I employ an elderly lady to keep the books at my company. She once said to me I used to think society was terrible towards women. And that society only cared about men. She said all that changed after she got married and gave birth to and raised 2 sons. She said I watched as my husband got injured and was no longer able to work out society all but tossed him in the trash. He has to fight endless paperwork to claim his social security disability which he in fact never received because his injury gave him heart complications and he died before getting his benefits. After that she had to fill out one simple form to claim his social security benefits on his behalf, which I am proud to say she refused and sought out employment instead. Thats om fact how she came to work for me almost 10 years ago. She said she got to watch as her younger son started to struggle in school that the only solution she was offered was to drug him out of his mind with Ritalin.
And her older son when he was in is late 20's got divorced. Our court system financial wrecked his life to the point where he took his own life. All to support a woman who was abusive towards him she used to tell me how he had bruises and scars from her hitting him and cutting him. I asked why he never took legal action against her. She said he did call the cops one time on her and he got arrested and put in jail for a week for his trouble. All his wife had to do was tell the cops that he called by the way that he hit her, never mind the lack of any physical evidence of her bieng hit.
She said after his suicide for the first time in her life she realized that the reason you never hear stories of men having problems isn't because men don't have problems. It's because in our society we just don't care. She that said a line which I myself have used on many occasions. In our society we find it more convenient to step over mens corpses than help them to thier feet.
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One does not know it unless he/she experience both sides, which is impossible.
Men have it easy. Or at least for all of modern history, white men have had it easier than anyone.
The only reason white boys today think they have hard lives is because they're no longer being catered to, served, or losing generational wealth thanks to years of capitalist inflation and recession.
White boys - and many men of other races - now have to work and try slightly harder than they have needed to before. Which is apparently so hard for them that it turns many into conspiracy nuts, homegrown mass shooters, and terrorists.
Basically, boys are now realizing the world isn't going to bend over backwards to hand them life on a silver platter. They must now put in effort like everyone else.
And for many young men, this is not a small inconvenience. It is a life-threatening wall of adulthood that is too scary to face.
Which is why we get so many posts like this where men think the totally optional or self-inflicted groin hits are the pinnacle of pain.
Compare it to a process that forever alters the birther's body, often requires painkillers to facilitate, often results in permanent body disfiguration (tearing the vagina until it splits open the anus is an extreme but not uncommon consequence), and permanent changes in brain chemistry (not for the better). Oh and you can die. Oh, and in America, it's now illegal in most states to try to get out of this or even have any problems with your pregnancy.
Maybe consider what you're doing before you go seeking groin hits. Unless that's what you're into - no judgement here. CnB torture is a valid kink.
But no, life is not going to get easier for anyone. That's not what life does. Boys have weird expectations for an easy life.
I have only experienced menstruation, which is not a big deal in my case.. of the others I'd rather take a hit to the nuts (assuming I was a man).. childbirth is a longer process (includes a f*cking pregnancy!), and can have very severe consequences, like your vagina and/or anus splitting, not uncommon that one needs at least a few stitches and weeks to recover.
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First time labor is roughly 6 hours long, and thata not including the contractions that start hours to minutes apart.
I would give one swift nut kick the same as 1 uterine late stage labor contraction. How can anyone seriously compare 6 hours of active labor (not even the hours/days if pre labor) to a swift kick in the nuts? He probably did something to deserve it too.
Men will go decades without anything or one hitting their nuts while women experience menstrual cycles 12 times a year for roughly 30-40 years. Not all women have it bad for a whole 5 days, but I would say about half at any given day would gladly take a swift nut kick once every 3 years over 30-40 years of cycling cramping and bleeding.
For some who have a hormonal iud, it's about an equal trade off because the pain of shoving something up your cervix can make you pass out, vomit, unable to stand for 30 minutes, and most clinic refuse to do anything more than a Tylenol. So yes, this is one of the options women can do to avoid terribly painful periods and to have sex as freely as any man, married or not.Men have a harder life than women. Think about it like a video game; women get to play on impossible to lose mode and men get to play on legendary. Even if a woman is homeless, people will do everything in the world to get her a house; if a man is homeless the best he can hope for is that someone throws money or food at him a couple times a day and that he will be able to stave off starvation for another day. This goes all the way up to the top. For a man to be at the top of his class and make the most money in any given sport the man has to have dedicated absolutely all of his life to having achieved that and having earned the respect and adoration of his fans over a career built on the back of stats that show how great he is; for a women to reach those same levels of achievement they just have to complain that their league isn't getting as much broadcast time or that they don't make as much money as men.
Keep this in mind, back in the 90s Serena Williams [the all time greatest female tennis player and in her prime] played a match against a mid 200s male player and was beaten in straight sets. The US Women's Soccer Team played a game of soccer against a team of 14 year old boys and were absolutely demolished. Both of these examples have examples of two of the highest paid athletes in the world being beaten by male examples I don't even know the names of without googling them. That is how insanely easy women have it in life.
It isn't even a valid question to ask.Having a harder life must encompass a lot of other factors like safety. Most women live under the fear of being raped, mugged and murdered. Dowry deaths and acid attacks are common in certain countries including my own country.
This question looks at life from a Western perspective. Women in the poorer countries have so many other things to worry about and live a much harder life.Ideally, if women are overall healthy, giving birth is said to be very orgasmic. Not painful.
Ideally, nobody should be experiencing testicular pain.
But if it happens that a childbirth is painful... there is motivation to keep going... and then she gets the reward, the oxytocin and everything. Even look at how dopamine works in response to pain, why cold showers increase dopamine. More pain = more pleasure.
