What do I do am I overthinking this?

[Anonymous]

I'm 25, I have nothing. I feel immature I still live at home. I pay rent, and pay for my expenses. I overspend which isn't good, my friends all have boyfriends they are on their own with them. I work in a hospital as a CNA, the nurses are nice but sometimes are a bit bossy or I'm too sensitive I take it to heart. I'd never let someone walk all over me though. I just started in the hospital so maybe that's why I'm still uncomfortable. I tend to be quiet, but they say I'm a good worker and I try to be. I wouldn't have a car if I wasn't paying it off to my mother. I just have nothing, I want to be confident I want to be more assertive and not as agreeable. I talk to guys off dating apps they want to meet me, but part of me wishes I could meet someone not online. I have no hobbies on the weekends I stay at home and watch videos. I don't get out, I have social anxiety as well. I don't feel smart, at work I've done a few things that were like "you should've known better" but I'm not a nurse and I haven't had much schooling being a CNA. But I'm learning, I'm just down and depressed. I am in therapy, but my therapist keeps mentioning anti depressants. I mean I like that idea I've tried it but they didn't help. I'm plus sized and my self esteem is low to the floor and I seek validation and attention from online. Some of it is good. some its bad.. I want to be confident, assertive and humble. I feel like my friends and family don't like me... I'm a bad aunt I don't really do stuff with my nephew unless giving him rides. I'm so immature.. I don't know what to do. am I being hard on myself?I get in bad moods where I'm irritable and mad because I legit have no friends and I see others living there life. it pretty much upsets me. these past weekends I've been alone. everyone else has someone and im all alone. I'll never find anyone. I'm 25 and I'm just existing. I should be moved out have my own car and something to show for it. but I have nothing. how do I be more assertive?

[Lenell]

you're over thinking it. Buy it does show there's something missing in your life and you namde some. The industrial revolution turned humans into livestock. And slowly we worked more lived less. Its hard to meet someone outside of work these days so people go to clubs and bars. Meet up is ok best so far but not really the effective at bringing people together. O say bedin watching lots of documentaries about all kinds of things you will get into something and that will kead you to others like you. You need a purpose. Something to pursue. What type of conversations do you enjoy? Try deep wild topics listen to joe rogan or make online friends literally have some online friend you can call and actually spend all day on the phone with even video hanging out as if you were in the same place but on screen or phone call. Trust me it helps. Hanging out means just that the call is ongoing while the two of you or 3 go on about your day keeping eachother company belive me until you meet friends in person that works. It helps me a lot.

[Anonymous]

Reading this feels like reading about my 25 y/o self. I lived at home with my mom, minimum wage job, heavier in size, all my friends were married, some with kids, and I wasn’t making friends at work how I hoped since they were my age and younger. I had no real plan for the future, used dating apps, crippling social anxiety to where I’d even cry at the thought of going out sometimes, confidence in the gutter and severely depressed. Things didn’t really start changing until 2020, I was 28 stuck at home in covid and had no choice but to face my shit. One thing you have to realize is that you are in control of everything happening in your life, and these things are fixable. It won’t be fast, but you start somewhere. Like rather than bashing your looks, pay yourself a small compliment instead. Think of something that brings you a bit of joy, and make a hobby of it. Mine was painting so I found a paint and sip, went alone, made 2 friends. Then I started a diet, which was simple, eating in a certain window of time. Little things. Fast forward to now, I’m 30 and in my first real relationship and it’s been almost a year, I didn’t meet him on an app. Anyway, my point of this rant is to encourage you. As someone older, looking back I get your feelings. But you’re not stuck in that position, and things will only change once you decide to take the reigns on your life.

[Danny_dan92]

You’re too deep in comparing your life to your friends.


You not having a boyfriend is making you sad when you had a great career.


And maybe you wouldn’t have to live with your parents if you didn’t overspend

[moviedude714]

How long have you been single now