Girls: Do you lose interest in a guy if he waits too long to make a move?

[whodunit29]

If so, how long can you wait before that guy makes a move? 2, 3, 4, 5? dates or hangouts? Guys: How long do you normally wait to make the move?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I don't lose interest. When I encounter a guy like that, I just become friends with him. Because I figure is he is too shy to actually make a move on me, then maybe becoming friends, will eventually let him make a move cause then he would be more comfortable, cause there is "no pressure" cause it's just a friendship. Sometimes that's how it ended up, lol! There were times when I thought a guy didn't like me, cause he didn't do anything, but then I became friends with him and hung out with him, and then like 3 months later, he finally told me that he likes me and wants to ask me out, but I am more of a hangout girl than a date girl. I don't really like dates, but I'll go on them, lol! I just would rather hangout, be friends first, get to know each other on a platonic level first. That's just my style, but it's probably frustrating, lol! I think that's why I have so many guy friends, cause I just become friends, haha!

[OpenClose]

I think guys, and many others, can learn to slow down and just appreciate friendships. It seems like people are more sparse friends these days.

In my experience (not that I can speak for women in any way), most women I've known build attraction when they are getting to know someone, like sort of a trust thing, or building attraction through emotional intimacy before sexual feelings emerge. I feel like I'm describing it wrong, because I sound like captain obvious.

But I feel like a guy's best shot at meeting girls is through friends and friendships, rather than cold-approaching complete strangers. She feels more comfortable, which makes her more expressive and also gives the guy much more wiggle room. That's generally been when girls have approached me.

But the friendship itself should hold more value as well. People actually there for each other and opening up to each other. For a lot of guys, that's something we could really use.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Exactly! You are so right! :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Oh and thanks @whodunit29 for the MH :)

[FierceMegan2]

Not always, no.

The problem usually comes when I am interested in one guy a lot, but this other guy that I am semi-interested in makes his move first.

I am obviously going to go with the guy that wants to be with me. If the Semi-Interested guy asks me first, I am going to go with him because I rather be with someone who wants to be with me too.

This is if I don't know the other guy is interested me.

[cavmanier]

Why don't you make a move on the guy you like?

[catguy]

so what if the guy you are really interested in reveals his feelings a bit after the semi-interested guy makes his move and you have gone out with him?

[FierceMegan2]

@cavmanier - I make moves back. If I smile and flirt with the guy and he gives me nothing back, then I think he doesn't like me. If the other guys flirts back with me, then I know he likes me. But if both guys are flirting with me, and I like one more than the other and the one I like less asks me out, I will try to procrastinate and try to drop a few more hints for the guy I like. Girls can't be too forward because it scares most guys, and most girls aren't risk takers.

[FierceMegan2]

@catguy - I would work it out in a way I could be with the guy I really want, and not hurt the other guys feelings too much. I can be swifty like that. :P

[lalalolita]

It depends on the guy and the situation. If it's some guy I met randomly and we don't really talk or see each other it will be over as fast as it started. If he's in my life more and keeps talking to me and hanging out and I really really like him I've waited quite awhile for things to happen, even months but it's always worth it :)

[TedStar]

I've waited everything for a few days to a few years. Once I like a girl the feelings will always be there. The feelings might get weaker as time goes by, but if I'm in a one on one situation with her that could reignite the flame. I waited 3 years for my first love. We met in the 9th grade and she really caught my eye. The relationship bug hadn't quite caught me so I just went my own way even though I had a crush on her. We went into different classes and didn't see much of each other outside of the hall way. In our final year we were both chosen as school prefects and because we were working together I really got to know her and eventually asked her out. That experience reminded me that I should never close that door of possibility. Just live your life and that extra motivation or courage may find you to finally make a move

[rjroy3]

I think they just put that guy in a friend box or assume he's not interested, because he didn't try at all to get in her pants. In a girls mind if he's not trying a little, then maybe he's just not interested like that. And that's a fair assumption.

[rjroy3]

Most girls want the guy to do the chasing.

[madsnike]

Well, tbh, if you know the girls likes you, and you definitely want to have a relationship, pull a move on the first one or second one. Any later and the girl will think your playing with her or not actually interested in her in other words, she will be so confused an want answers.

[Anonymous]

It depends for me. If he was asking me to hang out and we were spending time together I wouldn't mind if he wanted to wait a little.

But if we are talking and not at the spending time stage and he never takes it to the next level I would figure he wasn't interested. I would lose interest because of that, not because he needed more time or something

[ThatgirlYouhate]

Yes I do! I mean why come to me if u plan to lose me some time of my life. That's the type of boy who won't let you go because they don't want you to be court by others but won't make a move because they scared. Annoying ..

[Blondie195]

That depends on how interested I am in him. I was crazy about a guy last year and waited for ever for him to come around and eventually he did unfortunately he was a douche.

But for like a normal crush I would say a couple of weeks then I move on

[rgb008]

Yes I lose interest. I don't want to spend time trying to decide his behavior and if he likes me or not when I can be doing something else lol.
I prefer someone who can be straightforward with their feelings.

[zombiebabe]

of course! if your are sending him signals that you are expecting something back in return and that there's no move...then yeah I'll forget him and look for a more passionate guy

[moistycakes]

Yes I do. I start to think he's not interested and I move on. If he hasn't made a move by the end of date three I will be kind of put off.

[Anonymous]

It depends. Yes, if I'm sending him strong vibes and signals and he isn't making a move on it, then I'll get sad and move on. Once I move on, I never go back...

Other times, I'm unsure about how I feel even, so a longer wait wouldn't bother me.

[OldboyJon]

what do you consider VIBES? cause your females are never straight forward and those subtle hints like never workk haha

[Opinion Owner]

I talk to you a lot. I give you the sparkly eyes. I tell you you're cute/handsome/awesome. I ask you out to lunch. I might initiate body contact.

It's pretty damn obvious.

[Crazyced]

How does one make sparkly eyes?

[stillagoodgirl]

No I'd still like him but start to think he lost interest in me like maybe he changed his mind about me or found me boring

[meibay313]

If I like him, I make a move first if I cannot wait for him haha so... :P but yes, I may lose interest in a guy if he is too slow :)

[Anonymous]

I know that I lose interest after like 3-4 dates if he hasn't made a move or something. It makes me feel like he just wants to be friends and nothing more. Like if I like the guy, and he likes me back, I would like the guy to make a move sooner than date number 4 unless you both agreed to wait or something.

[emg1012]

Yes I don't want to wait around for some knee who does not seem like they are even interested in me.

[makenziemeg]

I'm a girl. Yes girls can lose interest. It depends on the girl. Sometimes it's good to make a move at the end of a first date, or wait til the end of the 4th. Depends on the person and how well you two connect.

[Hasabrain]

2nd or 3rd date anything after that would make me think you're not interested and I'd slowly give up.

[Anonymous]

Yes. If you're dating and you don't make a move in the first 3 dates I'm going to assume we are just friends

[tumblrgirl4963]

Yes I definitely will lose interest in him/try to get over him if he doesn't make a move within 1-2 months of my interest in him. That doesn't mean we couldn't be friends though.

[_brittish]

Yes I do, 4-7 dates is around when you should make a move! Definitely not on the first!

[Kcdt4]

Yes I lose interest if he waits forever, makes me feel like I am being played or hes not interested

[kitten5614]

No if she was interested before you make the move obviously she likes you for other reasons

[Anonymous]

Bro.. Sex isn't only what love is about. Just ask her after you get to know her. Its not that hard if you got respect for her :)