How do I deal with my Wife's Oddly Crude Sense of Humor?

[Anonymous]

I love my Wife, don't get me wrong, but some days she just really pisses me off.

A lot of the time she'll joke with me which is fine for a short while but then it just gets really old and offensive, I don't mind humor at all, I'm pretty sarcastic myself occasionally but often she'll poke fun at me rudely and claim she's just trying to be funny.

EXAMPLE ONE: She was joking to her friends the other day at a part about how loud I snore and that I always complain when I am sick from a bad cold. First off, I snore sometimes but what am I supposed to do go sleep outside or stop breathing? seriously? I find that annoying. She snores too just as much and she knows it. Second off, me complaining about a cold and not feeling good is actually the opposite of that. I rarely complain about anything except now of course. I am mostly very quiet because I feel like when I open my mouth it just stirs up drama that I don't like. I'd rather go play a game, help, or fix a problem, and I prefer to be considerate.

EXAMPLE TWO: A day or two ago, I was cleaning up her mess from her making dinner respectfully when I was bent down getting Tupperware and she saw my butt slightly and joked that bubbasparx song booty rocking everywhere. I thought i'd be funny right back so I started shaking it to join in and give her a hard time right back and she was flat out rudely at me like wtf to me like it is okay for her to make wise cracks but it's not okay for me to do it at all ever otherwise it's wrong. I bet anything if it was the other way around she'd do it too.

I can take a lot but it often goes too far. I would talk to her about it but 9 times out of 10 when I have in the past she just gets really offended, it starts and argument, or she shuts down completely on me like it's my fault. It's impossible to reason or talk with her about anything including money so I just shut up and keep my comments to myself usually and then she wonders why I don't want to communicate at all or am quiet.

[nitsuj86]

Example 1, you are being a pussy. Not a big deal, grow up.

Example 2, ok you might have reason to be upset. If she starts joking, and you join in, and then she gets mad, she is being a pussy and needs to grow up.

Sounds like you both are being overly sensitive. If you don't like it, tell her to stop. And the next time she does it, be firm about it like she was with you. Tell her to stop. If she can't and it bothers you that much, well then you have a problem bub.

To me it sounds like you both need to just get the fuck over it. Couples make fun of each other. I do it to my girlfriend all the time, and she gets me back, we both laugh about it. The fact that you 2 AREN'T laughing about it is a problem that you both need to solve.

Sit down and have a serious conversation about it, tell her how you feel, then listen to her. She might think you are doing things as well. Then you both make an effort to change to make the other happy. If you can't well then you probably shouldn't be together.