But when man gets testicular pain, it is not rewarding, or oxytocin inducing at all. Bad example. No motivation, actually really depressing because if your fertility is damaged, there's no purpose for your life... while getting a child creates new purpose.
More like a very long intense dangerous workout in wilderness is a better match to childbirth.
Women are physically weaker and that makes daily life more difficult? Not if you have men that love and serve you.
It's about equal.Menstruation hurts. Periods are painful. Imagine going through a painful week for every month of your life until you are 50 years old.
Imagine making less for doing the same amount of work as your male counterparts.
Imagine having to work a full-time job, then having to care / teach your children, do most of the housework, shopping.
Imagine committing less crime but being targeted as a victim of a crime because they see women as the weaker sex less capable of defending themselves.
Vast majority of single parents or people under poverty are women.
Imagine having to give up your career just so you can have kids.
Imagine about the fact that you wouldn't be able to have children by the time you hit your 40s.
you better think twice when you say that women have it easier than men.
I don´t think it´s the physical pain that´s hard being a guy it´s rather the emotional feeling of never been able to fulfill the expectations of other people or the feeling of living a life without purpose. I think the emotional feeling of loneliness is worse as a guy because even other guys don´t always understand that.
I don´t think that physical pain of being hit in the nuts is comparable to labor or periods cramps because I don´t know about other guys but I can count the times I´ve been kicked or hit down very rarely. At worst about 10 times my whole life and I´m 27. Like the last I checked a period is every month and it´s inevitable. Therefore this comparison is flawed.
Depends.
How would you define harder?
Some women have commented that women have to fear being mugged, raped and murdered. However most aggravated crimes are against men, it's men being murdered and mugged🤔.
I've seen women leave a late night venue clutching each others arms at the possibility of being assaulted as they walk home.
Equally I've seen a 5"4 women staggering home, drunk as a skunk by herself, whilst onlooking men chuckle and try and keep the hell away.
If we are to put the horror stories to one side and look at it from a relationship standpoint. In getting to a position where you qualify for a relationship, men have a more difficult role. But in relationships, I'd say women have it far more difficult.
That being said, abuse doesn't have a gender, nor is the affects of abuse greater or less in either gender.
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I think you make a good point that we couldn't really know unless we've experienced it. Also someone pointed out that everyone's situations is different which is true. I think these are things that cause tension though sometimes in these gender wars because we don't know what some of these types of things feel like for the gender experiencing them. It's so easy to say "men have it rougher" or "women have it rougher" because we haven't lived the experience of the opposite gender. I know you're getting some heat for this question but I think it's very thought provoking the way you presented it.
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If you're talking about physical pain, men are the most likely to be physically assaulted and murdered. If you're talking about bodily pain I guess women.
If you're talking about who has a harder life it's men, without any question. Men have always been considered disposable by all cultures throughout human history, whilst women and children have always been sheltered from war and catastrophe, men are always forced to sacrifice themselves; famine, enlistment, shipwrecking, hard labour...How are these things even comparable? I've given birth 3 times and I can tell you being in labor is pretty freaking deadly. Spent 15 hours for each one so imagine 15 hours straight getting kicked in the balls repeatedly every mintue or so then having to rip your dick open to the point where you bleed for 6-8 weeks after can't have sex or work out cause the injuries are so bad. Then maybe if that happens to y'all I'd say its comparable.
Women are biologically made to reproduce therefore “what is a women” Netflix shit is shit for this reason — because eh hello where is your uterus? If your a man and wants to reproduce
go take a nap then
Back to your question
Men are supporters of a women or a family
They hold many responsibilities yeah you don’t give birth to a baby but you have to take care of them… emotionally financially etc
Sure women have periods for example but for this reason you have to be “ generous” to a women and more understanding. In return you get a happy life + happy women + happy family = happy men.
Easy equation RightMenstruation is the worst thing you need have that every months and during that day you'll be like want to kill everyone
I’m just going to say everyone is different and has different experiences in life. We all have different pain tolerances and I don’t think it’s a competition on who has it worse. Let’s just say both genders got through pain in their own ways just as individuals process pain differently.
Stop and think about how selfish men are and then answer that question hell no women go through 10 times more than all men do that's what makes him so badass and that's what makes them beautiful that's what I love about then they're beautiful they smell good and they just take it on is they are badass
My mom would describe birth as if you had pairs of balls all over you and all at once. The balls would be hit in waves. Like a thousand kicked ball waves flowing through your body. You can't think during birth during the pain, she would say. It's a miracle she could look at me after, lmao.
It wasn't my choice to get pregnant the first time, women get raped far more than men do. Sure men do too but not nearly in the same numbers.
It has nothing to do with gender, and everything to do with situations.
In order to scientifically settle the question you have to prepare a matrix considering various factors both good and bad; combat casualties, workplace accidents and deaths, victims of violent crimes, maternal mortality, testicular cancer, breasts, ovarian, cervical cancer, school and college enrollment rate, sex selective abortions, etc.
I think that in the developing world, women have it harder.Everything that we take for granted billions of men got up every morning to make and died in the process how many women were underground building NY subways 0 how many of those Chilean miners were female 0
Do you see a single woman present here?
i don't need to know what it's "exactly" like to be a woman. but being that i suffer no pain whatsoever with my genital and knowing that most of them do experience some level of pain regularly and at birth, that makes their life worse by default than mine. like it's so much worse that we don't even need to know the fine and precise differences between levels of pain. i can 100% avoid hitting my balls all my life. it's not a necessary thing to happen. periods can't be avoided.
Your selections don't really go with your questions life means birth to death not 9 months or once a month or one second of your life
Think this way men usually work more physically demanding jobs and that takes a toll on a personal over a long period of time which could be considered "harder"
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