Girls, do you mind guys staring when you go topless at the beach? Guys, do you stare?

Question

When visiting beaches in Europe I often encounter adult ladies who go topless. Although I don't intentionally go to the beach to see topless females, I find it hard not to look, as much from curiosity as anything.
I know that staring might make some people feel uncomfortable but if a lady walks right in front of me topless I find it very hard not to have a quick glance - it's almost instinctive.
What do you think is acceptable in this scenario?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I was at a topless beach in Spain. Did I stare? No. They’re just boobs and it ain’t like every woman on the beach has some spectacular rack. There are all kinds of bodies at the beach—young, old, fat, skinny, muscular etc. So seeing some tits really shouldn’t be that big of a deal.

DownIndaDumpz2 · Accepted Answer

Imagine if guys walked around with their dicks out and then we get mad that woman are staring... But I guarantee you woman would be staring... Such hypocrites.. no need to feel guilty,. that's how they want you to feelIt's human nature bro. N anyone who don't like it can f off

SarahP080102 · Accepted Answer

I expect them to stare, and I might be uncomfortable if I was uncomfortable or insecure about my body

AvaOneLasTime · Accepted Answer

I mean, if i am to be topless at beach, what am i to expect? People to walk around blindfolded?

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

There's looking, staring and ogling. As someone who frequents a nude beach, I get a plethora of the 3. So let's brake it all down.

It's OK to look. We're human and we have eyes. And guys, trust me, we look too. It's only natural to look, especially if you see something that you find attractive. Sometimes, while in conversation at the beach, I'll catch people quickly looking down and so on.

Staring is where it starts to become an issue. It's impolite to stare and it's against nudist etiquette. If what you're seeing is that appealing to you, just don't make it obvious. We can tell when you are.

Ogling is the worst. I have had some guys give me that "I'm looking at you and I know you see me looking at you" type of look. I've always wondered why they think it's something that turns us on... It doesn't. If anything it's an instant red flag and a creeper brand.

In conclusion, it's OK to look; it really is. Everyone does it. Just don't stare and don't be a creep.

KrisPW · Answer

If I were topless, I would expect and sometimes even secretly hope for the looks. But the longer you look the creepier it gets. Only little boys can't control themselves, be a man. Glances and looks are fine, keep the drooling to a minimum. :D

Gigi2019 · Answer

If I put myself into that situation and I expected a healthy male NOT to stare, I would be a fool with impossible expectations. Hell, even I would stare, briefly, if I were on a beach and I wasn't "expecting" to see a nude person... male or female. However, my staring would be motivated by situational awareness versus lust. Europeans have a different mindset about nudity, in general, that's taught to them while they are very young.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

I wouldn't mind as long as you're not being creepy about it. I would enjoy the attention at a minimum, if not do it on purpose to make my intentions clear with you in the most... sexual case.

Sijtske · Answer

I stare to if I see am man with a fat belly, epic beard and bald (I can not expect from a 35+ man that he has godlike wavy locks, but if that is the case, come to mama) and a lot of tattoos, what is wrong with staring and looking? And if a girl is topless, she wants you to look, so look. ;-)

Seinna · Answer

If I went topless on a regular beach then I don't think I could complain about people staring... but I wouldn't do it in the first place because to me it's rude.

If I went to a nuddist beach then I would expect that people wouldn't stare because we wouldn't be there to stare at each other. So in that case yes, I'd hate it.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Looking and prolonged stares are 2 different things.

Prolonged staring is creepy, makes you feel uncomfortable and can even feel threatening. Look and then look away.

Another idea is to wear dark or reflective sunglasses so at least we can't see you staring :)

Of course, if you're extremely handsome, that might be another story... lol

Girls, do you mind guys staring when you go topless at the beach? Guys, do you stare?

gabby100 · Answer

Its a fact of life. If guys look at them in mags and porn sites. Given the chance of a bare pair, there are going to stare. They stare when you are fully dressed.

Anonymous · Answer

Most guys wear sunglasses so they can look without getting caught.
I'm Spain when I went topless at 15 I got a lot of looks. As well as at the hotel pool. The amount of guys, even old guys on their balcony having a sneaky wank was unbelievable.

Anonymous · Answer

A glance is fine, I also sometimes do that by reflex (not just nude people but also if like someone stands in general). But staring is not ok, and something you should work on if you can't control it. It is be very uncomfortable when someone stares and it is not fair to people who are just dressing in a suitable way for the occasion.

sophiejo · Answer

Looking is fine obviously everyone will look it's only natural but staring is creepy

soe11 · Answer

My girlfriend and her mom never mind at all. Bot get topless.

Eleni1989 · Answer

Here tends to be no big deals especially through grew up in the area. It’s American tourist tend to stair. Just don’t kick sand or “trip and fall” on me.

England4eva · Answer

Never been to a beach like this. Been abroad and seen a few topless women, had no idea how they did that sober..

IceCreamSandwich · Answer

I would look but staring is rude. I try not to stare at people I don't know or I don't want to start something with.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Why would they mind? You wouldn't get topless in the first place if you were worried about that. And of course I would I am into women after all.

rachel776 · Answer

i mean i know they're going to look but i don't like staring

vduong1988 · Answer

i would not take my topless off last time i was at the pool someone take my topless off i was in shock some boys stare at boobs i screamed

inhua · Answer

staring is only fine if the dude is good looking in the eyes of the one being stared at. it's less about what the behavior is and more about who is doing the behavior.

Anonymous · Answer

I would get nervous never done nude on a beach. Only been in bikini and pants. You need a girlfriend mate lol 😆

Girls, do you mind guys staring when you go topless at the beach? Guys, do you stare?

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