Do girls always wait for a guy they like to make a move?

[Anonymous]

Do girls make a move if they know that a guy is too shy/insecure/nervous to talk?

[CMeow]

It depends on whether or not she is shy also, and some other factors. When I was a teenager I was quite shy and I would always wait for the guy to make a move… because I was too nervous to make one.

HOWEVER, eventually I really started to like a guy who I was certain liked me too. We indirectly would make plans to see eachother by planning something for a group, and ultimately we got comfortable asking eachother to hang out just the two of us. We would hang out all the time one on one , but neither of us would do or say anything to cross the friendship boundaries. This went on for a painfully long time— let’s say 2 months.

Talking to him online, I finally admitted to him I was interested and he admitted he was also interested. I figured that by me making that move he would take it from there… but he was still too scared to kiss me or anything, even though he said he wanted to. We hung out a bunch more and eventually I finally made the first move to kiss him after realizing he was basically paralyzed from fear.

TLDR: even a shy girl might make the first move for you if you’re noticeably scared to, but it could take a long time for her to do so. Also, if you don’t give her signs you are interested she is even less likely to make a move. More often girls are used to the guy making the move and only take it upon themselves in unique circumstances

[NotTacocaT6969]

I will make a small move, or on other words make in incredibly easy for him to make a move.


For example, I’ll gladly be the one who calls him to ask if he’d like to hang out or be the first one to initiate a hug but I could never bring myself to make the first romantic move such as a kiss.


Except one time I misread body language, thought he was planning to kiss me and kissed him. We’re dating now, so I guess it worked out, but that wasn’t on purpose and was still SUPER embarrassing. 👀

[Softguy]

If the girl tells me kiss me now! I do it.

[Looksnicholas]

If they do, then I wish they could at least maybe offer some give and take, e. g. drop a hint, maybe actually be a little outspoken that yes they're single and yes they're talking right now as interest rather than polite conversation between strangers/just friends. Lol.

Sometimes a little two-way street is that so much to ask of human beings lol all this time, I never really understand that logic of why people aren't just', honest? 😃 Lol

[FilmGuy93]

Because the women have been raised to think the guys should do the chasing, and they are super shy themselves.

[Anonymous]

It depends, I went out with a guy a couple months back. I initiated the talking stage, he would then proceed to ask me out on dates because he knew i was interested and it wasn't a guessing game. The only difficult thing was, getting intimate, I would sense him getting nervous whenever he wanted to make a move. If this is your case it wouldn’t hurt to be honest and just be like you make me a little nervous, if anything that's so cute and would've melted my heart if the guy I went out with did this to me. If you don't, the girl may think you don't like her or aren’t looking to commit to her. You don't wanna give off the wrong vibes. Its okay to be shy/nervous and afraid but whats the worst that can happen? Rejection isn't that bad and it honestly happens to the best of us thats the only way to weed out the people that aren't meant for you.

I say, make the first move and communicate if you have trouble doing so. After-all, we aren't mind-readers.

[bubblegunnn]

I will make a move if i like him so much after he make a move first to me..

I would never start to make a move to a guy who i likes because i dont know his feeling towards me. I just dont want to feel like a clown after i make a move but instead he kinda act off to me lmao

[Anonymous]

I did with my first ex. It was clear he was into me, so I helped him along so to speak by asking him to be part of my project group in the class we shared in college, putting my number in his phone, and starting a text conversation. Then, he started asking me out at that point. When he told me "I don't know how to boyfriend" way at the beginning, though, I should have taken his word on that. He really did not know at all what it means to have a girlfriend. -__-

[Asker]

How did you know he was into you?

And what did he do that made him a bad boyfriend?

[Opinion Owner]

For one thing, he would get really nervous around me and I could see him visibly blushing. He wasn't like that around anyone else. As far as a bad boyfriend, he didn't show me the same respect and attention that he did my friends. In his mind, having a girlfriend was a check in the box, and from day one, he thought I was "too good" for him and that I was just going to leave anyway, so I don't think he put any effort in. I felt completely taken for granted.

[Asker]

Oh i see. So getting nervous made you realize he was into you?

[Opinion Owner]

Yep that was the main sign

[Opinion Owner]

oh lord just realized a typo— I meant to say that he never showed me the same respect and attention that he did to HIS own friends.

[Asker]

Oh alright

[Asker]

by the way would you ever ask a guy why he gets nervous if you realize that?

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't personally, it might make him more nervous

[bamesjond0069]

They usually never make a move under any circumstances. If they do, a "move" to them is saying "hi" or something very basic you're expected to jump off on. And generally you have to be hot OR rich. Girls don't make moves on ugly broke men. They do it because he's an easy target, either hotter and out of her league hot or rich and she wants a sugar daddy.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't wait for the guy to make a move but if he does not make a move I might never like him if he isn't my type or imagined date type.

[Vikkrram]

Buddy do tell us what's going on tell us your story.

[Asker]

Nothing really, there is a girl i like and she asks me why i get nervous. I feel like she knows why

[Vikkrram]

Sometimes you get too loud around her and sometimes too silent. Sometimes act confidentaly and sometimes nervous.

[pewter_moon]

Because the guy is waiting. They want to when the primal staring contest.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Yes! They need to make the first move. We look pretty they make the first move

[Midgetmcwidget]

Yes, we wait for a reasonable period then we give up but we never make the first move

[Vikkrram]

Why ma'am why girls don't make the first moove?

[_piotr]

@Vikkrram They are too full of themselves.

[Vikkrram]

@_piotr I wish they could have conveyed. I wish they could understand that every guy is different some guys are shy some aren't , some can't take a first moove.

[_piotr]

@Vikkrram I understand you. I wish the same.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Haven't you found another woman that does the first move? I had a girl (a friend's girlfriend) tell me and my friend that girls ask out if they like someone. So I do wonder if there are truly girls that ask out people.

[Anonymous]

Yes but there are things you can do to move him along.

[Asker]

Wdym move him along?

[Opinion Owner]

If I accidentally brush my boobs against his arm he will make a move.

[aaron210419]

Depends on the girl, but in general don't expect it.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Most women, yes. Once she gives you the sign she's interested, she expects you to move and talk to her.

[art84]

Depends on the girl if she knows the guy is shy and afraid and she makes the move first.

[Anonymous]

Yes, then they wonder why the guy they end up with just f***s and dumps her. 🤣🤣🤣

[Softguy]

I'm shy so I'm fucked

[Nikki1989]

Not always.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Can you be more specific and makes some examples please?

[In_Trance]

no they don't