Would you send her packing back to her mama, or take her up on her shenanigans?
In Judeao-Christian Western culture, the overt emphasis rests in physical sensuality properly only exists to conceive babies. Babies THEMSELVES should not CONCEIVE babies! That said.. carnal sensual pleasure for bonding, ... for simple PHYSICAL pleasure, employing contraception PRECLUDING conception or STDs, IS surreptitiously engaged in MUCH of the Eastern and Pacific indigenous cultures.
In the West, 'naughty' kids 'play doctor' replete with protracted tactile 'inspection' to discover, what conflicted religious parents themselves never learned, in their formative years. Western kids surreptitiously play "Truth or Dare" with the coveted carnal '7 minutes of Heaven' group peer penalty. "WELL... I HAD to..."
Western society cognitvely dissonantly DENIES humans ARE tactilely SENSUAL from BIRTH. INFANTS touch themselves sensually. Humans innately learn by incidental OR observational experience or misrepresented peer miscommunication. Now... MOST answering this question will overtly immediately deny this socially-forbidden opportunity but ANY pragmatic experienced adult of EITHER gender will under pressure concede that there is MUCH considered pleasurable foreplay which COULD be partaken in experiential educationally, that DOES NOT involve vaginal-copulation.
While promulgated societal propriety deems these as guilt-riddenly 'sinful'... in TRUTH
amid the practices of those OTHER religious beliefs inclusive of Eastern Tantra, how would a 'too young girl' experiencing a neurological arousal and climax be a NEGATIVE life experience? ... BECAUSE it replaces socially-promulgated dour fear with an overpowering POSITIVE sensual experience... she couldn't help her nubile body's nascent excited responses DEVOID of inculcated guilt!
The question hinges, upon the MORE-mature self-restraint of the OLDER educating Participant to decline the Natural default inclination to inseminate a concupiscent nubile fertile Minor partner. SO... the issue hinges both MORALLY and physically on intent vs. exploitation while avoiding SELF-deception as clearly the Minor is naively placing their faith and trust in YOUR greater long term intention.
If you possess ANY substantive intimate skills, YOU can and WOULD overwhelm her reticence. She, naively is testing, ... baiting you with her juvenile glamoury in return for 'objectifying' you, like an exciting amusement park ride... providing her with her out-of-control excitation life experience.
Based upon the Psychological Study done by Kent State's University's 1995 survey of over 900 heterosexual male's irrefutable physical arousal to early- and pre-teen erotica imagery... MOST males (87+%) were PRIVATELY involuntarily sexually aroused.
IF... and that's a LARGE 'if', you COULD limited your ministrations focusing upon deriving YOUR pleasure voyeuristic-ally from seeing how MUCH your skills could arouse HER... beyond HER wildest previous experiences... SHE would repeatedly 'cum' to know the sheer empowering desire of human sexuality, not just for societally-sanctioned procreation.
When I'd been 34, I was at the home of a friend, with my first wife. This friend had a four year old daughter and both her mother and father were present. The daughter was happily ensconced upon my lap, snuggling onto my chest. Her mother June, told Dawn Marie it was time for her afternoon nap. Dawn Marie 'naively' asked if I could 'take a nap' with her. Her mother sensing her ruse, replied: "No, Dawn" and so Dawn Marie then coyly asked: "Well... then can Wayne 'take a nap' with you?" Again, "No."
One might rightly suspect, Dawn Marie was seeking greater intimate physical contact~
I had this happen to me
I was in my mid to late 20s at the time, but 1st a little background
My buddy and his wife are about 10 years older then me and I meet them at a CB Jamboree and we became great friends
I'm friends with the entire family and watch their grow up and them kids have babies. I'm still friends with this family. Hell they are family in my book
Now on to the story
Well they have a huge family 15 kids in all and at the time their teenage daughter was going though the. emotional roller coaster of hormones.
(If I remember right, she was 15 or so)
Well she started to hang on me and look at me funny, Now I known this girl since she was 5 and she was making me feel so uncomfortable as hell.
I finely got up and got her parents. I told them and told them to put a lease on her.
At first they accused me of trying funny stuff with her. I'm like wTF I came to you about your kid and you accuse me
Well I finely got my apology when she got my other buddy to sleep with her and mom and dad caught them two together
It all came out then
I'm leaving out a bunch of shit, but you got the idea
Well if he does anything sexual to her he can be done for consorting with a minor and even go to prison for sexual assult even rape
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It happens every now and again. Most often on trains/train stations at weekends and usually they are just the other side of pubescence.
Being clearly older, I think these far too young girls feel safe trying out their wings with an older guy where they possibly wouldn't with a boy nearer their own age. I think it is most appropriate to be sort of uncly and neither discouraging or encouraging. Unless they ask to sit in your lap (which they have) which is a clear NO.
Girls that are 16 (still below aoc here) can be hard be hard to distinguish in the way they dress etc from say 18 or 20. They can be reasonably mature socially also. If they are flirtatious I am going to shut it down.
Girls that are 18 are technically fair game as they are over aoc. At the local cafe we are pretty friendly with the waiting staff as they are with us. So I was chatting with this new bar girl, who had to be over 18 to be serving drinks, and she had nice deep well displayed attractive cleavage. Then she said, with a hand gesture to her cleavage, "I'm still at school". Oh my! She really had the knowing Lolita down pat. I resolved not to chat with her again.
