How to tell if a shy girl is obsessed with a guy?

[Anonymous]

I imagine that shy girls rarely take the initiative in the beginning stages and likely waits for the boy to take the initiative. For example, maybe she never texts first and why do shy girls try to minimise their talking time with their crush, are they just too nervous near them? Will she perhaps click on every Insta/Snap story with haste? What will a shy chick do if she's obsessed with the guy?

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Will she also perhaps try to make the guy jealous?

[jennifer_bloom]

I’m not obsessive but I might talk about my interest in different guys to let him know I’m looking for a boyfriend, not because I want to diminish my interest in him, I’m not God, but I try to protect people’s feelings, not only cause it’s the right thing to do, but also because I don’t want God to get angry at me.

[Asker]

That's cool but what happens if the shy girl intentionally talks to other boys to make their crush jealous? I hear it's quite common?

[jennifer_bloom]

A mature person does not do that - maybe they don’t believe they have a chance with you so they are chasing their second choice

[Asker]

If you were interested in a guy would you also stalk their socials etc stories?

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t stalk any guy - I don’t even ask questions 95% of the time, I just decide whether or not I want to talk to him. Sometimes I don’t even know if he has a job cause I don’t ask and I let him decide whether he wants to tell me about himself and how much.

[Asker]

Then how would you suppose I talk to a shy girl if she's nervous around you whilst looking on the phone and walks away most the time?

[jennifer_bloom]

Exchange emails

[HateyouxD]

I always think about him and try to be where he is at lol but it's all innocent, I just wanna talk to him

[Asker]

How would I get her to be more comfortable around me if she's too nervous around me or always looking on her phone then runs off but she's interested? Is it normal that shy girls do this?

[HateyouxD]

Why do you think she's interested?🤔
I guess try to say hi to her and smile. That always helps me out

[Asker]

She basically like looked me down and up and blushed afterwards even my friends saw and told me afterwards. She also tried to smile at me and then walked off blushing. I try to talk to her but she's nervous or in a hurry when she clearly isn't, her friend would giggle around me when I look at her and she'd look unscathed even though she's trying to hide her nervousness lol. I'm sure if she's just really shy or toying me, it's getting to that point lol.

[HateyouxD]

O yes she's got it bad lol. Ask her friend for her number. If itll be okay...

[Asker]

But listen here's the thing, I texted via Insta she seems more open. I said that I'm interested but she then said that, Exactly quoting, 'I don't view you that way but I view somebody else that way.' Why would she say that even if she's interested? Did I scare her off or something it's just so confusing.

[HateyouxD]

Probably did scare her off. Maybe ask her about her actions. Say you're sorry you thought she was into you

[Asker]

Man it's just so frustrating because I do like her and want to know more about her. Now it's even more awkward when I see her because she'd still be giving me looks that she likes me and I probably can't go up to talk to her because she'd be too nervous (see the dilemma lol), even if I text her again it's gonna sound clingy and why would she say she has someone else? Do shy girls really lose attraction to their 'big crush' that easily.

[HateyouxD]

Umm... I don't know I think to avoid anymore hurt and chaos to just ignore her and move on😖 or ask her friend some details about the situation if she likes you or not