Girls, Do girls avoid talking to good looking guys?

[Anonymous]

I have been told by my people that i am good looking and have a good personality. Some assume that I might have a lot of girlfriends. But I dont even have a single female friend. If I talk to some girl, she seems disinterested from the very start & next time she sees me, she avoids and walk away. Why?

[SueShe]

I believe that it is the same thing as when men avoid to approach good looking women. Whatever defines a good looking person, it is a personal matter and is very subjective.

To me, a good looking person is not a person with facial features or a body that appeals. To me, it is a person that has a great number of other features that cannot be seen by looking at a person. Those would include (among others), character, personality, intellect and a good dozen other attributes.

Perhaps it is because people think that those men/women are unapproachable because of whatever reason. The one afraid to approach another person thinks that he/she is not good looking him/-herself, has flaws, is too short/too tall, is shy or introvert.

There are hundreds of reasons why someone will not approach or talk to someone of the opposite gender.

I do not approach men because in my age group, I am very well aware that a great number of them think that a woman approaching a man wants something from them.

[PrettyPriya]

Do you think they give you those crowns for being queen of downvotes? It had just occurred that could be a possibility.

I hope you are enjoying your week-end. We have very pleasant temperatures so we did sit outside in the garden earlier which was nice.

[SueShe]

@PrettyPriya Hmm, I don't think so because I should have at least 3 of those crowns every day and a trip to the Swedish store would not be enough to store them all.

Glad to hear that you had a warm day. I could use a few degrees more right now...

[AmyHew1tt]

I can't speak for other women, but when I guy I find attractive, I definitely don't approach him. Usually, because I expect he already has someone, worrying about coming off as desperate, or not feeling like I could measure up beside him. I don't see handsome men date down very often. If I did feel pretty enough to be considered, and he seemed at all interested, I could push back my social anxiety and speak to him. But it's hard enough trying to talk to an average-looking guy. Although, I have been working on it these last few years and can at least hold a semi-normal conversation with most human beings if I must.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Avoid talking to them? No.

Assume they're already taken, married, or not interested in me? Absolutely. I usually don't even try to flirt with a guy I deem as attractive, because as bad as it sounds, that's usually the case. So I go in with the assumption he's already taken or I'm not his type, and treat him like I treat everyone else: in a friendly, polite manner. Yes, I will talk to him and even be his friend.

It sounds like most women are intimidated of you because like myself they assume you're already taken or you're out of their league. It's NOT your fault! Just be friendly, polite, respectful, and talk to them. You don't have to flirt (unless you are attracted to someone). But show them that you're looking to get to know them better and see where it leads.

[Samarasaid]

Its cool you told him that

[Poliker]

To answer your question, yeah. I'd probably only talk to you briefly if my mutual friend introduced us and stayed the whole time. I do not talk to guys in general, but I try to. I do not really know lots of guys, but the ones I do know are like "hi and bye" friends. I am working on it.

[Rania05]

If a guy from my age group do approach me I'd hold a conversation normally, his looks won't matter and if his personality seems good and he shows interest in me I'd show the same regardless if he's attractive looking or average so the idea of avoiding dating good-looking people is very stereotypical and that's what occurs to my sister and she lost faith in guys after being victim to guys with this idea for years

[sarahsmile8839]

I don't avoid it at all. I'm flattered when a cute guy talks to me. But looks aren't the only important thing. A guy who seems interested in me as a person and just a nice guy will always keep me interested. A sense of humor is important too. If a guy cares about me outside the bedroom, he is usually great in the bedroom, no matter what he looks like.

[Justanswer90]

I would say yes, I tend to avoid looking at attractive guys, I'm just too shy to stare them and also they might think that im ugly and did not meet their standard so avoid looking at them. If you're attractive then yes there are chances why girls ignoring you 🤣

[Adaeva]

No! Of course not. Why would we? People will tell you what you want to hear and not necessary the truth. I don't know what you look like but being good looking is not your problem.

[naivetykills_you]

ofc not, especially aggressive ones (their numbers are increasing too nowadays). if u think she’s shy then she might like u. keep looking aloof, girls will flock. don’t be too friendly, some girls don’t like it. just be kind of friendly to the shy ones (esp if u like one of them).

[FreyaRed]

Even if you might think about yourself, you descended to us mortals from Mount Olympus. The truth is, they aren't interested in you.
If you're really hot, they just flock.

[Ndyaaum]

Depends on the female don’t always go by what someone said because most of the time it’s sexist generalizing women by what they see and think from the media

[Tina19]

I think insecure low confidence girls will definitely avoid you because they think you are out of their league so fear of rejection also there is this preconceived notion about attractive people that they are conceited

[Tina19]

Low confident *

[jennifer_bloom]

I avoid very high status guys unless they go out of their way to be humble and nice cause I assume they want to talk to more attractive girls.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

I won't talk to any good-looking guys because it seems wrong to me. What would my potato-looking ass look like talking to good-looking guys?

[DancingQueen16]

With crushes I've had in the past I've kind of avoided starting conversations them because I'm afraid of saying something stupid and embarrassing myself

[DesiUwU]

i do and don't? i dunno. attractive people scare me because i feel like lowly scum next to them.

[CrazyGirl2]

No, not at all! Why would anyone avoid GOOD looking guys?

[Anonymous]

lol some girls do get shy and I'm one of them, and it sucks. I wanna be able to have a conversation with anyone without being awkward or nervous.

[Sasha0426]

Yes! I haven’t been treated really well by attractive men. I’m honestly afraid of approaching them knowing how they won’t react very friendly.

[rienna888]

yeah i avoid them cuz theyr'e intimidating and a lot of them are kind of sassy

[Anonymous]

I don’t even approach guys that I consider to be ugly because I know that even they are out of my league. I’m not good enough for any man.

[Anonymous]

That looks like a phony picture, so I would avoid it.

[Anonymous]

Who were the people that called you good looking?

[Anonymous]

Yes, or well at least I do. I can't even look at a good looking man in the eye, I run away.

[Emilyis]

NO I don't! Why would I?

[CoolCatMar1]

No. I was never scared to do that

[melanieeeB]

No not at all

[Dinklex3]

No, lol.

[Anonymous]

Well, I do, most of them treat me shitty.

[Anonymous]

We avoid ugly , short, broke and overweight men

[sheikalana]

Nope.

[LavLavLuv]

Nope