Do you think it was very mean of boyfriend to write "leave me alone" when I asked if I could spend weekend rather than say I'm working over weekend?

[SakuraBlossoms87]

I've stayed with him when really no other women would. He is going through some very difficult times, barely communicates, etc. Whenever he does text it isn't necessarily nice per se - either critizing or like today what he said.

I've stayed because he's said he wants a relationship, invited me to a vacation, etc. He's trying. But at the same time I'm like what is there to this relationship. As said many women wouldn't have bothered.

And after 4 months of hanging on to treads to be told "leave me alone" when I merely asked if it was okay to spend the weekend was like a slap in the face. Particularly when he asked me to "promise" to do it... and then continued with "leave me alone".

He clarified after that he meant the weekend but I'm like, I'm done. He doesn't appericate me hanging on so why should I keep hurting myself and everything else for such a person.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I was about to ask you same thing you said at the end.
There's a reason no woman wants him, and it's not on you to be the one who does.

You don't owe him anything. No one does. His problems are just that, his problems. If he wants a relationship, then he needs to pull his head out of his ass and stop treating women like garbage. Leave him

[SakuraBlossoms87]

I did. Because I shouldn't still be so very upset hours after he said what he did.

It doesn't make it any easier because I thought there was a serious future with him. I truly did love him. I was trying soo, so, so very hard to make something out of nothing to be honest, he barely even texted good morning and whenever he texted it was like this or be critize or the like.

But to get "promise me" and "I want to be left alone" in response to asking if I could stay the weekend was just so, so, so mean. Everyone else would've said I'm working the weekend.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I'm sorry he did this to you, you don't deserve to feel like that

[SakuraBlossoms87]

Thank you & no I don't.

It'll take some time to get over it. Now I know what heartbreak is all about unfortunately. Over someone that never did deserve half of the effort I put into him.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Exactly. It's his loss

[SakuraBlossoms87]

Thank you.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

No worries. Best wishes

[BrookeAZ90]

You've been patient with this for far longer than he deserves. You need to do what is best for you and makes you happy and that sounds like getting rid of him.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

I did. And I said very bluntly if / when he gets married to make sure that he gets a prenup. His potential income is over 100,000 but I couldn't have cared if he made 30,000 a year.

The reason why I said prenup is if he treated any other woman as he did me, she'll take his money in divorce and run unless she's a fool.