Another time I was at a club and I sat on a couch and a girl plonked down then leaned back and placed her head in my lap with her cheek against my groin and she looked up and chatted with me. She looked more 16 than 18 and probably snuck in. I pretended no reaction even though I did of course.
In short if you are clearly older I think they are mostly practicing their charms and seeing if they can pull your chain for ego. It shouldn't be taken seriously.
At least that is what I tell myself... when they do it. And they do.
Well, I've made a rule that I wouldn't consider dating anyone with an age gap of more than 7 years. I'm sure there will be some exceptions, but the younger they are, the older I'll feel and it could start to feel strange.
If we're talking about a teenage girl, then I wouldn't be able to even fathom having a romantic relationship with someone so young and naive... and likely full of very unrealistic goals and aspirations.
In fact, I can see myself bending down, saying "Looking for your dad, kiddo?"
I would've ask her to dress for her age... and stay away, eve though she might look stunning...
For example when i was about 23 i had a girlfriend and she had a sister...(little sister). At the time the sister she was 13, we were in the living room and my girlfriend asked me if i wanted tea, so i said yes, she went to make the tea and the little sis was sitting next to me, only in pj's and she spread her legs, took my hand and put it beween her legs... Then she was whispering that her fanny is itchy, i was thinkin to my self "wtf" ?, My girlfriend came back and little sis backed off, but i was going red like i've seen a ghost! Next day i fuked off and never came back to their house, but the weirdest thing was that i git a boner... luckily didn't wen't back, otherwise i might had been in prison by now...🤣.
So yeah i would've told her to stop teasing.
I mean the only time that happened when I was in the last year of primary school. Because if you had been good enough you were allowed to go to theme park trip with the lower years as to be there to help them but also you get to ride what you want also.
So probably 2 years younger than me this girl which tbf I spent most my time with that day then said something on a ride to me, I freaked out and said some mean stuff to her to put her off me. Which in hindsight was wrong.
But it did also work. There was no more awkward convo between us.
So that's a real example I suppose? Though I was still pretty young myself and it obviously wasn't sexual in nature it was more just a cute crush.
As now if it was to happen I would try to explain why I couldn't.
Ironically, the only females to not treat me like sh*t, or to even compliment me on my looks, have all been kids and teenagers. Which, as a non-pedo, non-sicko, does me no good. Some adults have not sh*t on me too, but they were gay men and "bisexual" women, which as a straight male, also does me no good.
So whenever this happens, I just ignore it like I didn't hear it, and move on. Pretend like she didn't say anything.
Lol! I love this song! And honestly I have always figured that this was the real reason why I ended up dating a girl so much younger then me. But I know that It is just a general danger that a lot of guys have to fight. I think now though that I would send her packing at this point.
If they don’t remember dial up internet, know how to change the tape for an answering machine, start a vinyl record, understand that Jason was the best Power Ranger in the original series, don’t remember Clinton getting impeached, and weren’t at least in junior high school at the time of the second World Trade Center terror attacks, then I’m sorry she’s probably a little young for me. If she could’ve been a student of mine she is definitely too young.
That depends on exactly how old she is and what country we're living in at the time. I have no moral qualms about having sex with a 16 years old, which is perfectly legal in most other nations.
IN some parts of South America it's still legal to marry a 14 years old woman and have sex with her.
I would be friendly, give big brotherly advice and support. Chat with them like they're not a dumb kid but avoid anything inappropriate.
It's an opportunity to influence them positively, just be careful about how people perceive the interaction.
On here though I kind of wish we could flag posts as adult only. I've been thinking of leaving the community for this reason.
If they kept trying to take things to an inappropriate place I'd have to cut them off though.
u I've experienced that before. I simply told her that, while I was very flattered, she was just too young for me.
thank her for the flattering that brings with it. then (when i was still willing to date etc) tell her to look me up when she's older (old enough) . now i just send her on her way no matter age etc or avoid that subject all together.
Politely but firmly rebuff her, I've had to deal with girls like that when I worked for a holiday resort company (in the mid 80's), and they think its a grand game until they get hurt, I always brought it to the attention of my bosses and security at the resorts so the knew what was going on and could keep an eye on those girls.
I'd switch on my phone video recording & tell her, "have a seat... your pedo sting operation ends now."
We used to say, “ Give her a quarter and tell her to call when she was of legal age!”
Since there isn’t pay phones anymore. I guess maybe now. Just give her a cell phone?
Um, you *do* realize that if anyone *where* taking her up on her shenanigans they wouldn't admit that here, right?
I have never ever met someone underage and did not know it. Kids that young just are transparent. Any guy who tries to say different and is at least 10 years older knew he knew.
Girls don’t make the first move on 99% of males.
Girls only make the first move on guys who are models, famous, or rich.
Since I am not a stunner, rich , or famous... ANY female who flirts with me is setting me up for something.
Online you just don't know. In RL there can be some hints and you can even beg for verification. I honestly would avoid her and send her back to whatever she came from.
There is not a huge diffence between a 16yo and a 18yo. No one mature that fast, unless some trauma; but the law is the law and freedom is sweeter than anything else.
It would be like this
https://www.youtube.com/embed/sI3DcFfvw4E
That hasn't happened to me since my late 20s, and when it did happen back then (starting when I was 18), I told them no.
