Why are pick-me girls the way that they are?

[Anonymous]

The definition of pick-me: a woman who performs primarily and explicitly for the validation of men and kicks other women down in the process. Wants male attention and to compete with other women and win.

Why are some girls like that? Men, can you tell when a girl is like that and does it put you off or turn you on, or does it not affect you in one way or another?

classic pick-me behaviour: a girl puts down her friend in front of guys to look better by comparison. Or sabotages other women in order to be “picked” over them. Or will do whatever it takes to get the guy. Or will take crap from men just to keep them.

I have a friend who’s a pick-me, and she’s always bragging about being the “marriage type” while pointing out that her female friends are the “type that guys only want to sleep with.” She will do anything for male attention and competes with her friends.

[Biancam13]

That's usually a result of insecurity and internalised misogyny. They aren't confident in their attractiveness outside of their ability to be validated by men, and they aren't confident in their ability to attract men outside of bringing other women down by comparison.

[HighValue]

From what I have seen, the women that get accused of being "pick me" are the ones that aren't sexist against men and actually hold women accountable for immoral behavior and for their own decisions.

For example, if a woman agrees that a woman with a promiscuous past shouldn't expect to get a good high quality man, she will get accused of being a pick me because the women that are immoral and have a bad unacceptable past are angry that they don't qualify for those types of good men.

Example 2, if a woman agrees that when in a relationship she shouldn't be posting provocative/revealing flirty pictures online for likes and comments because that is being disloyal, she will get accused of being a "pick me."

Basically, it is usually women with good morals that think logically and don't hate men are often the ones that get accused of being "pick me" women.

[Asker]

That’s so untrue. Pick me women are women who actively have disdain for other women. There’s a difference between liking men and being a pick-me

[HighValue]

From what I have often seen online, the ones like I described are the ones getting called "pick me." So are the ones that admit that a woman's fertility and chances of having healthy kids greatly declines in their 30s, even though that is a biological and statistical fact. https://www.webmd.com/baby/pregnant-after-35

[BJP21]

Thats immediate disqualification in my book. Due to the fact she's all about status and is creating unnecessary competition to get ahead.

[Anonymous]

From a ve seen, the "pick me" type are the women who choose not to engage with man hating, and actually call out their own gender and hold them to account for poor choices not validate their stupidity. HighValue is right.

[Chthou95]

When a woman calls other women out for their bullshit, she's a pick me all of a sudden😂