Ladies, "Don't ever trust a man that doesn't drink". Thoughts?

[TheBootyChest]

In my mind, I think that is mostly something guys say to each other. But does this still have a bit of truth for you as well?

Would you hang out/date a guy who doesn't drink? If so, what are your reasons for it?

[DizzyDesii]

I prefer to be around someone who doesn’t drink nor smoke. And yes I’ve met some good ones who didn't do either. But then you also have those who drink a few times a year which is okay and then there are those who drink weekly/monthly and I try to distance myself from them

[TheBootyChest]

Do you prefer not to drink, and that is how you choose these guys?

[DizzyDesii]

I dont drink nor smoke nor go clubbing and would prefer someone else who doesn't need to be intoxicated or partying to have fun as well

[TheBootyChest]

I have never had a drink or smoked, or done drugs. But I am not against going to a bar if that is where a group might be meeting up.

[DizzyDesii]

If I go to a bar, its to play pool or buy some hot wings. Thats about it

[TheBootyChest]

Would you mind if your friends had one or two beers while everyone played pool?

[DizzyDesii]

I dont really care what friends/acquaintances do as long as they make it home safely. I’m not responsible for them. I’m more worried about what my guy or my kid sister for example would be doing

[LazerBean]

My husband doesn't really drink. Honestly it sounds like a saying that mostly trashy people use.

[TheBootyChest]

What would you think if a guy was at the bar with you and your friends and he didn't drink at all?

He is up to something, he isn't cool, something like that?

[LazerBean]

My friends and I don't go to the bar. Occasionally my husband and I will go just to look at the people. I would assume a lone guy at a bar is either also there to look at the freak show or trying to pick up a freak show.

[TheBootyChest]

to be honest, I feel like some people wouldn't want to hang out with me because I wouldn't be hanging out and drinking with them. So it causes severe insecurities and makes me not even attempt to hang out with the "cool" people.

[LazerBean]

The bar isn't really a cool people place anyway LMAO but at least in my area and friend group, nobody really cares if you drink or if you don't.

[TheBootyChest]

I see your point about the bar. but there is the party at a friends house with lots of drinks.

I have had most of the people who I tell that I don't drink "say" they are going to get me to have a drink or smoke. But of course it never works.

[LazerBean]

It just sounds like you need to hang out with better quality people. Are we hang out with our friend group all the time, most of them do not drink. There are the drinks there for those of us who do want to drink, but nobody is pressured into drinking and no comments are made. It's a non-issue.

[TheBootyChest]

It's funny you mention hanging out with better quality friends. I actually posted a question about making friends.
I hope you could give your input there too. But I understand if you don't.

[LazerBean]

I will take a look lol

[Gene9]

What? I mean if he’s a good person with good intentions, why not trust him :)

[TheBootyChest]

I am not sure to be honest.

I have felt like people won't want to hang out with me because I don't drink.

[Gene9]

Oh like that. Well then you find people who like you for you. Why want a friend who values your worth according to your boundaries?

[menina]

Of course I would trust him. In fact I would prefer a man who didn't drink.

[kao118]

Disagree, that doesn’t make sense.

[Anonymous]

If anything, it’s better when a man doesn’t drink.

[TheBootyChest]

I like your answer. But may I ask why?

[Opinion Owner]

I mean you can drink here and there. Just don’t overdo it, I guess.

[TheBootyChest]

Would you hangout with someone who doesn't drink while you are drinking? Maybe you think he isn't fun or cool enough?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, I would because you don’t have to drink to have fun.

[TheBootyChest]

I wish I knew people like you when I was growing up. LOL.

I have never had a drink in my life. And everyone was always saying they were going to get me to take a drink.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks a lot for the compliment lol. You don’t have to drink if you don’t want to. Don’t let anyone peer pressure you. 😊

[TheBootyChest]

I haven't and I never will. I was always afraid of what I might do if I was "drunk". Like I might hit someone with my car, or get into a fight and seriously hurt someone.

But this also led me to thinking that no one wanted to hang out with me if I wasn't going to drink so I could have "more" fun.

[Opinion Owner]

Let me tell you, none of it is true. I can’t drink because I am on medication for anxiety and have never done; nor will I ever take drugs. 😊

[TheBootyChest]

Never had a drink, a smoke, or any form of drugs. I've been around all of it, but never did it myself.

I can understand the anxiety stuff. I suffer from a form of depression myself. I tried taking meds, but I never knew if it was helping me or not. Maybe it wasn't enough or not what I needed. I think I just needed help finding ways to change how I think about things and deal with things.

(You can reply back about the drinking stuff. But if you want you can message me instead about the anxiety stuff if you feel safer.)