertisement that is geared at men, I bet you 99% of them are using "satisfy your lover/wife/girl/lady" as a main selling point. It is literally nailed into our brains that the job of a man is to please a woman. That is not right for either gender, but it is the truth.
A lot of us guys want a chance to be an honest, man who will show you that all men don't suck. The problem is, most girls are really not that fantastic when it comes to dating. In fact, a lot of girls are why dating today is so terrible. So to answer your question, I doubt many guys you know actually hate women, or are "misogynist" They are probably just immature guys who need to learn that some people just stink.

Livvypuent · Accepted Answer

Hey several different men have done awful things to me when I was a child...and you don't see me running around hating all men...because people are people...and they are all different...it has nothing to do with gender...it has to do with that particular person who f***ed you over you dig ? So quit being babies...and grow the f*** up and look around you...learn something from a person...sexism is just a sad crappy outlook...I mean if you are sexist...then it must be a sh*tty f***ing life you live...that's not what I think...that's what I f***ing know...

TheTrownOne · Accepted Answer

I read all the post n i think i can make things clear. First i want to tell you that a boy never wants to be "misogynists" , its circumstances , the past horrible experiences because of girls. girl makes fun of guy. they sometimes do the things that should not be done with anyone. past experience main reason. but lack of respect of a girl for a guy are reason but the things girls should know that the most of girls behaves similar with strange mens. which leads to think that all womens are same unless a girl give a reason to change that mentality. always complaning about his beahviour personality bank blance, body can give rise to bad feelings about the opposite sex.
SECOND , in answer to question , why guys left women at time of pregnancy is that
sometimes the girls are sudden change. as when their relationship starts they are live, funny happy as they are but after sometimes the changes like they are someone else & then he left another reason is that for guys who are showoff , they may think if i tried many times on her , did everything she expect as a chick. paying her bills hanging with her , listen to their nonsense EVERYday . in RETURN he wants what he doent have.. vaginas (what u says) n this thing feels great n doesn't talk.. and one biggest probelm can be if a girls takes decision to take baby on its own without asking guy then the guy dont have any option than to leave. u must understood onething for a guy having sex doent mean having babies.. sex is for fun.
if any girl dont want to give sexual favour to his guy. can surely say him. but most of girls dont want to lose the credit card guy .. they dont want face the situation then & end up with stupid acts consequesing bad result. pregnancy without his guy..
BE WISE GIRLS ALWAYS CHECK A GUY IF HE REALLY WANT TO YOU OR JUST WANTS FROM YOU JUST FOR FUN... PLS TRY TO CHECK A GUYS HEART NOT HIS APPEARANCE N FAME.. may be he is shy.. do try for good hearted not good looks. MOST OF GUY HATE GIRLS BEACUSE THEY FEARED DEALING WITH WOMEN.. & u girls make his fear to grow more n more but rember. FEAR GIVES BITH TO HATE, support a shy guy for good.
for guys that are bad who genuienly left their partner during pregnancy without any reason are BAD element of society.. should be punish..& do remember they are bad not because they are man but EVIL CAN RESIDE IN EVERY BODY (Y) (!)... HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND
GOD BLESS YOU

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe it's the attitude that some women have.

"Women are now doing everything a man does and more" And more? What do you think that insinuates to some of us?

Some women talk about how we oppress them and have been doing so since the beginning of humanity. A lot things complained about are exaggerated and last I checked, I've never oppressed anyone. Contrary to belief, I don't have any substantial power being a white male.

It could be some of the double standards thrown into our faces. When it comes to dating, it seems like we are the ones that have to initiate almost everything. We are bitched at because apparently, we are the one and only gender that likes to date attractive people. On top of that, we are judged by our cash flow and status. Oh and don't get me started on the double standards in the court system especially in regards in cases involving children.

It could be that when we express certain feelings whether it be emotional or the sentiments expressed above, we are told to man up by girls.

You also have things that occur in relationships. Girls are just as bad as they proclaim guys to be.

That's all I could come up with at the moment. I'm not a misogynist, by the way.

Anonymous · Answer

Ladies - some one asked a question and these guys answered - don't attack them or or their outlook for doing so...you just make their point.

