Why did he stop staring?

[Anonymous]

There is this personal trainer at my gym that I find attractive. He used to stare at me all the time and even got out of his way to look once in a while as he even trained some of his clients. At one point when he was training several clients at the same time I think he turned his head to look at me pass by so obviously that his clients turned their heads to look at what he was looking at. After 2 weeks he all of a sudden stopped. Actually now I just feel like he glances and looks only when I don't notice because I only catch his backside lately. I used to catch his eyes all the time before. I go to the gym twice a day usually if my body allows me so I see the workers and regulars often. I don't mind the stares cause I learned to accept them. At times it even motivates me to train harder.

My question is, why did he stop? Or does it a lot less noticeable now?

I still catch other personal trainers look at me from afar, but not him anymore. Is he trying to stay professional or he simply don't care anymore? I'm not fit or hot, I would say I'm just average because I am still far from my goal. I'm aware guys stare at any girls at the gym, but since I am like a regular he doesn't care anymore? Or he has a girlfriend or is married?

[PhatPat]

He might have been told something by one of the higher ups, that's my first thought. Especially if it was that noticeable to clients. One of his clients could have said something to management too and that's why it stopped so abruptly.

As for girlfriend or married, the only way to know for sure is to ask him or someone else who would know.

Unfortunately, in this case, unless you yourself make a move, it doesn't look like it's going anywhere else girl. You could always start a conversation with him and see how it goes. Even something as simple as asking him about how the "trainer" thing works. See how he talks to you and it'll show you if he's still interested or not.

[Asker]

I didn't think about how one of the higher ups might have said something. I wonder if he even noticed he stared like the way he did before. Also, I am way too shy to be able to start a conversation with him. :P

[MrScTi]

Though not as a trainer at a gym, I've found myself doing this to certain women as well. It gets to a point where I feel that this flirtatious standoff leads nowhere, and there is simply nothing to be gained by pursuing it. For one, I learned she had a boyfriend. Other situations involve girls who have simply failed to make a move when "the ball was in her court".

I guarantee that this is why he stopped staring.

[Asker]

How did you learn she had a boyfriend?