I have had several loving relationships in my life an it is not the relationships but how they ended that lead me to misogyny. In fact the last and the longest virtually sealed my fate as a misogynist.

I have never been derelict or "emotionally unavailable" in a relationship. I wore my heart on my sleeve, and for the most part I was faithful with the only notable exception being my first true love because I knew deep down and was confirmed she was not faithful to me.

The major relationships of my life have always ended with the girl basically leaving me for a guy with more money. I am good looking and intelligent I will be on Jeopardy next year, and in my younger years women were always attracted to me for my "potential" . Translation, they thought I would be wealthy by now as I am approaching 40. I am not. And quite frankly - I do not care that I am not but potential means nothing at this age. At this age women want to see results and quite frankly I wouldn't mind if that was not a double standard. I don't care what you do for a living. I don't - neither does any other guy for the most part UNLESS - he is insecure because you make more. The bottom line is the reason I am no longer "a catch" is because I don't have the disposable income to let a woman sit on her ass or be a stay at home mom. Truth be told - I am an entrepreneur and what I have and don't have is NONE of your business until a knot gets tied and looks like that is never going to happen.

I have kept a roof over girlfriends heads a half dozen times - it was never a deal breaker but I ave needed one kept over mine twice - both relationships ended in disaster. THAT is a double standard and I even chose those women because that did not seam to be materialistic. An ATTRACTIVE (brains and looks) that is not looking for the BBD (Bigger Better Deal) does no exist. Thus I am a misogynist. Point blank. Take economic terms out of the relationship and ask yourself do you love him? Why does it matter how much money he has? If you can't do that you can't complain about misogyny... Hope this helps...and put down Cosmo - it is a vile publication designed to keep you in low self esteem so you keep spending money on things you DEFINITELY don't need.

2much · Answer

sorry I'm very late to answer that question I just saw it

why a guy became a misogynist is complex since there's a lot of stuff that make a person what it is

first of all (my opinion of course) a bad relation with the mother. since the mother is the first woman that a boy got contact with it will determine the future relation with others. if the mother treats her son like sh*t all his life don't expect love or trust from him he will see women as enemies even if the girls treat him nicely

if the boy is over surrounded by women all his childhood (family where he is the only boy no father around, school) he will get annoyed by their presence

also if he's always has a superior which is a women and had that tendency to act like she's the big boss since she got a little control like she a supervisor or something and she always on his back don't help either.

if the guy always gets relationship with women who manipulates him and play with his heart all the time or try to date a girl but gets always the same bad result such rejection humilitation (laughing at him with friends) or play with him ( choking a date)

matter of fact you will not even realize that a guy is misogyn when he talks

forget about those guys who said women are just good to f*** those guys are just machos nothing more and want to show themselve as strong men

a misogynist have tendency to avoid contact with women more as possible even if they look like a mr nice guy and have girls as «friends» they don't care about women and most of you girl will not realize it

and men are not better they think that a misogynist are gay wich is not

they are sexually attract to women but hate them

Iamawesomedog · Answer

Most of them probably get horny treating women like shit, even though they’re not having sex with them, and then they go home and fap and watch bdsm and rape porn where women get treated like shit. Some guys are stuck in a perpetual cycle of seeking turn ons. Some girls are too though since they date guys who treat them like shit. In fact, judging by the popularity of 50 shades of Grey, I’d say a lot of them are (though not the majority, au contraire to what the mainstream media wants you to think).

Detroit times breaks down what happens to boys and girls after being forced to watch porn. It’s called “Porn fuels misogynistic thoughts”. Great article. For comparison, 25% of the men who had to watch massive amounts of porn supported women’s right while 71% of the control group supported it. Same thing for women, with 52% for those who watched it and 82% for those who didn’t. Nowadays however, everything is porn, every music video is porn, every song is about bdsm, and everywhere you go there is billboard ads of girls wearing uncomfortably high heels and looking like they’re ready to give a blowjob.

Coupled with the fact that mainstream feminism equates female empowerment to how well you get men off, all the tik tok practically cam girls who are considered role models, and the fact that Cardi and Meghan having lesbian sex at the grammies was labeled as empowering for women (if it’s so empowering why don’t men do it too), misogynistic men have plenty of content to jack to and fuel their fetish.

But I’m not one to police or judge anyones thoughts or opinions, especially when I have my cute baby boi waiting for me in his room, legs tied open, blindfolded, wearing dog ears, with his fingers in his mouth, and his boy clitty locked in a nice little cage. People will do whatever works for them I guess.

mlrock · Answer

It's not so much hate as it is suspicion. I can say that from my personal experiences, every heterosexual woman that I've known: friends, relatives, dates, and romantic partners, has let me down in some way or another. If they haven't done so, I have reasonable suspicion to believe that they will. This suspicion further gains credence when men tend to be much more direct than women, who tend to not make their feelings and motives as clear. The tendency for women to be less direct in their actions and words than their male counterparts makes it seem like they play mind games, rendering them virtually impossible to read.

As for your second point regarding times changing and women are doing at least as much as men, you answered your own question. The rise in the number of women in higher education and their outnumbering of men in such fields as law and medicine defies millenia-old norms across many societies and cultures and can make many men feel as if they are being "psychologically castrated."

Also, it has been pointed out that such suspicion of women can be dated back since the beginning of time. When one considers the fact that Eve, a woman, was the first sinner according to Jewish, Christian, and Islamic tradition, and that Pandora, a woman, introduced all the bad things into the world upon opening the box in the Greco-Roman tradition, how can men not be concerned?

Mesonfielde · Answer

They don't actually hate the women, they hate the possibility of reliving the exact same thing that has happened in the past, via that person. And they hate how they were betrayed or just didn't get their way. You get the deal. It's just a generalized projection, and I'd say whoever hates *all women* for like, for example being rejected by 3 females beforehand, does deserve to be alone until they learn that people are not the same.

...though it's a fact there are various stereotypes regarding women that they only care for cars, money and power, and the sad fact is that there ARE girls like that, but... not all of them are like that. So misogyny itself is sort of pointless.

Anonymous · Answer

For one, it's a case by case basis. I don't inherently hate anyone. It takes some effort to get me to actually hate someone. I can, however, dislike someone over small things, and most people (myself included) have many dislikable traits.

For two, "you were made from a woman" isn't really any argument against misogyny. Almost all women can incubate babies, that doesn't make them good people. Using the example you provided of your cousin, that's the equivalent of saying nobody should hate him because he impregnated those women. Same principle.

For three, your cousin doesn't sound like a misogynist. He sounds like a pleasure seeker with weak morals. Impregnating women is fun for him, he just doesn't want to deal with the aftereffects of it. That makes him a deadbeat, not a misogynist.

moloz · Answer

Both man-haters (feminists and/or misandrysts or whatever is spelled) and woman-haters (misogynists) were irreparably hurt by the other gender one way or another.. the majority at least.

Anonymous · Answer

I've sadly slowly been moving toward misogyny, its not how I was raised. I have a great relationship with my mother, the woman I was "made from" as you term it. What has slowly been doing it for me is my interactions with other women in dating. Since college I've just had a bad series of interactions with women that have jaded my views toward women. It's not so much that I hate women, I like women and want them in my life, it is just I don't enjoy the continual bad interactions I've experienced and know that I will continue to experience.

sinful1620 · Answer

Guys become misogynists after getting deeply and irreparably hurt by a woman.

irykiryk · Answer

Well, women don't make it very difficult to hate them.

Anonymous · Answer

Look back to their first relationship with a woman, their mother. Any way you slice it, females are not blameless in this.

Anonymous · Answer

This is clearly in response to my question "WHY ARE WOMEN EXTREMELY CHEAP?"

GrandpaSimpson · Answer

I gave this question 5 stars, just because its hilarious

Anonymous · Answer

Look at the bitch ask as if she's planning on changing.

Anonymous · Answer

I had a little misogyny streak in middle school/ early high school. Listening to too much Eminem.

Anonymous · Answer

The media and music videos

Anonymous · Answer

What's not to hate?

Anonymous · Answer

Power and gender roles

Anonymous · Answer

I guess they're players eeking revenge

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